Chasing versus being chased, in dating

[StarStruck]

I’m at a point that I don’t even chase 6 and 7’s. I have enough options so I make it clear to them that they have to chase me if they want to make a chance.  Few do and few don’t. That is all fine. 

But I’m really interested in the 9’s and 10’s and I chase them but they never chase me back. Does this mean I’m not attractive enough for them? If I compare myself to guys who date top shelf I don’t really miss a lot. Perhaps my confidence, dance skills etc could improve. 

My question is, do 8 and 9 chase guys after meeting them during night life? To be honest, my game sucks. I’m lousy and lazy. And I don’t want to chase the top shelf girls. But now I’m kind of insecure and I have FOMO. I’m missing out on a lot of action. Do 8 and 9’s chase guys or do they have so much options that they simple never chased and never will chase?

[NoSelfSelf]

Chase yourself simple as that...

[StarStruck]

35 minutes ago, NoSelfSelf said:

Chase yourself simple as that...

What do you mean?

[petar8p]

8 hours ago, StarStruck said:

To be honest, my game sucks. I’m lousy and lazy.

This is the only thing in your control.

[NoSelfSelf]

2 hours ago, StarStruck said:

What do you mean?

Have you watched wednesday?

[Eyowey]

9 hours ago, StarStruck said:

But I’m really interested in the 9’s and 10’s and I chase them but they never chase me back. Does this mean I’m not attractive enough for them?

If you want to be chased by 9's and 10's you have to have a celebrity vibe. Handsomeness is not enough in most cases. They will check you out but not chase.

4 minutes ago, NoSelfSelf said:

Have you watched wednesday?

I'm very impressionable so I find it easy to copy what people are doing. I copied her vibe once and people seemed to be attracted to it but also afraid of it.

[NoSelfSelf]

@Eyowey That's basically the opposite of what the lesson is...

[StarStruck]

2 hours ago, Lila9 said:

If you're invisible for the women you're attracted to, who's the job to make you visible to them?

I'm not invisible to them but I know what you are getting at.

2 hours ago, Eyowey said:

If you want to be chased by 9's and 10's you have to have a celebrity vibe. Handsomeness is not enough in most cases. They will check you out but not chase.

I'm very impressionable so I find it easy to copy what people are doing. I copied her vibe once and people seemed to be attracted to it but also afraid of it.

I guess that is true. I'm not very good looking or have status so I guess I have to change my attitude if I want the real hotties. The thing is that people say on this forum to have an abundance mindset so I thought I act like it but I guess I still have to hunt lol.

2 hours ago, NoSelfSelf said:

Have you watched wednesday?

I'm not sure what you mean. Sorry.

Edited December 28, 2022 by StarStruck