Feeling empty after sex

[bambi]

I have POIS and was a sex and porn addict, ignore anyone who doesnt have these issues they'll mislead you, go off your direct exprience.

The pain and suffering I endure directly and causally related to sexuality is incommunicable. This isnt some placebo somatic style thing. I am absolutely fucked within minutes of orgasm, and have a dense ball of pain in my third eye chakra that systemetically icnreased in the first 5 minutes after orgsasm that takes weeeks/months to heal

 

If I don't masturabte for 6+ months, I start to sleep well, all my gut issues heal, and this dense pain in my eye brow melts away. Its that simple. If I think about pornography I get an isntant shoot fo pain to my chakra. It is what it is, theres hudnreds of guys who do semen retention who have the same issues from porn and sex addiction.

During my 20s I could watch porn and masturbate twice a day and sleep with 50+ girls a year with 0 seeming issues, and then I broke down beginning of my 30s.

Ignore anyone who says they can do x amount of y behaviourand be unscathed as though this is any justification to abuse sense pleasure. There a limits to everything

 

[ItsNick]

Maybe repressed/supressed emotions come up after orgasm?

I noticed that after healing a lot of trauma my sexual experience is more deeply sensual and I have no problems after orgasm.

[StarStruck]

6 minutes ago, bambi said:

I have POIS and was a sex and porn addict, ignore anyone who doesnt have these issues they'll mislead you, go off your direct exprience.

The pain and suffering I endure directly and causally related to sexuality is incommunicable. This isnt some placebo somatic style thing. I am absolutely fucked within minutes of orgasm, and have a dense ball of pain in my third eye chakra that systemetically icnreased in the first 5 minutes after orgsasm that takes weeeks/months to heal

 

If I don't masturabte for 6+ months, I start to sleep well, all my gut issues heal, and this dense pain in my eye brow melts away. Its that simple. If I think about pornography I get an isntant shoot fo pain to my chakra. It is what it is, theres hudnreds of guys who do semen retention who have the same issues from porn and sex addiction.

During my 20s I could watch porn and masturbate twice a day and sleep with 50+ girls a year with 0 seeming issues, and then I broke down beginning of my 30s.

Ignore anyone who says they can do x amount of y behaviourand be unscathed as though this is any justification to abuse sense pleasure. There a limits to everything

 

So what changed in your 30’ies? Did you libido change or your recovery period?

[Kshantivadin]

3 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

Unrelated issue.

Dude, I've been cumming since I was 14.

I can cum three times in a row and I have more energy than before.

I didn't say it's related, but with all respect, your bias towards disregarding retention/celibacy is kinda sus 

Edit: Where do you think all the cum comes from? 

Edited January 27, 2023 by Kshantivadin

[Leo Gura]

3 hours ago, Waves said:

@Leo Gura From what you've shared and by looking at what you've been able to create so far, you seem to naturally have exceptional amounts of creative/sexual energy.

For a lot of us: we nut = we tired

I don't think I'm too special in this area.

3 hours ago, Hercolubus said:

Are you absolutely sure it's unrelated? Have you tried white tantra, karezza, semen retention and transmutation? Maybe the problem will go away. 

It won't go away. It's related to autoimmune condition.

Not jerking off makes me feel worse. It's an epic distraction. I am too busy to be thinking about sex all day.

40 minutes ago, Kshantivadin said:

I didn't say it's related, but with all respect, your bias towards disregarding retention/celibacy is kinda sus 

Cumming is a healthy thing. Turning it into some evil just doesn't make sense.

3 hours ago, bambi said:

I have POIS and was a sex and porn addict, ignore anyone who doesnt have these issues they'll mislead you, go off your direct exprience.

The pain and suffering I endure directly and causally related to sexuality is incommunicable. This isnt some placebo somatic style thing. I am absolutely fucked within minutes of orgasm, and have a dense ball of pain in my third eye chakra that systemetically icnreased in the first 5 minutes after orgsasm that takes weeeks/months to heal

This is not normal at all. Some kind of health condition.

Which is why I said look into your health.

[bambi]

18 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

I don't think I'm too special in this area.

It won't go away. It's related to autoimmune condition.

Not jerking off makes me feel worse. It's an epic distraction. I am too busy to be thinking about sex all day.

Cumming is a healthy thing. Turning it into some evil just doesn't make sense.

This is not normal at all. Some kind of health condition.

Which is why I said look into your health.

What could it be, Im 35, after 2-3 years of cocaine escorts porn stars etc I started gettign anxiety and not feeling good and my mind was obssessed with sex, did my first vipassana retreat and now I have this ball of pulsating energy in between my eye brows that is only realted to sexuality, nothing else. If I dont do sexuality it gets better, if I do sexuality _at all_ it gets worse, and theres forums of guys onlne with the exact same symptoms.

 

The universe doesnt want me having porno style sex anymore thats for sure lol

[Someone here]

It's obvious . Semen is energy .it contains high amounts of nutrients like Protein and Zinc and minerals etc.  When you ejaculate you are losing energy . However this is only temporary.  You should recover in a matter of two days max. Recharge up your battery by eating foods with high nutrients and sleep . Do some exercises like push ups. This should make you recover quickly .

 

[something_else]

1 hour ago, Someone here said:

It's obvious . Semen is energy .it contains high amounts of nutrients like Protein and Zinc and minerals etc.  When you ejaculate you are losing energy . However this is only temporary.  You should recover in a matter of two days max. Recharge up your battery by eating foods with high nutrients and sleep . Do some exercises like push ups. This should make you recover quickly .

