My Awakening to Love

[Twinstar]

So there have been a lot of videos about love and how it is what life is about. I have been trying to realize this for myself, and this is what I have come up with:

Each person has a shadow element of my self. They reflect something about me that I don't like, a hologram of hate. They are things I hate about my being, or at least dislike and disown. The things I refuse to see in myself I can see in others.

 

My neediness, stubbornness, loneliness.

My desire to be seen, heard, held.

My desire to be right, smart, good.

My desire to not be used, yelled at, disappointed.

Every emotion, thought, and way of being.

 

Every person is me, a part of myself I didn't like and divided from. I judged them for simply being. No version of me has been perfect enough to not be cast away.

And who decides if it's perfect?

I do.

I have chosen to not label any version of myself as being good enough to remain whole and not be fragmented into holograms of hate.

 

I thought having desires was a bad thing.

So I cast them out into the world and I have neglected their being.

I have pretended they are separate from me, that they are other things.

I don't acknowledge my own self.

I have disowned who I am.

 

I need to love all of my projections.

I need to love all of their flaws and imperfections, because they are also my flaws and imperfections.

Love every thought, every word, every sensation.

Love every moment, including the present one.

At the end of the day, all we have is the present moment.

This starts now.

 

Only by fully loving others will I ever be able to fully love myself.

I need to fully love this moment, whenever that is.

 

The only thing holding me back from love is fear.

I have been worried about embracing the parts of myself that I don't like because…..I don't know why.

I don't know why I haven't fully given into love yet.

 Am I afraid of what will happen if I do?

What is the worst thing that can happen if I chose to fully love everyone and everything?

I find peace?

Then what?

 

Aha, the "then what?" is what is holding me back.

What will I do with myself once I am truly loving and peaceful?

 

I can rest in peace.

 

And what would be so bad about that?

 

Nothing.

 

 

And this is so ridiculously easy to do.

All I have to do is treat others the way I'd want to be treated.

 

They are me, so treat them how I want to treat myself.

It's so simple, I don't know how to make it less complicated.

 

Treat everything with respect, with care, with mindfulness.

Respect every object you encounter, everything you interact with.

Respect every life, artificial or not.

 

Respect myself, this current body I inhabit.

Treat it well, and do no harm upon it or others.

 

They are all part of the universe.

They are all a part of me.

They are all worthy of love.

 

The only reason I am sharing this is that I would want someone else to share something like this with me.

This is something that I would like reading, so maybe someone out there might like it as well.

[Inliytened1]

@Twinstar it's very simple.   Stop being selfish and become totally selfless    That will be Love 

Edited October 23, 2022 by Inliytened1

[Twinstar]

@Inliytened1

1 minute ago, Inliytened1 said:

totally selfless

As long as you don't forget to still take care of yourself. It's not about being totally selfless to the point where you neglect your own needs and desires. There must be a balance between being selfish and selfless.

[amanen]

2 minutes ago, Twinstar said:

@Inliytened1

As long as you don't forget to still take care of yourself. It's not about being totally selfless to the point where you neglect your own needs and desires. There must be a balance between being selfish and selfless.

Selflessness includes selfishness. It's broad. Real love includes your selfishness.

[Inliytened1]

4 minutes ago, amanen said:

Selflessness includes selfishness. It's broad. Real love includes your selfishness.

Awesome  but it actually doesn't because you have to die.

Edited October 23, 2022 by Inliytened1

[Inliytened1]

7 minutes ago, Twinstar said:

@Inliytened1

As long as you don't forget to still take care of yourself. It's not about being totally selfless to the point where you neglect your own needs and desires. There must be a balance between being selfish and selfless.

That's the catch 22.  That's God's dilemma    This dillemma is a feature not a bug.

Edited October 23, 2022 by Inliytened1

[Twinstar]

4 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

Awesome  but it actually doesn't because you have to die.

@Inliytened1 And what's so bad about death? 

 

Death is going back to nothing. It is waking up from this dream of being.

 

Death is going back to infinite possibilities. All of those possibilities are readily accessible all at once. All rooted in nothing. Nothing holds everything.

 

Imagine that when you die, you go back to a room labeled as "nothing" which has infinite doors leading out labeled as "everything". The room itself contains nothing of its own, it is made solely of other parts.

 

Everything leads back to nothing.

 

From nothing, you select which dream to pursue, if any.

You can make any dream come true, but you must first wish for it.

 

 

You can browse, see if any movie catches you eye.

 

When you are ready, you pick one and hit play.

 

You become another being with another purpose they must actualize.

 

You knew what the movie was before you hit play, but you forgot as soon as the movie started.

That is a feature, not a bug.

It's not fun to watch a movie if you know how it's going to end.

A joke isn't as funny when you already know the punchline.

 

Eventually the movie ends, the punchline is delivered, the dream is realized, the being actualizes.

Then you are back at nothing, with infinite experiences at your fingertips.

 

Which will you chose next?

 

The possibilities are infinite.

[Inliytened1]

12 minutes ago, Twinstar said:

@Inliytened1 And what's so bad about death? 

 

Death is going back to nothing. It is waking up from this dream of being.

 

Death is going back to infinite possibilities. All of those possibilities are readily accessible all at once. All rooted in nothing. Nothing holds everything.

 

Imagine that when you die, you go back to a room labeled as "nothing" which has infinite doors leading out labeled as "everything". The room itself contains nothing of its own, it is made solely of other parts.

 

Everything leads back to nothing.

 

From nothing, you select which dream to pursue, if any.

You can make any dream come true, but you must first wish for it.

 

 

You can browse, see if any movie catches you eye.

 

When you are ready, you pick one and hit play.

 

You become another being with another purpose they must actualize.

 

You knew what the movie was before you hit play, but you forgot as soon as the movie started.

That is a feature, not a bug.

It's not fun to watch a movie if you know how it's going to end.

A joke isn't as funny when you already know the punchline.

 

Eventually the movie ends, the punchline is delivered, the dream is realized, the being actualizes.

Then you are back at nothing, with infinite experiences at your fingertips.

 

Which will you chose next?

 

The possibilities are infinite.

Did u hear me say something is bad with death? Yet survival is paramount.   You will not be without bias.  But you can be conscious of your bias.  Why is Survival paramount? Bias.  It loops.  As it should  

Edited October 23, 2022 by Inliytened1

[Twinstar]

@Inliytened1 My bad, I thought you were implying that death wouldn't be awesome. You can be without bias, it just depends on your paradigm. If you stop caring about survival in a specific form, the loop can break open.

[Inliytened1]

7 minutes ago, Twinstar said:

@Inliytened1 My bad, I thought you were implying that death wouldn't be awesome. You can be without bias, it just depends on your paradigm. If you stop caring about survival in a specific form, the loop can break open.

You cannot be without bias and exist as an individual.  You're very existence is the bias. You ARE a bias. That's what you are.  You are a preference to be one thing over another 

[Twinstar]

@Inliytened1 You are correct, the paradigm shift would be away from being an individual. There wouldn't be a separate thing to prefer.