Related to the Monarchy Prince Harry Last post on Leo gura Blog

[Rafael Thundercat]

This is related with this last post from Leo's blog about The current Prince Harry Book and The Old Institution of Monarchy. Is maily about the sentence  below:

Prince/King Charles is so spoiled that he has servants prepare his toothbrush every morning by squeezing toothpaste onto it for him with white gloves. I couldn't make this shit up! Just imagine what kind of rotten ego that must lead to. 

The post is this: 
https://www.actualized.org/insights/royalty-monarchy-is-toxic


And my take is this:

I have one friend from my past that was deeply addicted on cocain. One day with tears on his eyes and rage on his face he said: I blame my parents for all this that is happening to me!!

I said: Why? 

Because they since young dosent matter what shit I do they never told me to stop!! They never punished me!! They ruined my life for letting  me go with anything  I did. 

So what to do if your son  start showing signs of being an ungreatefull idiot?  I was a teen and I know I could be like this if I would let go unchecked. 

So, How to deal with a child early enogth to avoid that he become the future Andrew Tate in the news? 

This mother from the story bellow found a way. By doing exactly what her 14 years old boy asked. 

________________/____________________________

 

I know this sounds bad but let me explain a little. I (35F) have a (14M) son. I do everything I can for my son and make sure he has everything he needs. Lately he has been acting out a little at home and school so I decided to sit him down to try and figure out what was happening.

He is my only child and his dad and I are still together. I tried to sit him down and ask why was he acting out. I was concerned if maybe it had something to do with myself or his father but he wouldn’t budge. I asked him was there any issues going on at school because if there was I would be more than happy to help him. I was scared there would be bullying at his school and I was prepared to transfer him to another school if necessary. He said there was no bullying and he had no issues he just felt like “14 year olds should act out a little”. I told him his behavior was not allowed in my house. His behavior consisted on swearing at myself and his father, swearing at his teacher and much more. I tried so hard to discipline him as much as possible. So here’s where the issue started.

After a little fussing with my son he said “my life would be better if I didn’t have a mother.” I was extremely hurt. I said “okay.” And went on with my day. I prepared dinner for myself and his father. Not for my son. When my son smelt food he came downstairs and asked where his was. I responded “I made dinner for myself and your dad. Since life is easier without a mom there’s some heatable food in the freezer.” My son went absolutely crazy. He stormed to his room and did not come out until today morning. Normally I would take him to school but today I did not. He came downstairs expecting his breakfast that I make for him every morning but there wasn’t any. He said “where’s my breakfast?” I responded, “your mother would normally do that for you. But if life is easier without one you’ll need to prepare your own breakfast. Also take the bus to and from school.” After a few swears he made himself some cereal and took the bus. I suppose my son called his grandmother ( my MIL) about this and I received many many calls saying I was a horrible mother, that I’m starving my child and I’m being petty. I thought this was a good way to discipline my child and make him grateful for everything he has. I’m starting to think I messed up. So AITA

Edit for info: later today when he gets home from school I plan on sitting him down to have a conversation that what he said really hurt me. I do not plan to bring up the fact he called my MIL. I have never hit, scream, or swore at my child I would never do this

Edit 2: my son had a half day so I texted him asking if he would like me to pick him up or the bus. He texted back saying he wanted me to get him. So I did. In the car he immediately apologized for what he said and he said that his friends were acting out so he wanted to fit in. His friends got suspended today for something they did and they wanted my son to join. My son did not and he said he was sorry for how he was acting. I also apologized for my actions.

Edit 3: I wanna say thank you all very much for your comments! When my son got home he cleaned his room and even offered to help with dinner to learn to cook. In only a few hours our relationship has gotten better and our communication has gotten better!

Edit 4: regarding my MIL: she actually found this Reddit post ( not sure how ) and she is currently blasting me all over Facebook and numerous social media. All is well with my son. We are working on talking about our issues and he has agreed he would start therapy. Those who say I’m “abusing” my child have never seen real abuse that children are actually faced with. My son is safe and well taken care of. Anyways, thank you all for the love!

So, compassion is nuaced. 

Edited January 13, 2023 by Rafael Thundercat

[Danioover9000]

@Rafael Thundercat

28 minutes ago, Rafael Thundercat said:

This is related with this last post from Leo's blog about The current Prince Harry Book and The Old Institution of Monarchy. Is maily about the sentence  below:

Prince/King Charles is so spoiled that he has servants prepare his toothbrush every morning by squeezing toothpaste onto it for him with white gloves. I couldn't make this shit up! Just imagine what kind of rotten ego that must lead to. 

