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Positive vs Negative Motivation
https://youtu.be/blI9D8ZeC38

• Positive and negative motivation
• Negative motivation gets results, but can only take you so far
• Negative motivation is avoiding pain or discomfort
• Positive motivation is being drawn to something, moving towards something fulfilling
• Examples of positive motivation: passion for art, desire for physical fitness, desire to contribute and provide value, enjoyment of hobbies or activities, desire for personal growth
• Positive motivation is more sustainable and leads to lasting change
• Negative motivation can lead to short-term results, but can also lead to burnout, resentment, and a lack of fulfillment
• Positive motivation leads to happiness and fulfillment
• Importance of finding and cultivating positive motivation in your life
• Motivation driven by avoiding pain or discomfort is not as effective as motivation driven by a positive vision or goal
• Negative motivation leads to demotivation as the gap between the current situation and the goal narrows, whereas positive motivation leads to increasing excitement and motivation as the gap closes
• Positive motivation allows for unlimited potential and leads to ongoing growth and expansion
• Great achievements, like building the pyramids or starting innovative companies, require a positive motivation and drive to pursue a vision
• Transitioning from negative to positive motivation requires setting a clear vision that aligns with values and inspires motivation
• Positive motivation leads to ongoing progress and expansion of the vision
• Introduction to the concept of the "yo yo effect" in weight maintenance
• Personal story of losing 65 pounds in 5 months, driven by a positive vision of being fit and healthy
• Struggling to maintain weight after reaching target weight of 170 pounds
• Falling back into unhealthy habits and seeing weight fluctuate up and down
• Negative motivation kicks in when weight goes up, leading to dieting and exercise to bring weight back down
• Realization that maintaining weight requires consistent effort, not just reacting to fluctuations
• Need to establish a sustainable routine and mindset to maintain weight long-term
• Conclusion that the "yo yo effect" can be avoided by finding a positive, sustainable approach to weight maintenance.
• Going to the gym and exercising can be motivated by a fear of premature death
• This can lead to a constant struggle and difficulty in maintaining healthy habits
• It is important to shift the motivation for healthy habits to a positive vision, such as feeling healthy and full of energy
• This positive vision should be aligned with personal values and reviewed regularly
• Negative motivation, such as avoiding negative reactions or situations, can lead to a plateau in progress
• Positive motivation, such as a clear vision, can lead to overcoming plateaus and reaching new levels of success
• It is important to identify the motivation behind actions and consider shifting to a positive motivation
• It can be helpful to write out a positive vision for an area of improvement in one's life.
• Personal development allows individuals to become whoever they want to be
• Negative emotions and motivation can limit personal growth
• It is possible to shift from negative to positive motivation
• Creating a vision and focusing on desired outcomes can lead to progress
• Faking positivity until it becomes internalized can lead to a change in brain chemistry and the formation of a new identity
• Taking actions to shift towards positive motivation can lead to a better overall experience
• It is possible to commit to only considering desired outcomes, rather than dwelling on negative or unwanted outcomes.

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How To Be A Man - The Deep Core Of Being Masculine
https://youtu.be/X6YM_WUP5ik

• Introduction to topic of masculinity
• Personal background and experience in studying relationships and male/female dynamics
• Definition of masculinity: authenticity, honesty, self-expression, emotional stability, groundedness, leadership, purpose and vision
• Importance of finding and living one's own purpose and vision
• Role of masculine and feminine energies in relationships and how to balance them
• Importance of being a good man and treating others with respect and kindness
• Conclusion and encouragement to tap into masculinity and live authentically.
• Importance of casting aside obstacles and living one's own purpose and vision
• Definition of a man as someone who has discovered their identity and knows how to penetrate the world
• Development of masculinity typically occurs in a man's 20s to 30s
• Suggestion to have sex with multiple partners to develop masculinity and understanding of relationships
• Importance of learning how to have amazing sex
• Importance of finding and pursuing a fulfilling career or creating something powerful in one's life
• Encouragement to take this information seriously and apply it to become more masculine
• Suggestion to develop a strong physical body through exercise and healthy habits
• Suggestion to cultivate deep, meaningful relationships with other men
• Conclusion and encouragement to embrace masculinity and live a fulfilling life.

