Night game day 2 devastated and suicidal

[Antor8188]

@Leo Gura Went to a Mexican night club approached 11 girls 10 rejected only one danced with me.  My 2 friends didn't approach anyone but after the party ended the girl who rejected me asked for a lighter from my friend and she was flirting with him non stop and also asked him to come home with her. She was fat and very average. Another girl started talking to the same friend and asked for his number and she was super drunk.( I never approached her though) another Mexican girl was approached by the same friend and she was a solid 9/10 and she immediately gave him her number after he asked for it.  All of this happened outside of the club after it closed. Feeling really inferior and hopeless now please give me some advice. 

[Something Funny]

@Antor8188 some random girls not liking you doesn't mean anything about your value as a person. You being less sexually attractive than your friend doesn't mean anyhting about your value as a person.

These are just 3 silly mexican girls, who cares about them. There are sure to be girls on this planet who will find you more attractive than your friend. If you happened to run into those 3 girls instead would this mean that your friend should now feel inferior to you?

Just keep working on your skills. Don't worry whether any particular girl likes you or not, worry about you liking yourself and being proud of yourself for overcoming your limitations and doing what's right.

Edited January 21, 2023 by Something Funny

[Something Funny]

@Antor8188 Also, focus on the positives. You went out to a night club and approached 11 fucking girls. That's amazing! I've never done this because it is so fucking scary.

And one of them even danced with you. Just think about it, there was one girls who found you attractive enough to dance with you! This means that there are girls who like you. You just need to keep going so that you can meet more of those and improve your skills so that you can convert this initial attarction into sex, dates, and relationships.

Think of it this way. If a girl agrees to dance with you than she already likes you and is not repulsed by you or anything like that. It's like there is a potential attraction energy in the air. Like a gold laying under the property that you own. Now you just need to develop skills to be able to use this potential attraction and convert it into something real. You need to buy some drilling equipment to excavate that gold.

[Leo Gura]

Man, it don't mean nothing. Just keep going out building your skills. Stop comparing yourself with others.

All you gotta do is keep going out and don't even think of quitting. There will be bad nights, there will be good nights.

Edited January 21, 2023 by Leo Gura

[Majed]

@Leo Gura leo is it adequate to pause pick up to build a solid survival foundation then come back ? 

 

[mmKay]

Good work! All part of the learning curve. Keep at it. 

If you've never went home at night sobbing and hyperventilating you haven't started learning game ?

[Kshantivadin]

50 minutes ago, Majed said:

@Leo Gura leo is it adequate to pause pick up to build a solid survival foundation then come back ? 

 

yes

[Fadious]

@Antor8188 

Wow, I am truly inspired by your bravery to approach so many girls in one night. It takes a lot of courage to put yourself out there and it's not an easy feat. You should be proud of yourself for taking action and making progress.

I know it can be scary to put yourself out there, but you are doing an amazing job! Keep pushing yourself and don't be afraid to step out of your comfort zone. You are on the right path and I believe in you. Keep up the great work and I wish you all the best in your journey. You got this!

[Leo Gura]

1 hour ago, Majed said:

@Leo Gura leo is it adequate to pause pick up to build a solid survival foundation then come back ?

How could it not be?

Do things in whatever order your life requires.

Edited January 21, 2023 by Leo Gura

[koyadr3]

3 hours ago, Antor8188 said:

Another girl started talking to the same friend and asked for his number and she was super drunk.( I never approached her though) another Mexican girl was approached by the same friend and she was a solid 9/10 and she immediately gave him her number after he asked for it.

Maybe because of preselection?

[Bando]

9 hours ago, Antor8188 said:

Went to a Mexican night club approached 11 girls

Good do that again, handling insecurities, limiting beliefs, learning how to build a "dgaf attitude" is much more rewarding than getting a phone number or a lay.

Getting good with women, counter intuitively doesn't come from learning what tactics or words to use in a certain senerios, its by overcoming so much of your own bs you ooze a relaxed authentic aura which women will be drawn to.

Remember pick up = self-Improvement, lays are fine but the real juice is the person you become one you build good social freedom 

[Karmadhi]

Also consider doing some daygame. If you are more introverted or not very good looking it works better than night game.

Daygame is less looks focused and less extrovert focused than nightgame.

Also no bullshit friends to cockblock you and the approach can be a lot more natural and genuine. 

[Raze]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DHfAMh6Edm4

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JPCU03Dp8Zw

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ddfiZXyLM2Q

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BlMfJU2mATY

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y9ALIRDr5_w

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ovS27WQU5-g

[vindicated erudite]

On 21/01/2023 at 9:19 AM, Antor8188 said:

@Leo Gura Went to a Mexican night club approached 11 girls 10 rejected only one danced with me.  My 2 friends didn't approach anyone but after the party ended the girl who rejected me asked for a lighter from my friend and she was flirting with him non stop and also asked him to come home with her. She was fat and very average. Another girl started talking to the same friend and asked for his number and she was super drunk.( I never approached her though) another Mexican girl was approached by the same friend and she was a solid 9/10 and she immediately gave him her number after he asked for it.  All of this happened outside of the club after it closed. Feeling really inferior and hopeless now please give me some advice. 

Men offer, women choose - humans are a female selective species and thus you failed when you tried to approach women. IT LITERALLY IS NOT YOUR FAULT THAT THOSE WOMEN COULD NOT SEE YOUR VALUE. Don't believe these Jordan Peterson style copes about dating that "Dating is unfair but it's your fault" all this is gaslighting. 

The best thing you can do as a man is to looksmax and achieve status through socialising.

Game is bullshit, I'll get banned from this site saying this but it's true regardless.

[mr_engineer]

@Antor8188 A similar thing happened with me. I got 10 rejections and then, a fat girl signalled to me that she wanted to talk. Her friend-group had open body-language, which I could tell by the orientation of their feet. 

What this essentially showed me is that the previous 10 rejections weren't personal. Because none of these girls knew a single thing about me. And yet, purely at random, some were down to talk and some weren't. 

Don't compare yourself to your friends. You have different lives. And, sometimes, when you're walking down the street and you pass by a couple, try to listen to what they're talking about. 99% of the time, it's trash! Sometimes, I'm envying the guy from afar and then when I get closer and hear what they're talking about, I stop envying him. My point is that they have lower standards, so they settle for stuff you won't settle for. 

[something_else]

22 minutes ago, vindicated erudite said:

Game is bullshit, I'll get banned from this site saying this but it's true regardless.

What do you think are the important aspects of attraction is then, if not your charisma?

[vindicated erudite]

5 minutes ago, something_else said:

What do you think are the important aspects of attraction is then, if not your charisma?

Looks, height, ability to provide security, respect, emotional stability, access to resources. 

Also if a woman is open to a relationship or not (with anybody).

Edited January 31, 2023 by vindicated erudite

[something_else]

21 minutes ago, vindicated erudite said:

Looks, height, ability to provide security, respect, emotional stability, access to resources. 

Also if a woman is open to a relationship or not (with anybody).

My best friend in school was a mentally unstable, 5ft5 Bangladeshi guy from a low-income family. He got laid like 5x more than me when we went off to uni. He had an entitled alpha energy and exceptional social skills (basically, he had great game) that made him amazing with women. I always think about him when I hear people talk about how personality doesn't matter. He's the epitome of personality getting you further with girls than looks and money.

I don't doubt that those things you list play a part, but I think you undervalue the role your charisma and personality play. Women go for guys who stimulate emotion within them. Having money or good looks is one way to do that, but having game is another.

Edited January 31, 2023 by something_else