How to deal with disrespect

[StarStruck]

I met this girl a month ago. Truly stunning. I was sold and I couldn´t pretend otherwise. Next day I send her a text for a coffee date. She didn't respond. I was hurt and disappointed. Last weekend I saw her again and she seemed warm towards me: seeking eye contact and isolating herself, positioning herself close to me. I just ignored her. I was truly hurt so I didn't even want to speak to her. Now I was an also a little intoxicated (I'm going to stop being intoxicated while going out but it does help me to get out of my comfort zone but it does make me moody and I just gave her the look and talked to other people, ignoring her. Now I look back to it I was kind of childish but I stayed true to my emotions. Is it disrespect for her to ignore my message or am I making it bigger than it is? How would you guys handle this situation?

[universe]

1 hour ago, StarStruck said:

I met this girl a month ago. Truly stunning. I was sold and I couldn´t pretend otherwise. Next day I send her a text for a coffee date.

What happened that day? Its kinda important to know.

Overall, yes you honored your emotions and its a dick move to not answer. But girls will be girls, if you become too reactive they'll loose interest.

[StarStruck]

27 minutes ago, universe said:

What happened that day? Its kinda important to know.

Overall, yes you honored your emotions and its a dick move to not answer. But girls will be girls, if you become too reactive they'll loose interest.

What happened on the day I met her? We walked, we danced, we drank some drinks. And I went home because I had to wake up early the next day.

[NoSelfSelf]

Again you typed something boring in text, expecting things from her and now you are hurt because how could she have an option to say no to you ?

Its all because you dont have game...

Edited December 15, 2022 by NoSelfSelf

[Ulax]

@StarStruck Imo its important to have high personal standards.

I'd personally want to screen out girls like that.

[StarStruck]

5 minutes ago, NoSelfSelf said:

Again you typed something boring in text, expecting things from her and now you are hurt because how could she have an option to say no to you ?

Its all because you dont have game...

True. I was afraid to screw up text game so I was very bland so I wouldn’t make mistakes. ?

 

@Ulax it isn’t her , even the nicest girls will flake if you are bland and boring  .. girls want to feel shit 

 

Edited December 15, 2022 by StarStruck

[NoSelfSelf]

@KH2 For you not because you have no trust in yourself and its not about being entertaining its about not talking at her but talking to her...

[NoSelfSelf]

@StarStruck Who doesnt make mistakes ?

Fearing making a mistake because you dont think you can have many women so that one woman is all be all for you as they call scarecity mindset...

[Ulax]

@StarStruck Ye i know but imo this is a gamey paradigm that im not aligned with in so many ways these days.

There's a degree of codependency in this sort of game thinking imo. I personally don't care to play around with trying to manage her emotions to the expense of my own personal boundaries.

[StarStruck]

2 minutes ago, NoSelfSelf said:

@StarStruck Who doesnt make mistakes ?

Fearing making a mistake because you dont think you can have many women so that one woman is all be all for you as they call scarecity mindset...

She was a 10/10. Those are scarce. 

[NoSelfSelf]

@StarStruck guy with game doesnt see her as 10/10 hes 10/10 in his mind she doesnt matter because game is not about women its about him.

You mentioned chess as analogy guy with game sees the whole board as him(his moves his everything) and pieces and opponent are second you see opponent and pieces first and board doesnt matter to you...

What makes her 10/10 can she spawn money from thin air?

Edited December 15, 2022 by NoSelfSelf

[flowboy]

10 minutes ago, StarStruck said:

She was a 10/10. Those are scarce. 

Her not responding was probably a test to see if you would be brought out of balance emotionally.

And you were.

So that's great now you can thank her for pointing out where you need to shine the light on your shadow and give it more love.

• What do you believe it means about yourself when someone doesn't deem it important to respond to you?

Worthless? A loser? Something else?

• When did you first have that feeling? I guarantee it has nothing to do with this situation in the present.
• Can you sit for 5 minutes and just meditate on that younger version of you that felt like an X when Z happened, and be the most loving understanding parent to it?

There you go. You've now permanently improved your reactiveness to the trigger of 'girl not responding'.

Thank her!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qjG_4MSZDP0&t=1s

 

Edited December 15, 2022 by flowboy

[NoSelfSelf]

@KH2 that's how your mind f## you over stay in loser mentality 

[NoSelfSelf]

@KH2 then dont talk to me simple as that 

[Razard86]

55 minutes ago, NoSelfSelf said:

@StarStruck guy with game doesnt see her as 10/10 hes 10/10 in his mind she doesnt matter because game is not about women its about him.