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Personal Development Plan - The Essentials Of Getting Results
https://youtu.be/NwLGHCZTQt4

• Personal development plan is a way to improve oneself and achieve desired results
• Some people struggle to get results from self-development techniques and products
• To get transformational results, it is important to understand the big picture of personal development
• The speaker has spent five years researching personal development and has processed over $100,000 worth of material on the topic
• It is recommended to watch all of the speaker's content on the topic and follow their methods for achieving personal development success
• Personal development involves setting goals, taking action, and constantly learning and growing
• The first step in a personal development plan is to identify areas of your life that you want to improve
• It is important to set specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time-bound (SMART) goals
• After setting goals, it is important to create a plan to achieve them, including taking small steps and seeking support and accountability
• Personal development also involves learning new skills and knowledge, which can be done through books, courses, and other resources
• It is important to take care of oneself physically, mentally, and emotionally to facilitate personal development
• It is also important to have a positive attitude and mindset to achieve success in personal development
• Personal development is an ongoing process, and it is important to regularly review and adjust your plan to stay on track and achieve your goals.
• Personal moment plan should involve journaling every day for a short time
• Journaling allows you to reflect and refer back to your thoughts
• Meditation is an important part of a personal moment plan, and can be done for various lengths of time
• Reprogramming your subconscious mind is a critical element of personal development
• This involves identifying and changing negative beliefs, using techniques like affirmations and visualizations
• A personal moment plan should also include learning the big picture, setting goals, minimizing distractions, building positive habits, and finding a life purpose
• Following a personal development plan can lead to significant changes in your life and can improve your business, career, and personal relationships
• Consider seeking coaching for additional guidance and action plans on implementing a personal moment plan.

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How To Love Yourself - How To Like Who You Are Right Now
https://youtu.be/ufNOWvcfrE4

• Introduction to the topic of self-love
• Definition of self-love, not referring to romantic love
• Insecurity and self-criticism common among people
• Focus on one aspect of ourselves can be harmful
• Recognize that we are more than just one aspect or imperfection
• Choose to focus on positive aspects and accomplishments
• Practice self-acceptance and self-compassion
• Seek to improve ourselves for our own happiness, not for the approval of others
• Remember that perfection does not exist and that flaws are a natural part of being human
• Surround ourselves with supportive and accepting people
• Take care of ourselves physically and mentally
• Practice gratitude and forgiveness towards ourselves and others
• Conclusion and encouragement to continue working on self-love.
• The speaker asks the listener to consider what they think they are, suggesting that they may be something greater or more spiritual than their body or their imperfections
• The speaker suggests that the listener can completely love and accept themselves exactly as they are, and that this decision is within the listener's control
• The speaker suggests that self-hatred or self-criticism can prevent the listener from being resourceful and sharing their gifts with others
• The speaker suggests that a lack of self-love may be caused by limiting beliefs, a lack of awareness, or problems with control and awareness of one's own mind and emotions
• The speaker suggests that loving oneself and overcoming mental blocks is key to living an extraordinary life and achieving one's dreams
• The speaker invites the listener to visit their website and sign up for their newsletter for exclusive content and to stay updated on their work on personal development.

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How To Feel Good - Re-Designing Your Life To Feel Amazing
https://youtu.be/JAXrO2NiX_w

