Is there any way to make learning game work in a smaller city?

[Davidess]

I'd really like to learn game, but the problem is that I live in a small city of 90k people. 

I'm a guy, 20 y.o., studying at university unable to move out to a bigger city because I don't have the money yet and I'm still dependent on my parents. I'll finish my degree at 26 y.o. and I don't want to wait till then... (I'm studying medicine which takes 6 years, I'm from central Europe)

Day game is really difficult here because there aren't much girls around, especially nowdays, when people are off school, during Holidays. 

Night game is an option, but the thing is, how am I supposed to make this work? The night clubs are really crowded and there are usually 15 people per square meter (which I view as a lot) and I have no chance to isolate a girl and most girls are with their friends -> I find it awkward to talk to a group of girls because how am I gonna justify it to them? When I'm talking to a single girl I can just tell her that I like her, but to a group? I can't just tell that I like a single girl, or can I?

Is this how nightclubs are in other cities? Crowded, you can't see your own feet... I find it to be not a good place to meet girls, since most girls are with guys or came to have fun with their friends, but the thing is, what else is there? Nothing really in my city.

I'd appreciate your perspective on this, whether I'm missing something or just overthinking and whether I should go to clubs more often. Not learning game is not an option for me.

[Leo Gura]

The more crowded the better.

Edited December 28, 2022 by Leo Gura

[Davidess]

Oh, really? Then I might try something today, really push myself.?

[Lyubov]

In general it’s just inefficient. I’m not saying you can’t make it work but it is what it is. Don’t use this as an excuse to not try and make your situation better where you are but also be realistic about your current surroundings. Nothing wrong with moving if you believe it will help you grow and improve with women.

[Karmadhi]

Dude you dont need to do game if you are a university student. Just be social at university, dont be a book nerd that studies all the time.

Go to university events, join clubs, go to parties, talk to people in class, talk to people in campus etc.

SOOOO MANYYY ways to meet people at university, no need to do the classic pickup on the streets or in nightclubs.

I do not know how university is organized but just try to be social and active in the university life. You will meet tons of people and will get chances to go out with girls based on that.

 

[something_else]

I live in a 90k-ish town too, it has a couple night clubs. It’s also a university town.

Traditional daygame where you camp out on the high street and approach 20 girls a day is generally a bad idea because you’ll build up a reputation real quick. But don’t hesitate to talk to some girls you see if they’re cute and you have decent social skills

Night game is super viable though. Super crowded night clubs seem to be common in smaller towns because you have the entire population of people who wanna party crammed into one or two smaller club venues at weekends. But counter-intuitively busier clubs are good for you if you are shy or not that confident. You can just blend into the crowd. You also have plenty of people to talk to.

And also take advantage of every opportunity uni gives you to meet people. I didn’t do that while I was at uni and I really regret it now 

I will also say that I live a 20min train ride from a 600k pop city so I go out a lot there too and it’s noticeably better, it’s easier to find people you get along with cos there’s just more varied people. Smaller towns tend to be slightly more cliquey. In the 90k town I start to run into the same people a lot after a year or so of going out there

[Davidess]

Report of the night: I went to a nightclub by myself and was there for 3 hours. Approached few girls, talked to them for a bit and then backed off, since I had nothing more to say I and I didn't want to be awkward. I was walking through the nightclub back and forth and an older woman (in her 30s/40s) approached me and told me that I can join her group because she saw me walking alone and I was not in the mood. Kinda interesting ?. Was I that awkward? Met a few people I know from high school I went to, year younger. At first I felt uncomfortable, when I talked to girls I felt the urge to ask them logical questions. It showed me potential how much I can improve my game. 

Thanks guys for points of view. Actually, the Uni I go to is not in my home town, it's 30 minutes away by train. It's a larger city of 240k people. But now for 6 weeks I don't have school, just exams.

I really can spend more time socialising at Uni. That's a good idea.

I'll try to do my best with what I have.

[something_else]

12 minutes ago, Davidess said:

Report of the night: I went to a nightclub by myself and was there for 3 hours. Approached few girls, talked to them for a bit and then backed off, since I had nothing more to say I and I didn't want to be awkward. I was walking through the nightclub back and forth and an older woman (in her 30s/40s) approached me and told me that I can join her group because she saw me walking alone and I was not in the mood. Kinda interesting ?. Was I that awkward? Met a few people I know from high school I went to, year younger. At first I felt uncomfortable, when I talked to girls I felt the urge to ask them logical questions. It showed me potential how much I can improve my game. 

Thanks guys for points of view. Actually, the Uni I go to is not in my home town, it's 30 minutes away by train. It's a larger city of 240k people. But now for 6 weeks I don't have school, just exams.

I really can spend more time socialising at Uni. That's a good idea.

I'll try to do my best with what I have.

You’re in a pretty similar position to me. Just go out in both the uni town and the smaller town 

[StarStruck]

You can learn game in a big city and do game in a small city. 

The thing is that you need to burn a lot of ships in the beginning to be able to learn. 

[The0Self]

On 12/28/2022 at 3:09 PM, Davidess said:

I can't just tell that I like a single girl, or can I?

Talk only to the girl you like and ignore the others. This usually will not work but quite often it does and in that case you saved a ton of work. If it doesn’t then apologize and introduce yourself to the rest as needed — it will be clear at that point that you like the one particular girl. Isolate the girl and deal with objections from her friends as needed in a patient and fun way. Always address noncompliance with a glance and/or vibe and/or words that confidently (and playfully) convey something to the tune of “Why you being weird?” Just an unwavering straight line to your goal, as if you had narcissistic personality disorder; as if you were unable to even conceive of the idea that the girl doesn’t want to sleep with you. Before you get the hang of it, it seems pretty fucking weird, but that is indeed what gets you laid.

Edited December 30, 2022 by The0Self

[LordFall]

Why are you not on dating apps/IG? You can expose yourself to all the single girls in your area that are looking to fuck/date someone right now. 

On 12/28/2022 at 3:09 PM, Davidess said:

Night game is an option, but the thing is, how am I supposed to make this work? The night clubs are really crowded and there are usually 15 people per square meter (which I view as a lot) and I have no chance to isolate a girl and most girls are with their friends -> I find it awkward to talk to a group of girls because how am I gonna justify it to them? When I'm talking to a single girl I can just tell her that I like her, but to a group? I can't just tell that I like a single girl, or can I?

Is this how nightclubs are in other cities? Crowded, you can't see your own feet... I find it to be not a good place to meet girls, since most girls are with guys or came to have fun with their friends, but the thing is, what else is there? Nothing really in my city.

Night game is extremely tricky. What you described is traditional club game. You're basically supposed to yeah approach a girl, isolate her by dancing with her somewhere and ramping out the tension to the point where you can kiss her and/or move her to another bar/venue/food/your place. It's extremely hard if you don't have wings to do it with or if you don't have the personality type for it. 

My favorite is places that are more like outdoor strips rather than just a single crowded venue. With different patios, clubs, parks, food stalls, etc nearby, much more fun. Or I like playing more the social circle game and having booths at megaclubs but if you're in a small town you won't have that. 

If your small towns has a lot of tourism then it can be just as good as a bigger city. If it's a uni town it's also easier. If demographics are bad, your family is from there and there are few tourists then I would just focus on online game and getting better at social media game in general. Make funny tiktoks that are college vibes and when you go back to your uni town you'll literally get fangirls.