Nofap And The Effects Of Porn, Masturbation And Abstinence

[InternetPoints]

5 hours ago, Clunkky said:

How long will it take my erectile dysfunction to go away if I do no fap or no porn? I recently had a partner and could not get it up due to my excessive porn use and consumption.

It depends upon for how long and much you have overdone it. And probably other variables that nobody can really tell you the answer to that question. 

 

[Samir]

@Sarah_Flagg Sarah I agree for most of your points and I say this because of my personal experience. Watching porn has given me so much knowledge about sex and to know women better when it comes to their sexuality and more importantly as you mentioned to know my self better. However, it's so hard not to become addicted. I'm not sure maybe there are men who can control it and watch it in the modern way but for me as a single man it's so hard to miss even one night and to go to bed without watching it, that why I find this a big issue.

[Sarah Marie]

@Samir I can totally see what you're saying here. For me that isn't an issue and it might be a difference in sex drive or the fact that I am married. But I would have to watch myself if I felt me slipping into an addiction, specially because I have a very addictive personality.

[Psychonaut]

I started my my nofap journey 4 weeks ago.

Lasted 2 weeks, then I got into a situtation where I always masturbate. Well I thought, can do it once no problem. Had lots of fun.

Anyhow I went without masturbation for a few days. Then started again at random times. Couldn't really enjoy it, because I didn't really want to do it. 

I had a massive change of surroundings in week 4, removed the bad feelings about masturbation and fell into the same routines. Everything the same. Not as extreme as when I initially stopped but I see it going the same route within 1-2 days from today if I continue.

This PMO thing has a very addictive personality for me.

For me the main points that make it an addiction are:

• The effects are very short lasting and totally not worth the effort. Not worth the effort searching for new and exciting porn. Not worth the effort to even watch the porn. Not worth the effort to spend time masturbating to it.
• It has severe negative effects. I become more perverted because I will masturbate to everything and anything. Random girls I found attractive on the street. Always searching for things to get me off. Girls notice it, I become a freak and a pervert. The absolute worst thing is that by watching the porn I watch I have changed what turns me on. This is really sad. Things that other people find sick and would even kill and rape me for have become okay and normal. 
• I continue to do it even though I know it's damaging. Like the smoker that knows that he's going to die. It is so dumb. It is so unbelievably dumb I can't believe I am doing it. When I want to stop and I do it again I feel bad about it. 

At least I know how addiction feels now and by labeling something as bad it doesn't really help to quit it. I guess I can feel more compassion towards smokers. I still don't know how to help them, but at least won't tell them stuff that I now know doesn't help. Guess I have to start again. No relapses allowed no matter the cost. 0% PMO.

[Falk]

On 7.3.2016 at 4:41 PM, Love said:

I started my my nofap journey 4 weeks ago.

Lasted 2 weeks, then I got into a situtation where I always masturbate. Well I thought, can do it once no problem. Had lots of fun.

Anyhow I went without masturbation for a few days. Then started again at random times. Couldn't really enjoy it, because I didn't really want to do it. 

I had a massive change of surroundings in week 4, removed the bad feelings about masturbation and fell into the same routines. Everything the same. Not as extreme as when I initially stopped but I see it going the same route within 1-2 days from today if I continue.

This PMO thing has a very addictive personality for me.

For me the main points that make it an addiction are:

• The effects are very short lasting and totally not worth the effort. Not worth the effort searching for new and exciting porn. Not worth the effort to even watch the porn. Not worth the effort to spend time masturbating to it.
• It has severe negative effects. I become more perverted because I will masturbate to everything and anything. Random girls I found attractive on the street. Always searching for things to get me off. Girls notice it, I become a freak and a pervert. The absolute worst thing is that by watching the porn I watch I have changed what turns me on. This is really sad. Things that other people find sick and would even kill and rape me for have become okay and normal. 
• I continue to do it even though I know it's damaging. Like the smoker that knows that he's going to die. It is so dumb. It is so unbelievably dumb I can't believe I am doing it. When I want to stop and I do it again I feel bad about it. 

At least I know how addiction feels now and by labeling something as bad it doesn't really help to quit it. I guess I can feel more compassion towards smokers. I still don't know how to help them, but at least won't tell them stuff that I now know doesn't help. Guess I have to start again. No relapses allowed no matter the cost. 0% PMO.