• How to feel good
• Living a good life leads to feeling good, living a bad life leads to feeling bad
• Two terms: preah (pleasure, immediate gratification) and shreya (doing the right thing, long-term benefit)
• Most people focus on preah and not enough on shreya
• Preah can give temporary pleasure but ultimately leads to suffering
• Shreya requires effort and discipline, but leads to lasting happiness and fulfillment
• Re-designing your life to prioritize shreya involves identifying your values and aligning your actions with them
• Steps to re-designing your life:
• Identify your values and priorities
• Set goals and create a plan to achieve them
• Take action and make progress towards your goals
• Reflect and adjust as needed
• Importance of self-awareness and self-inquiry in the process of re-designing your life
• The role of mindfulness in living a good life and feeling good
• The power of positive thinking and gratitude
• Finding balance and not getting too caught up in either preah or shreya
• How to feel good
• Classic ancient wisdom with modern spin
• Cut out things that make you feel bad
• Align with living a good life in an exciting and adventurous way
• Work hard, experiment, read, meditate, etc. to feel good
• Sign up for newsletter to get more practical techniques and exclusive bonuses
• Bonuses include 19-part video series on busting limiting beliefs and chance to win 2 hours of free coaching with the speaker.

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Id, Ego, Superego - Understanding An Old School Psychology Concept
https://youtu.be/GC7KNAyDt4I

• Introduction to the concepts of id, ego, and superego
• Origins of these concepts in the work of Sigmund Freud
• Analogy of id as horses, ego as rider, and superego as father in carriage
• Definition and role of the id as the unconscious, base instincts seeking pleasure
• Definition and role of the ego as the conscious, rational, and strategic part of the psyche
• Definition and role of the superego as the moral and ethical component of the psyche, representing societal and cultural values
• How these concepts can be applied in practical personal development to improve self-control and happiness
• Criticisms of Freud's theories and the importance of modern, practical approaches to personal growth
• The idea of the ego, id, and superego in psychology
• The ego is the conscious, rational part of the mind that mediates between the desires of the id and the demands of the superego
• The id is the unconscious, primal part of the mind that is driven by pleasure and seeks immediate gratification of desires
• The superego is the moral part of the mind that represents the values and standards of society and strives for perfection
• Criticizing oneself can be motivated by the ego or superego
• Being attached to results and outcomes is neurotic
• Personal development involves introspection and understanding the distinction between the lower self (ego, id) and the higher self (superego)
• Self-actualization is when the healthy choices for oneself become natural and effortless
• Personal development work can lead to a clear distinction between the lower and higher selves and allow for easier discipline and a naturally flowing, healthy lifestyle

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Self Help - How Self-Help Can Revolutionize Your Entire Life
https://youtu.be/M3szqVVeNzw

• Introduction to self-help and the speaker's passion for it
• Personal experience with the transformative power of self-help
• Comparison of average person's life to the potential for a much better quality of life
• Mention of resources (books, seminars, etc.) that can help improve various areas of life
• The idea that self-help can revolutionize a person's entire life
• Mention of the speaker's belief that self-help can change a person's model of reality
• The idea that self-help can make a person successful and improve relationships, health, and other areas
• The concept of self-improvement as a continuous process
• The importance of taking action and not just consuming self-help information
• The potential for self-help to help a person achieve their full potential
• The concept of building up critical mass in self-help and how it leads to disproportionate returns on investment
• The idea that the first year or two of self-help might be slow, but with dedication and practice, it becomes extremely powerful and effective
• Summary of various ways to practice self-help, including reading books, attending seminars, listening to audio and video products, introspection, journaling, meditation, and coaching
• The benefits of forming good habits in self-help, including increased self-control, ability to tackle and solve problems, and overall success in life
• The importance of taking action and being proactive in self-help, rather than just learning and consuming information
• The concept of "compound interest" in self-help, where small improvements can lead to significant long-term gains
• The value of seeking out mentors or role models in self-help and learning from their experiences
• The importance of taking care of oneself physically, mentally, and emotionally in the self-help process
• The idea that self-help is a continuous journey and not a destination, and the importance of staying motivated and committed to personal growth

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How To Be Yourself - Become Your Authentic Self Right Now
https://youtu.be/w1JzhhDMcpw

