How To Get Rid Of Sexual Inclinations Completely?

[Electron]

Well, I personally don't like the idea of being attracted to a person physically. Its a stupid bias, in my view. I think its just a waste of time doing things for someone, or carrying out a conversation just out of lust. But nonetheless I am attracted to girls. And I always consciously try to deny this very truth. But I want to feel more authentic about that and literally not desire anything physical AT ALL, even if its validated by the circumstances. Do you have any remedies to this conundrum?

[A way to Actualize]

The remedy is called enlightenment. 

If you want a more short term solution, where enlightenment is met on the way, I recommend looking at self-love. Matt Kahn has a ground-breaking new book called 'Whatever arises, love that'. This may seem not connected, but it is 100% connected.

Edited February 12, 2016 by A way to Actualize

[Not Leo Gura]

Whats wrong with finding girls attractive?. I appreciate your point of view. But I don't think sexual intimacy is a bad thing. Its really good for one's psychology on the other hand. I think your problem is not the wastage of time on the so called hedonic pursuits but the inefficacy to put effort on such pursuits out of shyness.

[Dhana Choko]

You just need to accept these feelings as passing feelings as anything else that pops up in your mind. You don't have to make a big deal about them - just see them as passing thoughts coming from nothing and evaporating into nothing. They tell nothing about you.

[Electron]

@Neutrino I really don't think I hold myself out of shyness to talk or flirt with girls. I would say that I find these things trivial. I think that there are zillions of other better and more appealing things to do in this strange reality than to waste time talking gibberish.

Edited February 12, 2016 by Sigma

[dystopia]

It sounds to me like you're just bitter that your attraction to females gives them some sort of "power" over you. I don't think it's healthy to suppress physical desires. What's the point of getting rid of the pleasures in life? You're still human, are you gonna ask how to stop needing sleep, as well? You need to develop a sense of love, not lack or resistance. 

[Ayla]

@Sigma ,

I just wanted to point out to you that if it wasn't for "lust', none of us would be here to give you advice, nor will you be here to take it  

I admire your courage to expose your issue here. 

I would like to ask you to look inside yourself and understand that you have come here in a male body. Even though you are not your body, it has its needs which will always appear: thirst, hunger, shelter and yes, sex. 

If you are open to my view, please look on line for the concept of: "invisibility vow". It might speak to you, or not. Also concepts like shame and guilt, self-denial. 

Also, from actually reading some of your posts, I am sure that one day, a young lady will be VERY lucky to have you, I'm also sure that you will not want to deny her the glory of sexuality between two human beings that love each other

 

[Simon Zackrisson]

1 hour ago, Sigma said:

Well, I personally don't like the idea of being attracted to a person physically. Its a stupid bias, in my view. I think its just a waste of time doing things for someone, or carrying out a conversation just out of lust. But nonetheless I am attracted to girls. And I always consciously try to deny this very truth. But I want to feel more authentic about that and literally not desire anything physical AT ALL, even if its validated by the circumstances. Do you have any remedies to this conundrum?

I fail to see why you should have this desire my friend.

I think there is a reason to as why we are are having the human experience. 

 

I mean perhaps you could consider the reconditioning in pursuing enlightenment but...

For me, it kinda feels like it is something spiritual with being a humanbeing and expressing as a humanbeing too. Lol, U HAVE TIME TO BE ENLIGHTENED WHEN UR DEAD 

Idk

Anyways man, good luck in finding the style of life that will bring you the satisfaction you seek.

Edited February 12, 2016 by Simon Zackrisson

[Sarah Marie]

Why do you view this as toxic?

[Thomas]

Repression leads to perversion.

Do not run from it. Do not place judgement on Your feelings.

Analogically I could perceive the feeling of depression and decrease in vibration levels as something BAD and try to ignore / deny / avoid it and have a deep belief that it is not supposed to be happening to me. 

That is bullshit, my friend. It is happening and has a very good reason to, but You won't discover why unless You will allow it to go through You and experience it fully.

I had periods in my life, when I was acting like a misogynistic asshole who's driven by primal instincts and just wants to put his dick into a warm hole without having any genuine interest of other human being feelings, thoughts, spiritual connection, as well as periods in which I had close to no identity, no agenda, taking depthful pleasure from sitting half a day in complete silence alone or taking a walk and listening closely to a random girl's story about her passion for dancing, being surprised how amazing feeling it is to see that spark in her eyes when she's demonstrating specific, profound details I didn't even know exist.

 

The trick is not to supress it, but to surpass it. 
Enlightment is a grind, progressive work that adds slowly over the course of time.

Edited February 12, 2016 by Thomas

[Electron]

@Sarah_Flagg These sensations of lust are an extension of myself, and I want all of myself to be completely aligned with my purpose, not wandering around being a slave to a sensation. 

[Sarah Marie]

1 minute ago, Sigma said:

@Sarah_Flagg These sensations of lust are an extension of myself, and I want all of myself to be completely aligned with my purpose, not wandering around being a slave to a sensation. 

Thanks for sharing with me your views.  I agree with the suggestions above. Suppressing isn't the answer. 

[Argue]

Being a slave to sensations? There needs to be self-control... 

 

[Electron]

@Argue I think I exaggerated it a bit. In a way one is a slave until he has complete self-control.

[Dhana Choko]

9 hours ago, Sigma said:

@Argue I think I exaggerated it a bit. In a way one is a slave until he has complete self-control.

I understand and you are on your way to it. Do not worry. This is part of the process. In order to conquer something, it might get worse before its power runs out. Just keep examining yourself and your reactions abd practice patience and love towards yourself. This is a great tool for you.

[Phrae]

In a sense you're a slave to everything your biology inclines you to do. Even the resistant of that could be argued that it is biologically induced. You disliking one aspect of that biology is the bias here. 

I don't know why reproduction is a bias for life forms. What created that desire in the first place? Is there one true and only desire for every thing that exists and that is simply being? Is life the result of the expression of that force? Who knows.

[Free Spirit]

I think its normal being attracted to someone physically, but you must weigh up the emotional side too....   cant be one way or the other too much.  Follow your true heart. 

[Elena]

Well, there are certain medications that lower your sex drive. In communist times they would put it in the food that soldiers ate and in the food of young men who were doing their obligatory millitary service so that ... less incidents would happen. You can always try to google it if you are serous, it was some kind of mild sedative.

[MonikaBcn]

On 2/12/2016 at 9:44 PM, Sigma said:

@Sarah_Flagg These sensations of lust are an extension of myself, and I want all of myself to be completely aligned with my purpose, not wandering around being a slave to a sensation. 

Have you considered that maybe pursuing and fulfilling your desires could actually be much more easy, fun and PRODUCTIVE in regards to your life purpose, rather than trying to eliminate them??

It's like a break during hard work. You want it, you need it and it makes you more productive after.

[Electron]

@MonikaBcn It could be. But it hasn't been that productive to me in my 20 years of existence. If something like total self-control is really possible, then I would take my chances on it. And because like I said its total self-control, which according to the consensus is possible through enlightenment. Then I don't think it would be any less fulfilling and productive.