Anxious about dating

[cle103]

I have noticed the following pattern in my dating life: 

Whenever I get a girls number I become anxious and excited. Mentally I'm chill. I honestly don't care much about getting a phone number. However my body seems not so indifferent.

The night before the date I lose a couple hours of sleep and I get some mild stomach problems. Once I'm on the date I get cold super easily (which I almost never do otherwise) and I feel restless. Again, mentally I'm fine. I'm able to hold conversation, tease, kiss and so on.

It just seems that my body goes a bit haywire.  

Any thoughts, experiences? 

 

- Cheers! 

[High-valance]

I've experienced similar. I went on a pick up bootcamp once and every night after i went to bed I was tortured by really bad stomach pain. 

I guess even though the mind is chill there's actually fear that you're not being aware of, or not being fully aware of, but which is perhaps being suppressed and then manifests bodily in the ways you describe. I don't know if I'm saying something insightful or obvious here. 

and I've experienced the restlessness too, even though I have felt mostly fine mentally. like fine enough to where I first didn't think the restlessness had anything to do with the mild anxiety felt during the interaction with the girl. but now I think it might have been my body reacting to anxiety I didn't in the moment become fully aware of but which was perhaps suppressed. but I don't know though so I hope someone else will reply to your post.

 

[hoodrow trillson]

How old are you?

That goes away with age.  

[cle103]

19 hours ago, High-valance said:

I think it might have been my body reacting to anxiety I didn't in the moment become fully aware of but which was perhaps suppressed.

Was thinking along the same lines. Wonder if there's a way to work through this other than/on top of in that particular situation. 

 

18 hours ago, hoodrow trillson said:

How old are you?

Turned 25. Dating was on the back burner for a couple years though. 

[integral]

Its because there are large gaps between dates. If you where dating more often then the feeling wouldn't come, it would be natural.

To calm my nerves i normally exercise for 2 hours before the date. 

[Leo Gura]

Date more and you will get used to it.

[cle103]

Thanks guys!