• How to become authentic self
• Reasons for acting for others and being a people pleaser
• Turning it around and expressing authentic self
• Negative beliefs and limiting beliefs cover authentic self
• Lack of authenticity leads to lack of success, fulfillment, and happiness
• Mental image of self from others' point of view
• Fear of rejection and judgment
• Lack of self-acceptance and self-love
• Steps to becoming authentic self: self-observation, self-acceptance, self-love, and self-expression
• Importance of finding purpose and living authentically
• Benefits of living authentically
• The speaker believes that people often lack assertiveness and confidence and sacrifice their own values and souls in order to seek approval, love, sex, money, or assistance from others
• The speaker suggests that this behavior is not fulfilling and that seeking fulfillment from external sources (such as approval, love, sex, money, or assistance) is shallow and ultimately not satisfying
• The speaker advises that there are costs to being true to oneself, but also notes that it is not necessary or possible to make everyone like you
• The speaker suggests that the best strategy for success and fulfillment is to be oneself, as authenticity can be attractive and magnetic to others
• The speaker notes that it may be necessary to make sacrifices and incur costs in order to be true to oneself and suggests that it may be necessary to "pay off" social debts (relationships or commitments) in order to be authentic
• The speaker advises that it is important to recognize and understand these costs and to make decisions based on what is truly fulfilling and important to oneself, rather than seeking external validation or approval

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True Value - How To Create Success Out Of Nowhere
https://youtu.be/svS_P7mBhf4

• Definition of true value
• Potential and opportunity can be squandered by not seeing true value in things or tasks
• True value is different from apparent value or the value society or others put on something
• Example of a video game designer who didn't realize the value of the GDC vault, a resource for learning about his craft
• Importance of always learning and improving in any field
• Value can be found in unexpected places and can be difficult to see at first
• True value often requires effort or sacrifice to attain
• The value of any given task or project can change over time
• True value is subjective and depends on an individual's goals and values
• The value of something should be reevaluated periodically to ensure it aligns with current goals and values
• The concept of true value can be applied to any area of life, including relationships, hobbies, and career choices
• The speaker is discussing the concept of "real value" versus "apparent value"
• "Real value" refers to things that are truly valuable and improve one's life, while "apparent value" refers to things that are perceived as valuable but do not actually improve one's life
• To determine real value, the speaker suggests using the filter of well-being, including factors such as health, fulfillment, happiness, peace of mind, and finances
• The speaker suggests that often, people get caught up in apparent value, especially if it is promoted by mainstream society or popular culture
• Examples of apparent value include buying a fancy car to impress others or participating in activities that are not fulfilling but are perceived as important
• The speaker suggests that in order to break free from apparent value and focus on real value, it may be necessary to go against the grain and do things that are not necessarily popular or accepted by others
• The speaker encourages the listener to take time to think about and analyze the various aspects of their life, including their routines, relationships, and activities, to determine what is truly valuable and worth investing time and energy into.

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The Power Of Routines - How Your Daily Routine Holds You Back From Your Dreams
https://youtu.be/FoYs1YqQI7w

• The importance of daily routines in achieving success and personal growth
• Choosing to follow a productive routine or falling back into comfort
• The feeling of accomplishment and meeting one's potential through a productive daily routine
• The negative feelings that come from not living up to one's potential and values
• The connection between meeting basic needs and self-actualization
• The role of discipline in maintaining a productive daily routine
• The benefits of having a morning routine, including setting the tone for the day and getting a head start on tasks
• The importance of reviewing and adjusting one's routine as needed
• The role of personal development in improving one's daily routine and achieving success
• The importance of momentum and patience in building a routine
• The dangers of jumping back into a routine too quickly, such as going to the gym after a long break or trying to tackle a large workload all at once
• The benefits of slowly ramping up and training the body and mind through a gradual process
• The value of positive routines in achieving goals and moving towards a vision
• The challenges of creating and maintaining a positive routine
• The importance of small, daily tasks in building a strong routine
• The benefits of consistency in executing a routine over a long period of time
• The initial investment of energy and effort needed to build a new routine
• The importance of accountability and commitment in maintaining a routine
• The benefits of a strong routine for productivity and quality of life.

