How to cure post cum clarity / post nut clarity?

[Tyler Robinson]

To feel attraction again and not lose it.. 

[Tyler Robinson]

@Something Funny no I'm just looking for how to make it happen again. 

On one hand yes, what will I do if a guy loses interest in me after sex. 

On the other hand, what if I suffer the female version of it, in the sense that I might lose interest in a guy once I lose that horniness for him. What if he was a great catch and  I didn't want to lose him? 

 

[Ulax]

I think its often to do with a feeling of disgust towards intimacy in men.

[Yarco]

31 minutes ago, Tyler Robinson said:

On the other hand, what if I suffer the female version of it, in the sense that I might lose interest in a guy once I lose that horniness for him. What if he was a great catch and  I didn't want to lose him? 

You're way overthinking this, to the point of creating imaginary situations that can't even exist. "What if I lose interest in a guy but don't want to lose him" What???

Just get in a real relationship and see what happens, instead of living in hypotheticals in your head. 

This is like reading about martial arts for 10 years and creating all kinds of advanced scenarios in your head when you've never even thrown your first punch in real life. Worry about just getting to the point that you've had sex with a guy once first. Most people totally fuck up their first few relationships, and you probably will too.

[Tyler Robinson]

27 minutes ago, Something Funny said:

If you cum and you don't want to be with a person anymore, you probably shouldn't be with them because your attraction / connection was extremely shallow to beging with.

 

27 minutes ago, Something Funny said:

Like I can't imagine totally loosing attraction to a girl just because we had sex if I actually like like her. Even if I might not want to have sex right after I would still have feelings of warmth, love, appreciation, intimacy towards her I guess.

 

I had a situation very recently. I liked a guy and he was cute. I felt very horny for him. I orgasmed really strongly for 2 days thinking of him and I exhausted myself. A few hours after orgasming I kinda felt bored. I didn't even want to see his face. I didn't want to talk to him. I felt a sense of fear, and I wanted my feelings back but I just wasn't feeling anything at all. Kinda just tired and not wanting him to even look at me. I was being avoidant. It's not like I dislike him. But I felt some kind of emptiness. I was worried that I might completely lose attraction for him. 

I'm still waiting for my feelings of attraction to come back. I can't induce this horniness since it happens kinda on its own whenever the time is right. 

I don't feel much at all. Could it be that this is just temporary and my lovey dovey feelings might return back and I might want him again? 

I was straight up avoiding him after the orgasms. 

Maybe this post cum clarity is just temporary due to exhaustion? 

 

27 minutes ago, Something Funny said:

Edit: compare that to hiring a prostitute for example. You can be super horny during sex but then once you orgasm and get "sober" you might even feel disgust towards her, or yourself, or an act in general. Because on a deeper level you know that you shouldn't have done it and now those feelings come to the surface.

So it's more of an indicator than something to be afraid of I think.

I did not feel disgust towards the guy. Maybe mild disgust or boredom because I was too tired and I didn't want to orgasm again. So my body automatically mentally pushed him away. It felt like boredom, the feeling you get when you're sick of eating too much chocolate, something like that. But I don't hate him. Just pure indifference. No chemical response. No ticking, no flirting, not feeling butterflies, just emptiness. Like I wanted to watch TV instead of spending time with him. 

 

 

27 minutes ago, Something Funny said:

Also, I am not sure what you didn't like about @Carl-Richard's comment. That's the best way to explain it probably. Clarity. Taking googles off.  Getting sober. Seeing things for what they are without having your consciousness obscured by hormones and sexual arousal.

I was angry and being an asshole. I apologize for it. 

[Thought Art]

How do you cure it? Just give it 10 minutes.

It's not a bad thing.

 

Edited November 13, 2022 by Thought Art

[integral]

47 minutes ago, Tyler Robinson said:

had a situation very recently. I liked a guy and he was cute. I felt very horny for him. I orgasmed really strongly for 2 days thinking of him and I exhausted myself. A few hours after orgasming I kinda felt bored. I didn't even want to see his face. I didn't want to talk to him. I felt a sense of fear, and I wanted my feelings back but I just wasn't feeling anything at all. Kinda just tired and not wanting him to even look at me. I was being avoidant. It's not like I dislike him. But I felt some kind of emptiness. I was worried that I might completely lose attraction for him. 

I'm still waiting for my feelings of attraction to come back. I can't induce this horniness since it happens kinda on its own whenever the time is right. 

I don't feel much at all. Could it be that this is just temporary and my lovey dovey feelings might return back and I might want him again? 

I was straight up avoiding him after the orgasms. 

Maybe this post cum clarity is just temporary due to exhaustion? 

You’re just tired, you’ve exhausted the dopamine system and need rest. When in that state just ask yourself if you like the person or not?