I also had a "relapse" or backfall in the first 2 weeks. It was a special event and i drank alcohol (even thou i usually never do, not anymore since at least 4-5years) and after that! i went back to porn. Maybe it is the same for you? So a solution maybe to not drink ^^ If that´s not the reason then still: no problem ..falling back is a challenge to ask yourself how did it happen? it all started with ..opening your browser didnt it ^^ so : take internet free days! also watch your inet behaviour. unplug the router if you feel you might watch porn soon ^^ just install mini-barriers for yourself to make it hard for the porn-watcher to have access to porn. i went on crazy porn-journey / fapping sessions ...4-5h at best and now i havent visited a porn-site in 8 weeks ... I think i mainly watched porn because i felt alone and i wanted to feel good, but i realised i can´t get there by watching porn ...i need to change my life, become ceo of this shit!! change stuff, work on my issues, get out! get fit! eat good...everything ..there is a lot to DO!! WORK!! you have to not only stop watching porn but also start to fix the deeper issues! you wanna get aweseome? Get to work! you have two hands ^^ ...not like that thou ^^ 

 

[Andrew]

Hi Everyone 

I wanted to share in here a well known NZ olympic runner has spoken out about his struggle with Porn addiction so I wanted to share the following links 

http://fightthenewdrug.org/what-it-means-to-be-pro-sex-and-anti-porn/ 

http://makelovenotporn.com/pages/landing

thanks 

Andrew 

[Mppdidi]

Hey everybody,

 

i was thinking about why do men produce millions of sperms ? In the end only one egg and one sperm is needed. Can you instruct your body and brain to produce less sperm and reroute the rest of the energy for something else that useful for yourself ?

 

All the best

[FirstglimpseOMG]

This is certainly interesting.

I have views on all of this 'keep your hands off your dick' stuff.

I shall list a few;

First of all, it's my dick, and I'll play with it if I want, you do what you like with yours.

The 'shoulds' and 'shouldn'ts' in this thread are hilarious, so funny and weak that it's not even annoying, (but pretty entertaining).

The only time I have ever purposely not masturbated it was likely for about 3 days, and that was just to get the orgasm intensity back up to that, 'God I'm horny and if I so much as look at it too long I'm going to pop.' feeling. 

Sometimes I've noticed that a masturbation session is more of a distraction than a healthy release, and I crank one off anyway. Doesn't feel as good, but it sure ain't bad.

The only disappointment, regret, or negative thing about masturbation for me personally is if it's a before bed session and I fall asleep before I finish. The next morning it's like "Man, ... again?" (Well, it's going to be a fun morning.)

My personal  belief is that good porn, like anything else, is pretty awesome, in moderation like anything else. Someone above mentioned learning about intimacy and sensuality through porn. No you didn't. The last thing most mainstream pornography is about is intimacy, sensuality or the art and joy of sex. Most mainstream porn is a crass, pathetic, transparently commercial, poorly acted farce masquerading as titillation for the masses. I have better things to do (and watch) than a pair of actors concentrating mostly on the most minimal skin contact in order for the viewer to see the body parts in action without a person getting in the way. My impression of much of the amateur video available on those free upload sites, is that it is much more authentic and genuine, therefore for me more interesting and arousing.

My personal view on the 'get more girls and have more sex by not enjoying your own body' thang? ..Ugh, if you are so weak and inhibited socially that the only way you get off your ass and out of fantasyland and go interact with the opposite sex to see what it's all about, maybe bet lucky or at least learn something, is when you are so sexually repressed and desperate that you can barely think of anything else? Well, firstly, how's that working for you, and secondly, you certainly have my sympathy.

'How's my way working for me then, smartypants?', you ask?

Well, I just sent the neighbour home with her panties in her purse, a big smile on her face, and the thought, 'I hope there's a 'next time'!

And yes, it's all going into the wank bank.

[Sri McDonald Trump Maharaj]

Just try it.................

[Hunter Arrington]

On 2/8/2016 at 1:35 AM, Leo Gura said:

This makes no sense from a biological perspective.

All our closest ape cousins jerk off and have sex incessantly.

Your body produces sperm regardless of if you jerk off or not and then expels it through your urine if you don't use it. It's not like that sperms stays in your nuts for a month.

Sexual release is healthy for the organism. Now... perhaps not 12 times per day, lol.

"Stays in your nuts"...shit's hilarious. Finding a girl who does that to you on a regular just for the purpose of maintaining minor regular sexual release, as opposed to you jacking yourself off, reminds me of some roman sex orgy stuff. . . and is ideal! 

[Grka]

I am really convinced that alot of men on this forum (even om the others, heck, in real life also) are like kind of dudes who jerks off couple times a day. 

I know I was.

When I'm writting this I'm on day 35, it's sunday,  and you, Leo, haven't uploaded video yet, and it's half past 8 AM ;). 

Anyway...

Benefits from nofap are real. If you jerked off 5 times a day for years, then yeah, that is a problem for you.

Point of nofap i reboot, and alot of you forgot that...

No man is healthy or on a good way If he can't control his d*ck (sorry, girls)

After you are rebooted (and It can take even whole year for someone) you're back on the track, meaning,  you do nov have urges to fap, to porn, or to watch pics of that hot girls tits on instagram (don't lie to me! I'm a male also).

 

You will feel better and really be able to do many amasing things with sex. 

And you can  ejaculate,ofcourse, but after you aren't addicted. 

Capishi?  ? 

Edited January 22, 2017 by Grka

[Deep]

I used to watch porn more often in the past. As my awareness increases, I don't have any desire to watch. I would rather be the one having sex.