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Life Coaching - The Powerful Benefits Of Working With A Life Coach
https://youtu.be/8EYYp-sx1AU

• Introduction to the topic of life coaching and the speaker's background as a professional life coach
• Definition of life coaching as a way to improve an aspect of one's life with the help of a third party, objective perspective and accountability
• Difference between therapy and life coaching (therapy focuses on more severe dysfunction while coaching focuses on improving a functional life to an optimal level)
• Practical details of life coaching, such as frequency (once a week), medium (usually over the phone), duration (30 minutes to 15 minutes per call), and process (coach asks questions to help client clarify their problem and create a plan to address it)
• Benefits of life coaching, including increased self-awareness, personal growth, improved communication skills, increased productivity, and goal achievement
• Tips for finding a good life coach, including looking for someone with experience and qualifications, having a good fit with the coach's personality and style, and finding a coach who provides a clear plan and process
• Conclusion that life coaching can be a powerful tool for personal growth and improvement
• Communication skills and emotional intelligence can be powerful tools for personal development
• Coaching can help individuals see their own potential and provide a new perspective
• Coaching can help individuals make progress in their personal development more quickly
• Coaching requires proactive effort from the individual being coached
• One idea applied consistently at the right time can have a significant impact on personal development
• Coaching can help individuals identify their goals and create a plan to achieve them
• Coaching can help individuals learn new skills and techniques
• Coaching can provide accountability to help individuals follow through on their goals
• Coaching can help individuals overcome obstacles and challenges
• Coaching can help individuals find balance in their lives
• Coaching can help individuals become more self-aware and self-confident

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How To Start A Business - Bootstrapping A Successful Business
https://youtu.be/iIVM772cL6k

• Introduction to the topic of starting a business
• Personal experience with starting a business
• Two main obstacles to starting a business: motivation and finding the time
• Importance of finding a business that aligns with personal values and interests
• Capital as a third obstacle to starting a business
• Importance of marketing and understanding finances when starting a business
• Understanding competition in the market
• Planning and execution as crucial steps in starting a business
• Importance of seeking support and guidance when starting a business
• The importance of researching and understanding your target audience when starting a business
• The need to create a product or service that is uniquely tailored to your audience's needs and desires
• The importance of marketability, especially when bootstrapping a business
• The need for a business to start paying for itself as soon as possible when bootstrapping
• The benefits of using an iterative business model to test the waters and gather feedback before fully committing to a product or service
• The potential pitfalls of not paying attention to the market and investing time and resources into a product or service that does not resonate with the market
• The importance of trial and error in finding a profitable niche for a business
• The possibility of using small tests and proofs of concept to gather feedback and improve a product or service before fully launching it

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How Your Subconscious Holds You Back From Greatness
https://youtu.be/glOobHQndJA

• The speaker's girlfriend visited for a week and during that time, he was cooking and dropped a small piece of mushroom on the floor
• He picked the mushroom up and put it back in the pan, but his girlfriend saw and asked if he put it back in
• The speaker realized that this was a sign of a deeper issue, specifically a scarcity mindset around not wanting to waste things like food or money
• The speaker reflects on his past and how money was a source of conflict in his family growing up, which led to a scarcity mindset around money
• The speaker realizes that this scarcity mindset is holding him back in various areas of his life, such as with his business and relationships
• The speaker discusses the concept of the "subconscious" and how it can hold us back by running automatic programs and responses that we are not aware of
• The speaker suggests that by becoming aware of these automatic programs, we can start to rewrite them and make different choices
• The speaker encourages others to pay attention to their own subconscious thoughts and actions in order to identify and change any limiting beliefs or behaviors.
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Staying Hungry - How To Use Pain For Growth
https://youtu.be/CKpY8ksL1UE