I experienced this too when I was younger basically you’re a really self-absorbed person lol memenememmememe if you don’t feel like it then you won’t lift a finger for anyone. Because everything you do is based on how you feel in the moment in a highly unstable way. So you’re prone to huge bouts of hypocrisy and low integrity. It’s going to stay that way until you do things based on your values (integrity) and not on emotional whims.

Edited November 13, 2022 by integral

[Thought Art]

Maybe it was infatuation so that makes sense

[Tyler Robinson]

49 minutes ago, integral said:

So you’re prone to huge bouts of hypocrisy and low integrity.

Hypocrisy and low integrity in what sense? 

 

[Tyler Robinson]

58 minutes ago, integral said:

I experienced this too when I was younger basically you’re a really self-absorbed person lol

I can't help it. But it's more about my emotions rather than me. 

58 minutes ago, integral said:

memenememmememe if you don’t feel like it then you won’t lift a finger for anyone.

 

This is true. I mostly operate on emotion and instinct. 

58 minutes ago, integral said:

Because everything you do is based on how you feel in the moment in a highly unstable way.

This is true. 

58 minutes ago, integral said:

So you’re prone to huge bouts of hypocrisy and low integrity.

I can call it being frank about how I feel. I never did anything intentionally or out of malice. I never saw myself as low integrity. 

58 minutes ago, integral said:

 

It’s going to stay that way until you do things based on your values (integrity) and not on emotional whims.

I have very high integrity. I always stay true to whatever I believe in. I don't change in the moment. At the same time I value emotions a lot more over intellect. So I rely a lot on it. 

 

[Heart of Space]

12 hours ago, Carl-Richard said:

I'm not sure I appreciate how you talk to men.

Me neither.  

[Tyler Robinson]

6 hours ago, Ulax said:

I think its often to do with a feeling of disgust towards intimacy in men.

Can you elaborate on this? 

[Heart of Space]

Post-nut clarity is a concept that exists in the minds of men who hate women.  

[Tyler Robinson]

Just now, Heart of Space said:

Post-nut clarity is a concept that exists in the minds of men who hate women.  

Maybe it's a genuine thing that happens after orgasms. Why and how is it correlated to hate towards women?i see a lot of people on this thread who openly claim ideas and opinions but never bother to substantiate or elaborate what they mean and why they say it. 

 

[Heart of Space]

It's love of sexual pleasure mixed with a disdain for the sexual and romantic desires of the female.  

Sheer disgusting misogyny.

Edited November 13, 2022 by Heart of Space

[Tyler Robinson]

Just now, Heart of Space said:

It's love of sexual pleasure mixed with a disdain for the sexual and romantic desires of the female.  

That does make a tiny bit of sense. Yea I can see how that can be concluded especially for the overly saintly type of men who think women are sinners if they act sexual. 

 

[Heart of Space]

4 minutes ago, Tyler Robinson said:

That does make a tiny bit of sense. Yea I can see how that can be concluded especially for the overly saintly type of men who think women are sinners if they act sexual. 

Saintly type of men?  Hypocritical and selfish would be a better description. 

[Tyler Robinson]

Just now, Heart of Space said:

Saintly type of men?  Hypocritical and selfish would be a better description. 

What I meant is that they pretend to be saintly and pure, farcical. 

 

[Tyler Robinson]

I didn't want to ask this question separately. Is the semen considered a seed or is it the woman's egg that's considered the seed in sexual reproduction? 

Oki I just looked up online. Both eggs and semen/sperm are considered seeds individually. 

 

[integral]

11 hours ago, Tyler Robinson said:

I have very high integrity. I always stay true to whatever I believe in. I don't change in the moment. At the same time I value emotions a lot more over intellect. So I rely a lot on it. 

I think you have high moral ideals but not integrity. Integrity is to do what you know is right despite how you feel or what you have to gain or loss or wtv low hanging fruit put in front of you to temp you into rationalizing the truth away. The things people have done to you and hurt you with, you will turn around and do the same thing to them when the circumstance is right. The right circumstances hasn't happened yet. BPD + Hyper Sensitivity is a deadly combination, its incapable of integrity because its base survival needs have not been met yet. When constantly faced with survival threats most cant be Integris.

Right now masturbation caused all feelings you had for someone to disappear to the point you where compelled to ignore them. If your feelings don't return will you ignore this person indefinitely when you know from first hand experience how hurtful and immoral that is to do to someone?

Do you have the integrity to break up with someone vai text (because you know that's the right thing to do) or will you avoid conflict at all cost because its emotionally hard and ghost them? (knowing it is deeply hurtful from you directly experiencing it).

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Treat other people with the concern and kindness you would like them to show toward you.

-> Integrity

Its impossible to have integrity when emotions compel people to do the opposite.

Today i went to the store and the woman miss priced my item, i got it for a 3rd the price. I didnt tell her = lack of integrity i then told my self a story to rationalize it "Walmart enslave children, i should be stealing from them as much as possible"  lmao

Edited November 14, 2022 by integral