First night game

[Antor8188]

@Leo Gura Me and my 2 friends went to a nightclub for the first time. I approached 10 girls asking them if they wanna dance all of them said no.  One girl I offered to buy her drinks she said sure then she danced with me and her friend took her away.  Where did I go wrong?

 

[RedLine]

Who teach you that "asking them if they want to dance" is a valid opener? It is not. 

[petar8p]

1 hour ago, Antor8188 said:

@Leo Gura Me and my 2 friends went to a nightclub for the first time. I approached 10 girls asking them if they wanna dance all of them said no.  One girl I offered to buy her drinks she said sure then she danced with me and her friend took her away.  Where did I go wrong?

 

First of all, congrats!! ??

 

The most important thing is that you started. To answer your question "Where did I go wrong?" 

 

You gone wrong first of all expecting and thinking that doing this first time ever is gonna bring you results. You're just barely testing the waters. 

 

How did you feel making those approaches? How did you make them feel?

[Leo Gura]

3 hours ago, Antor8188 said:

@Leo Gura Me and my 2 friends went to a nightclub for the first time. I approached 10 girls asking them if they wanna dance all of them said no.  One girl I offered to buy her drinks she said sure then she danced with me and her friend took her away.  Where did I go wrong?

You probably went wrong in your overall vibe, tone, facial expression, body posture, and energy.

Usually you don't ask girls in a nightclub to dance with you as the opener. That is too big of an ask when she doesn't even know you. Instead just talk to her for a while first and then rather than asking her, tell her: "Let's go dance, I'll bring you back to your friends in a minute."

Don't worry about dancing. Focus on making a playful connection with the girl with your face.

Edited January 14, 2023 by Leo Gura

[Antor8188]

@petar8p I felt amazed because atleast I took the risk to approach 

[Leo Gura]

@Antor8188 Good work! The first 100 approaches at the cringiest.

[Antor8188]

@Leo Gura best openers at nightclubs?

 

[Antor8188]

@Leo Gura if I was extremely attractive like a 9/10 don't you think girls would have danced with me immediately?

[Emrie]

On 15/01/2023 at 7:19 AM, Antor8188 said:

@Leo Gura if I was extremely attractive like a 9/10 don't you think girls would have danced with me immediately?

By "extremely attractive" do you mean what you would consider good looks?

If, so the answer is no. It's all about how you carry yourself. If I carry myself well I can be attractive to people, and if I carry myself badly I'll be unattractive to them. I still have the same body and the same looks, though.

Having good looks *might* help your confidence but I'd say work on that instead of looks.

[something_else]

On 15/01/2023 at 6:19 AM, Antor8188 said:

@Leo Gura if I was extremely attractive like a 9/10 don't you think girls would have danced with me immediately?

If you are good looking but you make a girl feel awkward or uncomfortable when you go and talk to her she is still not going to dance with you.

A lot of really good looking guys have natural confidence from their looks which is actually what benefits them so much, rather than just being good looking in and of itself.