Girlfriend gets in the way of getting work done

[Tyler Robinson]

I wouldn't want a relationship where my partner doesn't give me space to do my work. 

 

My work is my number one priority. 

 

I don't like such people and such relationships that become all consuming. 

 

 

[John Paul]

1 hour ago, Leo Gura said:

Living together is only gonna make you two hate each other soon.

What if I’m the Buddha?

[Leo Gura]

3 minutes ago, John Paul said:

What if I’m the Buddha?

Why do you think the Buddha left his wife?

[John Paul]

6 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Why do you think the Buddha left his wife?

What if I’m Jesus?

[Leo Gura]

If you're gonna live with a girl I'll tell you this right now: You are never Awakening.

[John Paul]

22 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

If you're gonna live with a girl I'll tell you this right now: You are never Awakening.

So?

[Joel3102]

2 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

Tell her to move out.

Don't allow distractions like that. Your space is divine and should not be given up for any girl.

Living together is only gonna make you two hate each other soon.

If you love a girl, the best way to ruin it is to see her too often. And everyday is the worst.

This is very true. Ironically Once you live together you fuck way less, because attraction goes down so much. 

[Hello from Russia]

1 hour ago, Leo Gura said:

If you're gonna live with a girl I'll tell you this right now: You are never Awakening.

What if it is a hot witch girlfriend (wife) who is into psychedelics and shaman stuff?

Edited January 12, 2023 by Hello from Russia

[Fuku]

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[Juan]

1 hour ago, Leo Gura said:

If you're gonna live with a girl I'll tell you this right now: You are never Awakening.

Lol I visualize Leo at a wedding making this objection.  “Enough! Yo’ ain’t gonna awake bruh!” 

[Juan]

1 hour ago, Leo Gura said:

Why do you think the Buddha left his wife?

Edited January 12, 2023 by Juan

[Adam M]

@Leo Gura agreed

[yetineti]

@Leo Gura  What are your goals with women if living with one is a ‘hell no?’

Personally, I like the idea of having a girl that’s ‘mine’, but also almost entirely agree that living alone is the move, and I would just to get distracted with a girl.

What is your middle ground?

Do you consider relationships or anything long term?

[Greatnestwithin]

1 hour ago, Juan said:

Lol I visualize Leo at a wedding making this objection.  “Enough! Yo’ ain’t gonna awake bruh!” 

Please don't follow advice of someone who isn't in a long term committed relationship and working towards enlightenment. Or someone who barely allows for intimacy in his life.

Leo can express himself very confidently but that doesn't make him right in everything he says.

 

It is absolutely possible to have an intimate and awesome relationship and work your way towards awakening. Although it is much harder than to go to the mountains and isolated yourself.

[Juan]

@Greatnestwithin Chill dude. 

[NoSelfSelf]

@integral If a person needed to be said what to do on a job all the time wouldnt that person get fired?

[vladorion]

29 minutes ago, Juan said:

@Greatnestwithin Chill dude. 

He's right.

What Leo describes is an avoidant attachment style.

Edited January 12, 2023 by vladorion

[lostingenosmaze]

1 hour ago, Greatnestwithin said:

Please don't follow advice of someone who isn't in a long term committed relationship and working towards enlightenment. Or someone who barely allows for intimacy in his life.

Yeah man, like of course someone who rejects/transcends their humanity would say stuff like that.

[Subtlety]

She sounds a lot like my brothers ex... Did your GF have a very absent father by chance?

[Michael569]

I've lived with a girl for about 8+ years and let me tell you i wouldn't have it any other way. I absolutely love sharing our lifes together and the moments have been through will be what I'll remember when I'm dying on my deathbed.

First of all I agree with guys who say that it may slow down your progress if your aim is ultimate spiritual awakening. That's very possible, you may need to live alone for that. It may even mean you are done with dating, having a lot of sex with other women and doing pickup. Are you okay with that? Is it trade of you are prepared to take?

I don't see myself achieving ultimate awakening probably ever and I'm fine with it. Achieving high level of personal development, financial independence, great health, a healthy family and strong alignment with my life purpose is perfectly enough for me. I always wanted to have a family and if I'm lucky at least one kid. I'm gonna need a girl to live with me to do that ?

So you gotta return to what you actually want. Why did you let her move in in the first place? You have to understand that this is what many women are like. They like attention, distraction, fooling around and constantly desiring your time. But you know what, sometimes that exactly what you need and sometimes that's what makes a difference between a miserable day and an acceptable day, especially when you're having a really bad time at work or professionally. 

+ Bonus you get to have all the sex you want without needing to swipe Tinder, pay expensive dates, try to compete with other guys and do all the things guys do to get girls. I think a sexually satisfied guy is more productive guy.

With time, the two of you will learn to accept each other's boundaries and how to navigate the living together state. And from that really healthy and mature relationship can grow. Give her time and she'll learn the rules of the game and you'll learn the rules of her game. It's also important that you help her find a purpose of her own, so she feels like she can actually channel her energy towards something for me and my partner, this was a significant step forward. It's unlikely she will find that for herself.

But if it really bothers you and you cannot tolerate it, then break up with her or tell her you want to leave alone, but expect that such decision will significantly impair the health of your current relationship as she'll probably take it as a slap across the face and a betrayal - your choice. 

I would also suggest you consider rereading David Deida's book to better understand why she is the way she is. She is an emotional creature living for the moment and your relationship is significantly more important to her than to you. 

Edited January 12, 2023 by Michael569