How to deal with disrespect

[StarStruck]

21 hours ago, flowboy said:

Her not responding was probably a test to see if you would be brought out of balance emotionally.

And you were.

So that's great now you can thank her for pointing out where you need to shine the light on your shadow and give it more love.

• What do you believe it means about yourself when someone doesn't deem it important to respond to you?

Worthless? A loser? Something else?

• When did you first have that feeling? I guarantee it has nothing to do with this situation in the present.
• Can you sit for 5 minutes and just meditate on that younger version of you that felt like an X when Z happened, and be the most loving understanding parent to it?

There you go. You've now permanently improved your reactiveness to the trigger of 'girl not responding'.

Thank her!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qjG_4MSZDP0&t=1s

 

I felt back in kindergarden. It is a "childish part" of myself that I try to get rid but the more I try to get rid of it the more it comes to the forefront. I think I have to accept that it is not going to go away and do the necessary shadow work. There is no bypass to this work I'm afraid. Thanks for the video.

20 hours ago, Razard86 said:

Yall need to listen to StarStruck because he has the right mindset. If you are going to play the dating game (I'm not playing that crap lol) it's all about mindset. If you ever look at a woman as superior in any way it will come out in your interactions. Here is something you really need to understand about women. Women want a man they can look up to. If a woman FEELS like her man is not someone she can brag about she isn't going to respect him and the attraction is going to die.

If you feel like your women is 10/10 in physical looks that's fine, but you better believe you are 10/10. If in some way you feel she is superior to you and you are just lucky to be with her, instead of believing you both are lucky to be with each other then you are going to become needy, too attached, and it will show in your behavior. You got to believe in yourself and move through life with that confidence. 

Also long term relationship game is different than short term relationship game. Short term relationship is about building attraction, long term is about maintaining attraction and slowly building it over time. So don't ever assume in your life if you get good at picking up women that it means you are good at relationships, it doesn't. Maintaining a relationship with a woman is a whole different beast!! Don't even get me started on how having children with her makes it even more complicated. But I'll sum it up. A healthy long term relationship with a girl requires a healthy deep emotional connection. Majority of long term relationships fail between men and women because it does not have a deep emotional connection. 

The truth is that I'm not worthy of her. I've a lot of things that I have to work through to deserve a quality woman and that is the truth. To deserve a quality woman you have to become a quality person. And to be honest I have bigger fish to fry than dating her. I'm well off spending that time on myself and meditation.

[Kshantivadin]

On 15/12/2022 at 1:55 PM, NoSelfSelf said:

You can bypass all this by talking action and get laid but you will still be a pawn not a king because you will resort to manipulation or depending or authority all the time if master doesnt teach you how to think for yourself hes not real one...

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ty for posting words of wisdom

[NoSelfSelf]

@Kshantivadin good job on recognizing wisdom ?