The post is this: 
https://www.actualized.org/insights/royalty-monarchy-is-toxic


And my take is this:

I have one friend from my past that was deeply addicted on cocain. One day with tears on his eyes and rage on his face he said: I blame my parents for all this that is happening to me!!

I said: Why? 

Because they since young dosent matter what shit I do they never told me to stop!! They never punished me!! They ruined my life for letting  me go with anything  I did. 

So what to do if your son  start showing signs of being an ungreatefull idiot?  I was a teen and I know I could be like this if I would let go unchecked. 

So, How to deal with a child early enogth to avoid that he become the future Andrew Tate in the news? 

This mother from the story bellow found a way. By doing exactly what her 14 years old boy asked. 

________________/____________________________

 

I know this sounds bad but let me explain a little. I (35F) have a (14M) son. I do everything I can for my son and make sure he has everything he needs. Lately he has been acting out a little at home and school so I decided to sit him down to try and figure out what was happening.

He is my only child and his dad and I are still together. I tried to sit him down and ask why was he acting out. I was concerned if maybe it had something to do with myself or his father but he wouldn’t budge. I asked him was there any issues going on at school because if there was I would be more than happy to help him. I was scared there would be bullying at his school and I was prepared to transfer him to another school if necessary. He said there was no bullying and he had no issues he just felt like “14 year olds should act out a little”. I told him his behavior was not allowed in my house. His behavior consisted on swearing at myself and his father, swearing at his teacher and much more. I tried so hard to discipline him as much as possible. So here’s where the issue started.

After a little fussing with my son he said “my life would be better if I didn’t have a mother.” I was extremely hurt. I said “okay.” And went on with my day. I prepared dinner for myself and his father. Not for my son. When my son smelt food he came downstairs and asked where his was. I responded “I made dinner for myself and your dad. Since life is easier without a mom there’s some heatable food in the freezer.” My son went absolutely crazy. He stormed to his room and did not come out until today morning. Normally I would take him to school but today I did not. He came downstairs expecting his breakfast that I make for him every morning but there wasn’t any. He said “where’s my breakfast?” I responded, “your mother would normally do that for you. But if life is easier without one you’ll need to prepare your own breakfast. Also take the bus to and from school.” After a few swears he made himself some cereal and took the bus. I suppose my son called his grandmother ( my MIL) about this and I received many many calls saying I was a horrible mother, that I’m starving my child and I’m being petty. I thought this was a good way to discipline my child and make him grateful for everything he has. I’m starting to think I messed up. So AITA

Edit for info: later today when he gets home from school I plan on sitting him down to have a conversation that what he said really hurt me. I do not plan to bring up the fact he called my MIL. I have never hit, scream, or swore at my child I would never do this

Edit 2: my son had a half day so I texted him asking if he would like me to pick him up or the bus. He texted back saying he wanted me to get him. So I did. In the car he immediately apologized for what he said and he said that his friends were acting out so he wanted to fit in. His friends got suspended today for something they did and they wanted my son to join. My son did not and he said he was sorry for how he was acting. I also apologized for my actions.

Edit 3: I wanna say thank you all very much for your comments! When my son got home he cleaned his room and even offered to help with dinner to learn to cook. In only a few hours our relationship has gotten better and our communication has gotten better!

Edit 4: regarding my MIL: she actually found this Reddit post ( not sure how ) and she is currently blasting me all over Facebook and numerous social media. All is well with my son. We are working on talking about our issues and he has agreed he would start therapy. Those who say I’m “abusing” my child have never seen real abuse that children are actually faced with. My son is safe and well taken care of. Anyways, thank you all for the love!

So, compassion is nuaced. 

   Good post. My two cents about Leo's post: People deserve, whether they are born into positions, or worked towards positions of power, they deserve what they want for themselves, regardless of the objectivity of these positions being petty or selfish. Based on their stage of development, cognitive and moral development, personality typing, ego development, life experiences and other lines of development in areas of life, ideologies indoctrinated into you from upbringing and culture, down to your genetics and hardwiring and body/mind psychosomatic composition, these individuals still deserve whatever series of thoughts, series of words, series of actions, series of habits and series of tendencies they have, aka their karma and samsara they're going through. That's also not to say that that development is capped for some at that level, they can still have inner growth.

