How to overcome heartbreak ?

[Rishabh R]

I was contemplating that - How do I overcome heartbreaks ?and following answers came to my mind .

- They are not as special as I think

-It will be ok

-They have chosen the wrong guy over me 

-It is not me it is their short mindeness

-By moving on

- By ignoring them 

-By recognising that I am attached to many people 

I hope the message was delivered.

[Vlad_]

1 hour ago, Rishabh R said:

I was contemplating that - How do I overcome heartbreaks ?and following answers came to my mind .

- They are not as special as I think

-It will be ok

-They have chosen the wrong guy over me 

-It is not me it is their short mindeness

-By moving on

- By ignoring them 

-By recognising that I am attached to many people 

I hope the message was delivered.

Hello brother!

I used to have a love addiction, so to affectively deal with heartbreaks you need to:

- Fix your self-esteem and confidence (book - The six pillars of self-esteem by Nathaniel Branden)

- Know what is a healthy relationships and how to build boundaries (book - Facing Love Addiction by Pia Melody)  

- Change the way you see yourself and your interactions with women (No More Mr. Nice Guy)

But mostly bro don't overestimate importance of other people in your life, otherwise you'll be suffering a lot 

[Roy]

I've found a good mentality that's given me the ultimate tool to move on is, "They call it the first because it won't be the last". Except I carry that mentality to all the ones following.

It's kind of tied into somewhat more vulgar saying I got from a guy. I was breaking up with my first serious girlfriend at the time and was looking to sell some stuff before moving. I told him what was going on and he said, "You know it sucks, but don't let it get you down too much - women are like cars, a new one pulls around the corner of the block every 10 minutes."

Kind of immature lol, but yeah it's the truth. There are millions of people. You can always find someone else that will make you happy.

[Rishabh R]

Yeah @Roy that's true cause in the midst of heartbreak we assume that it is the last person whom I got attracted to which is an illusion.

[andysampl]

Oh man...humans are just petty little egos. 

You want to get over your breakup, than fucking keep loving your ex and realize that you dont need to posses her to love her. 

You got together because you loved her so just keep on loving her and Set her free. She is probably better of without you if you are so attached to your ego anyways...

I have had 3 ex girlfriends i loved with all my heart. All relationships ended because we just went different paths. I still love them to death and they appreciate my love so much that they Do anything for me.

They help me financially if i need it, they even hook me up with their beautiful girlfriends. You dont know what you are missing out when you stop the relationship to your ex... 

You think you should See them as they are Not that special, i say See them exactly as special as they are.

They are god. they are your teachers. they wake you up to who you really are.

If it wasnt for my breakup with my ex i would have never awakened. i would have never started working on myself. i would have never experienced infinite beauty...man i Fall down on my knees and Thank my ex for leaving me everytime i See her.

See this breakup as the greatest Gift ever give to you and stop bitching around... 

Just use the breakup to dissolve your ego and never stop loving someone just because your ego is broken. Let the ego die man, it will be the best Thing that ever happened to you...

Everything that happens to us in life is just a Chance to grow so we can experience deeper levels of love. Acknowledge that and be greatful for your ex and also for the breakup. Thats the way.. 

 

[ivankiss]

Think less and dare to feel more.

Rage, yell, punch pillows, cry, etc. If you can, find a way to express those feelings. Music, journaling, painting, or whatever else. Externalize it.

Try not to spill your misery on others. Do 'the work' on your own.