What Makes A Good Man?

[gleb]

This topic has been one of my main contemplations for years. So many archetypes and nuance. Some key characteristics I can share as I walk to the gym:
 

• Purpose driven.
• Non-reactive when appropriate. Enough emotional reasoning to decide when to ignore the pull and when to submit to feelings. Tip of the iceberg. So many offshoots to this law. 
• Honest and authentic. Charm stems directly out of this. Charm can effectively be called lying with the intention of being caught. 
• Strength - physical and mental. No real reason to be weak in either category. 
• More. 

Masculinity often defines itself in the context of a group. How you interact with other men and women shapes your brand of masculinity  

All these peak masculine traits are sharpened by learning from other good men. Almost impossible to polish without positive role models or conscious action. 

Spending time with women helps a man understand yin and rounds out the edges. Also helps you get laid. 

[ivankiss]

His mind is cleaver and sharp, his heart is wide open and warm, his body is strong and healthy.

[ivankiss]

His mind is slow and limited, his heart is shutdown and cold, his body bares the wight of his pain.

[LastThursday]

To improve on my previous effort: a good man reduces the suffering of those around him.

[UnbornTao]

He can go out of his way!

Edited January 31, 2023 by UnbornTao

[Carl-Richard]

Integrity, in every sense of the word.

Edited January 31, 2023 by Carl-Richard

[Mz Hyde]

2 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

Don't overthink this with your nondual God-logic.

I don't think that line of reasoning has anything to do with "nondual God-logic". Average person from USA is going to have a radically different view on this matter than an average person from India for example. Questions like that can be answered only within a certain frame of reference.

I personally don't think about "good" or "bad", as characteristic of a person, but rather their actions. I believe that everyone is fundamentaly good. That begs the question: Why than people behave in ways that are hurtful for others or themselves? I believe that's because those people are themselves hurt (but does that makes them bad people??).

So than, lets put it this way: people who got through their healing process and therefore are aligned with their core authentic self (which is by default good).

[Leo Gura]

3 minutes ago, Mz Hyde said:

Average person from USA is going to have a radically different view on this matter than an average person from India for example.

Not as much as you think.

[Mz Hyde]

56 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Not as much as you think.

Western societies have strong individualistic culture with a very specific set of values that is very different from collectivistic eastern societies and their values.

That was just an example, not the point of the post..

Edited February 1, 2023 by Mz Hyde

[Michael Jackson]

A man can never be good.

[Osaid]

-Emotional mastery

-Unafraid to exercise their authority when necessary

-Uses their strengths to nurture those around them, which creates a positive symbiotic relationship instead of a parasitic one

-The ability to stay consistent and determined

-Independent and self-sustaining

-Doesn't require an external authority to push them into doing what they need to do, they already have their drive and motivation figured out internally so that it doesn't need to be delegated to other people

-Reliable and credible, no excessive trickery or deceit

-Taking responsibility instead of shifting blame

-Being direct 

-A keen ability to discern deception from truth. Not getting sucked into games and trickery.

 

[Moksha]

A good man knows who he is and who he is not. He trusts his intentions. He places himself neither above nor below others. Serving them is the same as serving himself. He lives unconditionally and unapologetically. His value is realized within, and is unswayed by people's opinions. His work flows from him like the rain of a ready cloud. His rest returns the rain into the sky. He is not magnified by life, nor is he diminished by death.

[Tudo]

39 minutes ago, Moksha said:

A good man knows who he is and who he is not. He trusts his intentions. He places himself neither above nor below others. Serving them is the same as serving himself. He lives unconditionally and unapologetically. His value is realized within, and is unswayed by people's opinions. His work flows from him like the rain of a ready cloud. His rest returns the rain into the sky. He is not magnified by life, nor is he diminished by death.

Nice post.

[MichaelJohn]

A good man accepts life for what it is while also pushing ahead to make everything more perfect.

A good man accepts himself.

A good man looks to be as honest as he can.

A good man balances himself.

A good man looks internally before outwardly.

A good man chooses his battles with great consideration.

A good man makes the constant, conscious choice to be a good man.

A good man opens himself up to pain, frustration, loss, devastation, etc., as he knows running is a choice that leads to the unconscious living of his future self.

A good man loves.

[hyruga]

A good man plans and does noble work.

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Why is the title for Man only? Why not for a Good Human Being/Person/Lady? Well I guess it will get more clicks.

Fundamentally, I think there's not much difference between a Good Man and a Good Lady, just that man has bigger responsibility to protect and improve his society.

Edited February 1, 2023 by hyruga

[CARDOZZO]

• Stoic.
• Responsible for all around him and beyond. (Protector of Humanity)
• A warrior on the garden.
• Anima X Animus Integration.
• Physical/Mental/Spiritual/Emotional Strenght.
• Desire for being men for masculinity itself. (Checkout "On Being a Man - Eben Pagan aka David De Angelo).
• Mentor of other men.
• Think daily about his death. (Memento Mori)

[The Mystical Man]

2 hours ago, Mz Hyde said:

Average person from USA is going to have a radically different view on this matter than an average person from India for example.

What makes a good man is universal, or archetypal. 

[Willie]

1. Have a penis.

2. Be a good person.

.......3? Identify as a man.

What makes a good person?

Well-developed spiritually, mentally, and emotionally. No denial or repression of “undesirable” characteristics. Physically well-developed is a bonus. Has a good balance of masculine and feminine energies and knows when a situation calls for more of one or the other. 

[Sash]

A great man is he who, slowly and patiently cultivates love, so that when the time comes to do the scary thing which is to answer the call, he can do so without fear.

[Salvijus]

One who serves the truth, not the dictatorship of the ego.

One who listens to the voice of love instead of judgement and fear

Basicly a fully awake enlightened master with full embodyment ? 

Everything that is good, holy and beautiful comes from god. So in some way a man would need to be aligned with that force we call god to be an extention of the good, holy and beautiful itself.

Edited February 1, 2023 by Salvijus