You mentioned chess as analogy guy with game sees the whole board as him(his moves his everything) and pieces and opponent are second you see opponent and pieces first and board doesnt matter to you...

What makes her 10/10 can she spawn money from thin air?

Yall need to listen to StarStruck because he has the right mindset. If you are going to play the dating game (I'm not playing that crap lol) it's all about mindset. If you ever look at a woman as superior in any way it will come out in your interactions. Here is something you really need to understand about women. Women want a man they can look up to. If a woman FEELS like her man is not someone she can brag about she isn't going to respect him and the attraction is going to die.

If you feel like your women is 10/10 in physical looks that's fine, but you better believe you are 10/10. If in some way you feel she is superior to you and you are just lucky to be with her, instead of believing you both are lucky to be with each other then you are going to become needy, too attached, and it will show in your behavior. You got to believe in yourself and move through life with that confidence. 

Also long term relationship game is different than short term relationship game. Short term relationship is about building attraction, long term is about maintaining attraction and slowly building it over time. So don't ever assume in your life if you get good at picking up women that it means you are good at relationships, it doesn't. Maintaining a relationship with a woman is a whole different beast!! Don't even get me started on how having children with her makes it even more complicated. But I'll sum it up. A healthy long term relationship with a girl requires a healthy deep emotional connection. Majority of long term relationships fail between men and women because it does not have a deep emotional connection. 

[NoSelfSelf]

@KH2 because game is on personal level not on a surface like its all looks money and status ..you want to impress others and being liked by others thats what blocks game...but you dont wanna learn go learn from master what im saying here is what i learned from a master and its only 1% basic stuff...

[mr_engineer]

@StarStruck Position yourself for higher-quality women. Raise your standards. 

What she did, was a mediocre move. Ignoring texts, that kind of crap. What you're doing right now, is you're putting up with this mediocrity on your dates. Stop doing that! 

Let's say this girl becomes your girlfriend. And, you gotta go out of town for a couple of weeks. What will she do? Will she look at your texts? Will she reply? Will she stay in touch? Or will she cheat? You should not be having these kinds of questions in your mind about women you date. 

When I say 'mediocrity', I mean, in terms of communication-skills. Try to teach her good communication-skills, maybe by role-modelling it or something. Cuz she has work to do on that front, for sure. 

Edited December 15, 2022 by mr_engineer

[NoSelfSelf]

@KH2 Well average mind is wired to be in social matrix narcissist are crazy for seeking others likes we are not here to be average tho...

Game doesnt mean getting laid with other girls(its a byproduct) because game is you when you stop seeking other likes you will see that everything in life is about you,what you gonna say is about you, what you gonna do is about you...its like you are playing world of warcraft but you are the creator and player at the same time(never played that game ?)..

Well you need it because you are not student of the game you havent started the process and you probably cant because you are stuck in your current level of ways...

When you get game(i mean when it comes from you tough to explain) you dont need others you want them, because you are creator of everything in your mind but now everyone else is creating that world...

Now you are in state what i need to do for women to get them how can i sacrefice what i am for some play...

Nah you create your ways that she must sleep with you because she will be crazy not to because your world gives her everything that she needs because you created it for yourself not just copying others and not really working on yourself building yourself(you cant really build yourself when looking at outside world being in social.matrix)) ...

If you cant get this good luck she will be in power position and run game on you...

You can bypass all this by talking action and get laid but you will still be a pawn not a king because you will resort to manipulation or depending or authority all the time if master doesnt teach you how to think for yourself hes not real one...

Edited December 15, 2022 by NoSelfSelf

[NoSelfSelf]

@KH2 in your example what im saying is: great hunter is not desperate to get the prey, because he put his hunting skills and himself on a pedestal and not a prey, so he can now hunt it easily where other hunters cant get the prey because they are really eager to get it and never take time to put himslef and skill on a pedestal,but too focused and thirsting over a prey to see nothing else..

Game is not for everyone not everyone can win...

Edited December 15, 2022 by NoSelfSelf

[John Paul]

It’s great that you are acknowledging and owning your feeling being hurt.

Why should a woman not texting you back hurt you though? Something is out of line in your life for this to be hurtful. And now she has probably sensed that this hurt you (if she even is paying attention to you) and realizes you aren’t mature. Realistically you shouldn’t care if a girl doesn’t text you back unless she’s already been seeing you and seems to be heading toward a girlfriend situation.