Getting to know people through humour

[Chives99]

People have different personality types so they don't all resonate to this but I can't deny that I'm innately a total goofball, I can act serious when needed, but in general I don't treat life as being a serious endeavour, as  Allan watts once said "“Man suffers only because he takes seriously what the gods made for fun.” My mind doesn't like to break the ice with people by asking them 20 questions about their studies or vocation or hobbies or whatever. I express who I am with what genuinely entertains my own mind, like I might have some mad theories about parlllel universes or joke I have second indentity and I will throw in some stuff about my life as well and ask others about theres, but thats just the filler, I turn my life story into a comedy and tell them all the mad situations I've gotten my self into and interesting decisions I've made. I don't get too nerdy whilst expressing my interests I make it some what relatable so whilst humourising metaphysics I might say that we're in the matrix and I'm a figurement of their imagination. I also combine it with a bit of playful teasing and especially in a flirty way with girls. I feel this is a great way to build rapport instead of talking about mundane stuff like i see with a lot of people, but i am on the spectrum so my brain works  a bit differently, by using my humour It shows that I don't have to dominate people to climb ' the show ladder' and I'm not trying to get anywhere at all, but i dont agree with dominating people it goes against my integrity even if it did get me some success with women firstly it would attract the wrong type of woman for me and secondly it wouldn't feel awful breaking my values. Some people don't like me acting like a goofball because it doesn't allow them any room to socially dominate me as I'm not challenging them or they just think its juvenile behavour and we should be serious all the time. I've also found when you risk social judgement by acting a goofball it makes you more attractive because you're comfortable in your own skin and would risk being judged for the person you're attracting not that you care of their opinion as you do it for you. Its definitely quirky but it leaves no room for bullies to get under my skin and space to express my authentic personality without being too serious and nerdy

[Tyler Robinson]

Why can't you be chill and not give a fuck? 

Some insecurity stops you. You look good. You're smart based on your posts. 

I think you think too much about what someone says. 

Stop caring because people's opinions only mean as much as they hurt you. You give power to someone's opinions and then those opinions will stand tall like buildings in your mind. You gave power to these buildings. 

You allowed people to live rent free in your emotions and headspace

 

You did a disservice to your soul. Your soul didn't deserve you spending so much attention on people and neglecting yourself in the process. 

My psychic energy tells me that you horribly lack in self love. That your inner self is hungry, in pain, wanting love, attention, affection and when it's not given you feel bad, hurt, offended and begin to question things. 

My psychic energy around you is sensing that you feel like you are lacking something and you constantly obsess about things that you lack. 

My psychic energy could be wrong but these are the things my brain is intuiting. 

Advice from my psychic energy - after reading your mind psychically my psychic energy has the following advice for you. 

— avoid people pleasing. 

— Be proud and strong and self assured in who you are. 

— don't allow your emotions to be dictated or impacted by other people words and behavior. 

— your key lies in mastering your own psyche and controlling it and learning to live for yourself in dignity and peace. Understanding yourself better and finding love within rather than outside. Your healing is inside. Just unlock it. Godspeed. 

 

Edited October 26, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

[Chives99]

@Tyler Robinson  psychic energy ? isnt that just another word for intuition? Humour works well for me as i hate boring banal small talk so like to throw the getting to know people in with the humour, I suppose the defensiveness comes about as plenty of people don't accept and like autistic people, I understand that I'm strange and can frustrate and confuse people with my quirks and inside references that people dont get or misreading social cues, but the humour is my greatest strength I would say. I know older people see me as being quite juvenile as I over hear them say things like " he's so cute" which is a bit patronising, but I do me, I'm 26 but only attract women those 18-20, people my own age are either engaged, married, has a kid or two or are in a serious relationship, I've never dated that much so I'm a bit behind in my development and can better relate to those 18-20 even if society doesnt approve of age gaps, but attraction doesnt work via social rules.

Edited October 27, 2022 by Chives99

[Tyler Robinson]

@Chives99 good to know that you're already aware of your autism. Nothing to worry.I'm your age and  I have autism too. Still working on it. Got diagnosed with it this year. I find it difficult to socialize normally. 

I tend to misread social cues and get into trouble. I cannot make eye contact. 

But slowly getting there. With baby steps. What I found to help me is bits and doses of socialisation but keep it slower. 

Make friends slowly and be around people who you really trust. One at a time.