• Introduction to the video and setting in Toronto, Canada
• Background information on the legal case the speaker is involved in and the stress it has caused
• Speaker's memories of past experiences that were emotionally difficult and required a "do or die" mentality
• The importance of remembering and drawing on past struggles for motivation and determination in difficult situations
• The concept of "staying hungry" and not becoming complacent or satisfied with current success
• Personal story of the speaker's own journey to success and the struggles and sacrifices they faced along the way
• The importance of taking ownership of one's life and not relying on external circumstances or other people for happiness
• The idea that pain and struggle can be used as a tool for growth and self-improvement
• Conclusion and encouragement to continue pushing through difficult times and using them as opportunities for growth.
• Sometimes, making a bold, radical decision can help get out of a rut
• Examples of these decisions include:
• Moving to a new location
• Changing careers or quitting a job
• Ending a relationship or getting a divorce
• It's important to be strategic and well-planned when making these decisions
• If you've been in a rut for a long time, sometimes external stimuli or help from others is necessary to get out of it
• It's better to have lofty goals and a killer instinct than to be stuck in a rut
• If you're already in a difficult situation, it's important to push through and trust that there is something better ahead

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Relationship Advice - The Master Plan For Creating An Amazing Relationship
https://youtu.be/Ixc0PkkYkHA

• Introduction to the topic of relationships and the purpose of the video
• The high divorce rate and prevalence of unhappy relationships as evidence of a problem in how people approach relationships
• The speaker's personal experience with learning about relationships through the pickup community
• The importance of personal development in creating a successful relationship
• The role of self-awareness and self-improvement in creating a successful relationship
• The importance of communication and honesty in a relationship
• The role of vulnerability and openness in building trust and intimacy in a relationship
• The need to set healthy boundaries and respect each other's boundaries in a relationship
• The importance of giving and receiving love in a relationship
• The need to continuously work on and improve the relationship
• The importance of forgiveness and letting go of resentment in a relationship
• The role of attraction and maintaining a strong physical and emotional connection in a relationship
• The need to let go of ego and focus on the well-being of the relationship
• The importance of taking responsibility for one's own happiness and not relying on the relationship to fulfill all of one's needs
• The need to find a balance between independence and togetherness in a relationship
• The importance of setting clear goals and expectations for the relationship
• Conclusion: relationships require work and effort, but can be deeply fulfilling if approached in the right way
• Money and financial stability are important in a relationship
• Health (nutrition and fitness) is important in a relationship
• Psychology (including limiting beliefs, anxiety, anger, childhood issues, irrational behavior, and neurotic behavior) is important in a relationship
• Personal development and self-improvement are important for maintaining a healthy relationship
• Successful relationships require effort and work
• It is important to understand the opposite sex in order to maintain a successful relationship

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How To Become A Millionaire - The Truth No One Tells You
https://youtu.be/LOPqhcH7dDc

• How to become a millionaire is not about luck or shortcuts, but about following certain principles
• The first principle is the importance of self growth and being in control of your own mind and actions
• Coming from a background of poverty or middle class means that you will need radical self growth to become a millionaire
• Personal growth is the core of becoming a millionaire, but there are also important business aspects to consider
• Successful people have a different mindset and approach to money than the average person
• Millionaires take risks and are not afraid of failure
• It is important to set goals, have a plan, and be willing to work hard to achieve them
• Diversifying income streams and building wealth through investing are key strategies for becoming a millionaire
• Surrounding yourself with the right people, learning from mentors, and staying focused and motivated are also important for achieving financial success.
• The mindset and philosophy behind earning a lot of money
• The limited potential for earning a lot of money in a 9-5 job, unless in a high-level management position
• The option of becoming self-employed or starting a business to become a millionaire
• The potential for earning a lot of money as a self-employed celebrity, artist, musician, blogger, or internet business owner
• The challenges of transitioning from a stable job to being self-employed and facing the risks of not having a consistent paycheck
• The importance of value when self-employed and the various business issues that come into play, including economics, legal issues, marketing, logistics, employment, and more
• The benefits of owning a business, including the ability to scale and increase income and the potential for passive income
• The importance of learning new skills, seeking mentors, and being open to new opportunities in order to increase income and become a millionaire.