 

Semen has like 5 calories and 200mg of protein per average ejaculation. You are losing as much energy and nutrients as a would be in like 5 cheerios.

[Someone here]

@something_else dude.. I'm not Gonna argue about these niggly little details .

Honestly , I don't care about these medical "facts" about semen .

What matters to me is direct experience.  And my direct experience Is that I feel like  shit when I fap . Should I trust my direct experience or you ?

[Vlad_]

17 hours ago, Osaid said:

Like, do you feel fatigued? Brain fog maybe?

 

I just feel like I was deceived by my desire and nothing happened. 

[Vlad_]

16 hours ago, mr_engineer said:

@Vlad_ How much do you care about her experience? 

From what I've seen, if you're having sex for the pleasure, if the pleasure is the only thing motivating you to have it, it will not fulfil you. Simply because pleasure is not happiness.

• Pat yourself on the back for seeing this, first and foremost.
• Then, stop chasing sex for a while. 
• These are the symptoms of a sex-addiction. Heal it like you would heal any other addiction - by working on the trauma you're using the addiction to run away from. 
• Keep doing this, until you discover yourself deeper in a sexual context. Specifically, who you are as a giver of sexual pleasure. 
• Then, seek out a compatible partner and commit to her. 

I'm not a sex addict. The last time I had sex was a year ago  But when I do have it, it always the same. I get excited thinking how awesome it would be to have sex with her and then nothing. 

I care a lot about her experience, but in the end I feel like I gave more then I got. 

[vladorion]

According to Taoism, semen contains a lot of what they call jing energy.

"Jing energy is the deep foundational energy reserves of the body and it is this energy that determines one's ultimate vitality and the quantity and quality of one's lifespan. Jing energy is precious and has long been recognised as a “treasure” that needs to be nourished, protected and preserved."

When you're ejaculating you're just dumping this precious energy.

I personally found that if I go too long without ejaculating I experience a sort of energy stagnation, the energy builds up and kind of sits there which doesn't feel good. Ejaculating too much just feels like shit. Once or twice a month is good but it's going to be different for different guys.

[Vlad_]

15 hours ago, Roy said:

Sit there and cuddle with your girl, they want that.

More often then not I don't even want to stay with her in the same bed. I want to leave ASAP or do something else. 

[Vlad_]

16 hours ago, vladorion said:

You can also learn to orgasm without ejaculation.

Is it even possible? Do you know how? 

[Vlad_]

11 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

One healthy solution to this I found is to not see your girlfriend too often. Once a week, or even once a month will keep the sex exciting. If you have sex many times per week you will burn through her quickly. The problem isn't that it's the same pussy, but that you use it too often.

Of course porn is a nice way to get that variety in between your girlfriend.

I don't think it's possible to find a high value girl that would agree to meet a few times a months or maybe that's just my assumption. 

[Vlad_]

11 hours ago, mmKay said:

Vr headset ?

Then what would be the point of having a girlfriend ? 

[Vlad_]

11 hours ago, StarStruck said:

You can do tantra, having sex without reaching the animal orgasm, tantra is a much deeper and satisfying experience which will build deeper relationship with your partner. If you orgasm all the time, you will lose your spark very quick unless you are a teen and horny as fuck. Tantra provides a solution but a sacrifice is needed: having sex from your higher being instead from your animal self.

Also cutting out porn will help. Porn and such are programming your mind to desire variability. Because of porn you become like an animal wanting to spread your seed. Back in the day (ask old people) they didn't have porn and they would just do it with one partner their whole lives. I know old people who only had 1 sex partner and when I ask them if they feel like they missed out on something they will say no.

 

Bro that's what I'm aiming to. I've been trying to quite porn for the last few years. I used to watch it 5 times a day and now I got to the point when I watch it only a few times a week. But still I want to cut it off completely

[Vlad_]

7 hours ago, integral said:

Why would I ever have an orgasm? It represents the end of sex. 

I don't think I would be happy without sex. It sounds more like a torture 

[The Mystical Man]

3 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

Turning it into some evil just doesn't make sense.

There's no greater evil than cooming. Don't you dare touch yourself. God will throw you into hell.

[Leo Gura]

3 hours ago, bambi said:

What could it be, Im 35, after 2-3 years of cocaine escorts porn stars etc I started gettign anxiety and not feeling good and my mind was obssessed with sex, did my first vipassana retreat and now I have this ball of pulsating energy in between my eye brows that is only realted to sexuality, nothing else. If I dont do sexuality it gets better, if I do sexuality _at all_ it gets worse, and theres forums of guys onlne with the exact same symptoms.

The universe doesnt want me having porno style sex anymore thats for sure lol

You got some very unique condition. Sorry, no idea how to make sense of that.

3 hours ago, Someone here said:

It's obvious . Semen is energy .it contains high amounts of nutrients like Protein and Zinc and minerals etc.  When you ejaculate you are losing energy .

I don't buy it. You shit out more nutrients every day than that. The human body is not so frail that a thimble of cum will weaken it.

You can go to the doctor and draw a whole cup of blood and feel no worse.

Your body is always producing sperm. Old sperm must be destroyed and re-created every week even if you don't use it. The raw nutrients needed to create sperm are minimal compared to how much you eat.

Edited January 27, 2023 by Leo Gura