The psychology of gossiping

[Ulax]

I'm trying to work on my inner regina george, and would appreciate resources surrounding the psychology of gossiping.

Preferably from some sort of professional.

Thanks in advance

[Sincerity]

Contemplate it for yourself. Then maybe You'll actually understand and thus actually stop.

idea: sit with a notebook for 1 hour minimum and ask what is gossip? Why do I gossip, what compels me? What do I gain from it? etc.

Your answers are 100x more valuable than others'.

Edited December 17, 2022 by Sincerity

[Tyler Robinson]

It sets up a weird dynamic where people get trapped and it sends everything into an overdrive of mayhem. 

Understand that gossip hurts the person being gossiped about. 

I learned this the harder way and one day in 2021 I pledged myself that I'll never engage in gossip again. And all of the mayhem it caused suddenly stopped. 

Consider gossip as slander. It's bad faith. It will never lead to anything good. It's ruining someone some way. It is never useful. 

Slander weakens harmony in society and weakens it, pits one against another. 

Gossip is not rooted in love but in hate. 

Practice infinite love and you'll not feel the need to engage in gossip 

 

[Eyowey]

Talking about a person ontologically speaking is the same as talking about the weather. So what we're really interested in is why do people talk to each other in general? The sharing of information stems from loneliness mostly. Loneliness and boredom.

[Nilsi]

Check out René Girard. He talks about violence and scapegoating and the psychological games we play to cover these things up- very profound stuff and will probably give you a lot of insight into "gossiping."