   Leo's blog is okay, but it's just relative, because some people are at predominant stage blue with some at stage orange values, their cognition and way of thinking is that more material success and acquisition of luxury and physical goods, this extrinsic value and external motivation is better than internal motivations and have a more binary thinking of good/bad, a more limited circle of moral concern to their family and social circle, or sometimes it's just their family and themselves, some are impulsive or opportunist ego stage of development, so to them it's valuable to either be born or work towards positions of power, and don't have the normal person's life experiences, maybe they're middle low to low class, with other lines of development like finance, career, business and commerce, health and fitness, relationships and intimacy, leisure and entertainment, home environment, some are below the average living person's lifestyle, maybe a few areas are higher but at the expense of another area being lower for the higher development. Even self bias and ideology play a role as well, yes this is my biased take on the blog post, it's too simplistic and makes Harry out like some honorable whistle blower, whilst not mentioning possible biases and prejudices and possibilities that actually, Megan was manipulating Harry to come out with this book? What about Harry's military programing and comments about the Taliban? Sure, Royalty sucks, but also being poor in a 3rd country sucks, and also having mental disorders living in a 1st world democracy sucks especially if it makes you a bit too abnormal, also many other developmental challenges that can factor in and make the whole blog post a bit simplistic and too bold and rushed with it's spiritual and metaphysical claims of the Royalty should or should not exist. It's existence is God's and the Devil's design, FOR A VERY GOOD REASON. It's like a more cleverly worded hit piece and tabloid take in of itself, which is fine. 

   Like, I can complain and demand that video games are evil and should be extinctic and not exist, but I'm appealing to GOD to make my demands real, and maybe I'm overstepping on a VERY GOOD REASON WHY IT EXISTS?

[Rafael Thundercat]

@Danioover9000 true, if it the instituition get extinct it had a good reason to become defunct. 

A funny question for you, and to be clear I am not mocking, I am just curious. When you write like ...

"Based on their stage of development, cognitive and moral development, personality typing, ego development, life experiences and other lines of development in areas of life, ideologies indoctrinated into you from upbringing and culture, down to your genetics and hardwiring and body/mind psychosomatic composition" 

Do you write this by memory or you have a copy paste ready for everytime you post.

I mean, is true, there are those and many other causation factors to how,why and when someone be the way they are. GeneKeys,HumanDesinf,Horoscope,Eneagram,Kabbala...

Do you constantly see everything in this multi-lense perspective that is reflected in your writing? I mean, this is gift, Some people barely know anything about their Horoscope.

Edited January 13, 2023 by Rafael Thundercat

[Danioover9000]

@Rafael Thundercat

47 minutes ago, Rafael Thundercat said:

@Danioover9000 true, if it the instituition get extinct it had a good reason to become defunct. 

A funny question for you, and to be clear I am not mocking, I am just curious. When you write like ...

"Based on their stage of development, cognitive and moral development, personality typing, ego development, life experiences and other lines of development in areas of life, ideologies indoctrinated into you from upbringing and culture, down to your genetics and hardwiring and body/mind psychosomatic composition" 

Do you write this by memory or you have a copy paste ready for everytime you post.

I mean, is true, there are those and many other causation factors to how,why and when someone be the way they are. GeneKeys,HumanDesinf,Horoscope,Eneagram,Kabbala...

Do you contantly see everything in this multi-lense perspective  that is reflected in your writing? I mean, this is gift, Some people barely know anything about their Horoscope. 

   Nowadays it's mostly from memory and habit. In the past I used to write far lengthier posts with much more detail based on the user and the thread topic, but that took 30 minutes to sometimes an hour or more to think through, which sometimes can make me a little bit mentally tired to paraphrase always differently, so I ended up writing that way above, consistently, to cut corners for my thinking.

   I try to see everything through a multi perspectival lens, but I'm not perfect as I also have my preferences and biases too.

   I've also dabbled with horoscopes as well, native American astrology too, and when I learned about the Loci method a few years ago, a method of memorizing from a Greek philosopher using spatial awareness, I used my backyard and associated each image of the zodiac to each part of the garden, which helped me recall some details of each sign's meanings, and even though it's been a couple of years if I went to my garden and did the process, I could recall so much meanings from the zodiac signs I have imposed, that each image has it's animals in movement, interacting with it's pair doing something interesting. sometime with a third object or other objects I imagine into the scene, all in 3rd. I also tried to make the numbers and dates interesting too, but it seems on just the explicit details I lag a bit, so I'm left with approximating the dates and number values.

[Rafael Thundercat]

@Danioover9000  I am saying this because I have a friend from Poland that was always inviting me to do something she called Matrix Reading. And she is actually similar to you in the way she speaks. Impossible to describe he but she have this practice and of course her studies and plant medicine journey helps lot to enter in the field of the other and bring up stuff to them about them, naturaly, just front to front asking question and catching glimpses.

I think is the practice from the link below. At least from what I read resembles how she explained the process.

https://lifehereandnow.co.in/workshops/soul-matrix-reading/

Have you ever heard about it?