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Self Esteem - Understanding & Fixing Low Self-Esteem
https://youtu.be/FeLpvgAVtU8

• Self-esteem is a combination of self-efficacy (confidence in one's ability to handle challenges and create a good life) and self-respect (belief in one's inherent value and right to happiness)
• Low self-esteem can be influenced by past experiences, negative self-talk, and social comparisons
• Nathaniel Brandon's "six pillars of self-esteem" include: self-acceptance, self-responsibility, self-assertiveness, living consciously, living purposely, and personal integrity
• Strategies for improving self-esteem include: setting and achieving goals, practicing self-care and self-compassion, reframing negative thoughts, and seeking support from others
• It is important to maintain healthy self-esteem in order to live a fulfilling and successful life.
• Childhood or traumatic events can contribute to low self-esteem
• Self-esteem can be improved through personal development, therapy, coaching, and introspection
• Nathaniel Branden's six pillars of self-esteem:
• Practice of living consciously
• Practice of self-acceptance
• Practice of self-responsibility
• Practice of self-assertiveness
• Practice of purposeful living
• Practice of personal integrity

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Judgment - How You Ruin Your Own Happiness
https://youtu.be/6RaA5eQlCsU

• Judgment is when the mind splits the world into arbitrary divisions of good and bad
• Judgment can be applied to people, objects, situations, or oneself
• Judgment is a survival mechanism used by the mind to maximize fitness
• Good and bad do not exist in reality, they are created by the mind
• Constant judgment can lead to unhappiness and suffering because it creates mental divisions and conflict
• To stop being overly judgmental, one can practice mindfulness, acceptance, and compassion
• Mindfulness involves being aware of one's thoughts and feelings without reacting to them
• Acceptance involves accepting things as they are, rather than trying to change them
• Compassion involves understanding and feeling empathy for the suffering of others
• By practicing these three things, one can reduce judgment and increase happiness and peace of mind.
• People who are self-actualized derive strength and happiness from being in reality and accepting it as it is
• People frequently make micro judgments about people, situations, and objects on a subconscious level
• Making these judgments can lead to neurosis and a lack of satisfaction
• An example of dropping judgments is experiencing a beautiful sunset and feeling a sense of peace and connection to reality
• In order to become more self-actualized, it is important to notice and let go of these micro judgments
• A way to practice this is to observe your surroundings and let go of the need for anything to be different
• Another way is to practice mindfulness and bring attention to the present moment without judgment
• It is also important to work on accepting and loving oneself, as well as developing a sense of purpose and meaning in life.

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Profound Quotes 003 - Children Want Candy; The Intelligent Want Self-Control - Rumi
https://youtu.be/RCrM6jC-fXg

• Rumi quote: "The intelligent want self-control; children want candy"
• Most people behave like children and seek stimulation/excitement (candy) instead of self-control
• Examples of seeking candy: drug addiction, partying, video games, TV, food, relationships, exercise for vanity, material possessions, fame, power
• True intelligence is seeking self-control and understanding the root causes of seeking candy
• Self-control allows for true happiness and fulfillment, rather than temporary pleasure from candy
• Practice mindfulness and self-awareness to improve self-control
• Take control of your thoughts and actions, rather than letting them control you.

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Whatever Doesn't Kill You Makes You Stronger - True or False
https://youtu.be/zxMTekwz1HM

• The speaker is discussing the adage "whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger" and whether or not it is true
• The speaker has recently been through a difficult legal trial and has been questioning whether going through difficult experiences makes one stronger or weaker
• It is possible to get oneself into a situation that is so bad that it leaves one emotionally crippled
• It is important to be careful with the decisions one makes and the things one gets involved in, as they can have a significant impact on one's life
• Some people have made mistakes or experienced difficult events that have greatly affected their lives in negative ways
• On the other hand, some people have gone through difficult experiences and come out stronger and more resilient
• The speaker's opinion is that in the long term, difficult experiences can make one stronger, but in the short term they can be very detrimental
• The key is to find the silver lining in difficult situations and use them as an opportunity to grow and become stronger
• One should also be mindful of the types of challenges one takes on and make sure they are manageable and within one's capabilities
• It is important to have a healthy balance between taking on challenges and taking care of oneself.