How Do I Focus On My Own Needs And At The Same Time Help Others ?

[nick96]

I read that it is through focusing on his own needs and desires that a person is able to help and give others the most and create authentic contact with them.

I really do not understand how this can be true. 

What do you think ?

 

[egoeimai]

The best thing you can share with others is your happiness. 

Everything else is none of your business and you're unable to give.

I think that this theory you read about means the following: If you're at your best,you are an ispiration to others too,so you're helping others randomly. But even If others ask you to help them,you cant actually do this. So you dont help,but inspire others.

[Nahm]

It's like how the flight attendant tells you to put your oxygen mask on first, and then your kids. 

Or, if you have a goose that laid golden eggs, which would you take the best care of?

You can't give what you don't have.

If you want to experience love, you must love.

[Shin]

When you focus on being the best version of yourself, you find your authentic passion.

It's not that you can't help people if you don't take care of you, it's that you'll be able to help/influence/inspire way more people by doing the thing that's most authentic to you.

You can only do that if you decide to kill your current version of you, to be the unknown and true you.

That is scary, and no one will help you to do that but yourself.

 

Edited March 5, 2017 by Shin

[99th_monkey]

focusing on your own needs  if done from the correct view will dissolve them.  leaving space available for others. needs are like math problems. they're not truly fulfilled or answered, they're made irrelevant (or balanced out)