Alot of men and women in the western world have become sexual degenerates.

[Breakingthewall]

the number of couples is stupid. What difference does it make if your girlfriend has been with 20 guys or with just one with whom she has fucked 1500 times? does that make you feel better? what you have to do is forget the past and focus on the present. what is present has to flow, it has to be real, wonderful. If there are doubts, then it is better to leave it and continue looking for something truly good

[Thought Art]

Imagine how bad sex with a virgin probably is ahah I mean, I’ve had sex with virgins and it was ‘okay’ I mean sex is normally fun anyway. 
 

But, as my relationships improved with these woman the sex generally got better over time as we got to know each other better. 
 

But, I also think Virginity is important for women as well and I knew that if I didn’t really like a girl I wouldn’t sleep with her and take her virginity. So, I feel nuanced here. Not sure, more to contemplate

[Shane Hanlon]

Serious Question

What makes porn inherently bad?

[John Paul]

You’re not gonna stop a horny girl in high school from fucking her crush….. and to shame her and degrade her after the fact…. Shame on YOU.

[Michal__]

It basically comes down to discipline and discipline comes down to this:

28 minutes ago, Michal__ said:

It's basically mainly a question of habits / dumb animal biology.

If you do a lot of fun things that are useless, your dumb brain will associate it with being useful. Remember -> your animal part IS NOT INTERESTED IN SURVIVAL. IT IS INTERESTED ONLY IN FOLLOWING THE DOPAMINE HITS. 

If you want to be productive / disciplined you have to cut out things that are too fun without a purpose. Like YouTube, video games, chatting with friends. You can still keep something, like masturbation - since that's pretty harmless.

Then your dumb animal brain will go down to the next things that can produce dopamine eg. Building your business or studying or both.

And that's when building your business or studying BECOMES FUN.

Good habits are kind off an on / off switch.

Mindset wise it's a question off "do I want a reward now that will sacrifice my future goals, or are my goals good enough to sacrifice SOME pleasure (video games, YouTube etc - no sexual sacrifices need to be made) so that I can have it later (because it will be much more fulfilling -> pleasurable than any dumb, free, short term thing you can do).

 

Edit: it might be beneficial to do a short term water fast (3 - 5 days), because it's a quick switch button. If you do only positive stuff during this time, IT WILL AUTOMATICALLY BECOME FUN!

[Hero in progress]

@Shane Hanlon

Take some time away from it ( porn, ejaculation), reassess how you feel in comparison to your previous state, Alot of men watch it regularly so there no contrast in there experience. It may just reinvigorate your life. Id rather you try it out for yourself and get back to me instead of give you a bunch of words. Up to you my friend. 

Edited November 28, 2022 by Hero in progress

[Hero in progress]

@John Paul

Shame on me  

Got off my post son go play with your winky some more

Edited November 28, 2022 by Hero in progress

[NoSelfSelf]

@Hero in progress Alexander Rhodes is a lady's man now it all makes sense..

[Shane Hanlon]

41 minutes ago, Hero in progress said:

@Shane Hanlon

Take some time away from it ( porn, ejaculation), reassess how you feel in comparison to your previous state, Alot of men watch it regularly so there no contrast in there experience. It may just reinvigorate your life. Id rather you try it out for yourself and get back to me instead of give you a bunch of words. Up to you my friend. 

I have before for a few weeks to see what all of the no-fap hype was about. Maybe my experience is atypical or I didn't do it for long enough, but all I felt was pent-up aggression and more sexual thoughts than usual.

11 hours ago, KH2 said:

Nothing

But the internet porn was made in such a way, so that you are encouraged to spend the most ammount of time possible on these sites, looking for the best video, looking for more and more extreme stuff as the time progresses. That is THE DESIGN. Whether a person is looserish enough/in a bad enough place mentally to be exploited by this, depends on an individual.

People seem to forget that porn sites ARE COMPANIES AND BUSINESESS. A number one goal of a business, is to make money of off you. And the way pornsites make money of off you, is mainly throught add revenues and premium memberships. So their number one goal, is to steal as much of your attention, focus and time as possible. LOL it's actually incredible that this just somehow doesn't click in most people's brains, and they don't put 2+2 together

Huh, I understand what you mean. YouTube always takes my time like that. I guess I'm lucky, I've never had a problem being addicted to porn.

[Hero in progress]

@Shane Hanlon

You gotta workout out brother, you cant have all that energy building up in your lower centres 

 

 

[Hero in progress]

@NoSelfSelf

"Alexander Rhodes"

[NoSelfSelf]

@Hero in progress that's your god

 

[Hero in progress]

@NoSelfSelf

Okay mate 

[NoSelfSelf]

@Hero in progress you dont know who and how no fap is founded ?

[Hero in progress]

@NoSelfSelf

Celibacy has been considered a virtue for thousands of years brother  

[NoSelfSelf]

@Hero in progress okay but here is a premise that if you dont touch yourself you will attract women which is hilarious,if thats whats the reason why someone doesnt have women in his life...same as looks and money and anything that mind likes to attach itself outside of himself to avoid looking and operating from within...even having bunch of women you will masturbate from time to time...thats like saying to an athlete if you drink coca-cola you wont win, sugar is the reason why you are bad at your sport something like that never been good with examples...

[Hero in progress]

@NoSelfSelf

Maybe it isn't about attracting women mate, did you consider that? 

If you're a celibate, women attraction is irrelevant really, maybe thats why its attractive because your not trying to manipulate her like other men, you can just be yourself and relax and that allows women to relax around you, its chill 

 

Edited November 29, 2022 by Hero in progress

[John Paul]

1 minute ago, Hero in progress said:

@NoSelfSelf

Maybe it isn't about attracting women mate, did you consider that? 

If you're a celibate women attraction is irrelevant really, maybe thats why its attractive because your not trying to manipulate her like other men, you can just be yourself and relax and that allows women to relax around you, its chill 

 

Not masturbating = not manipulating? Lol you’re so full of shit, read your own thoughts 

[NoSelfSelf]

@Hero in progress No fap is used to attract women i dont know for what reasons you think its done(not spiritual ofc)...

And what does masturbation has to do with being yourself and chill

 i wont bother have a nice day

[Hero in progress]

@NoSelfSelf

Its the vitality it brings to achieve your goals brother, to live the best life you can. Yes its spiritual also. 

Its strength instead of weakness 

Its discipline instead of pleasure 

its God instead of the world