I am afraid being in a relationship

[evgn]

Why i am so fucking afraid of being in relationship? I am fucking scared and have extreme anxiety it feels like i am in prison and dont have control over my future it drains my energy. 

That was the reason to broke up with my dream girlfriend 6 months ago who loved me like no one else before. The girl wasn't obsesive or anything like that she was supportive and understood my issue....

I realized since i am not able to be with my dream girlfriend i am doomed to be signle...

[Raze]

Get ifs therapy 

[Lyubov]

Firstly you are the creator of your own emotions, not the victim of them. So you are creating fear, it’s not just happening on its own terms even if it may first appear that way. 
 

So now that we have acknowledged that let’s ask ourselves WHY we are choosing to create the fear. What beliefs do you have here ? 
 

why do you believe you don’t have control over your future?

why do you believe you are doomed to be single ?

 

[integral]

Anxious avoidant attachment style or Independent attachment style? 

Edited January 2, 2023 by integral

[puporing]

On 1/1/2023 at 7:21 AM, evgn said:

feels like i am in prison and dont have control over my future it drains my energy. 

Prob coz most relationships are practiced like a prison? To varying degrees lol.

But.. I guess some are more sensitive to this than others.

Edited January 3, 2023 by puporing

[egoeimai]

I'm also super scared of intimate sexual based -committed -long term relationships.

[universe]

Interesting, how was the relationship between your parents when you grew up?