How to approach on a dance floor?(starting from dance floor)

[Rasheed]

How to approach on a dance floor? I mean, when you open at the dance floor (not talking about bringing girl to it)…I don’t think this was covered in Leo’s series, but probably it was and I need to rewatch it. If it was, just block the post, because it is unnecessary…

[petar8p]

dance and non verbal game if it's too loud to speak 

[Leo Gura]

7 hours ago, Rasheed said:

How to approach on a dance floor? I mean, when you open at the dance floor (not talking about bringing girl to it)…I don’t think this was covered in Leo’s series, but probably it was and I need to rewatch it. If it was, just block the post, because it is unnecessary…

Physical openers, very simple verbal openers like "I love you", and very strong eye contact and fun/masculine vibe.

On the dance floor you can literally just grab girls and pull them into you.

Edited October 16, 2022 by Leo Gura

[Rasheed]

2 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

Physical openers, very simple verbal openers like "I love you", and very strong eye contact and fun/masculine vibe.

On the dance floor you can literally just grab girls and pull them into you.

Thanks bro, I don’t know where would I be without your expertise. 

After physical opener, Can I just be like: “Come, let’s dance together”? Or is that too logical and rational?

I was in a bar last night dancing, I just opened up with “what’s your name”…I wanted to ask above question to dance but did not do it, thinking that kind of opener was way too logical, so that’s why I’m asking…

[petar8p]

2 hours ago, Rasheed said:

After physical opener, Can I just be like: “Come, let’s dance together”? Or is that too logical and rational?

It's not really ab what u say, but how will it come across to her. 

 

If you're confident within yourself, she will easily sense that and be pulled toward you. The words are just a vehicle for her to experience you. 

 

So get out, cultivate your confidence, become loose and get more comfortable with coming up to them, inviting them to dance with you. It should be fun but always show a bit of sexual intent behind the fun. Don't feel afraid and shameful about your desire. If you ARE, she will read that as "This guy doesn't think like he deserves me." And there's no way she will think that for you.

 

If you think your opener is too logical, you're already overthinking. Talk to a lot of people until you feel like you genuinely don't care about the outcomes that much but just wanna have fun and express yourself freely. 

 

You will feel warm, confident and loose. You will hold your space unapologetically. After this, game is pretty easy and then planning, logistics and outer game comes into play.

 

 

Edited October 16, 2022 by petar8p

[Leo Gura]

 

 

10 hours ago, Rasheed said:

Thanks bro, I don’t know where would I be without your expertise. 

After physical opener, Can I just be like: “Come, let’s dance together”? Or is that too logical and rational?

I was in a bar last night dancing, I just opened up with “what’s your name”…I wanted to ask above question to dance but did not do it, thinking that kind of opener was way too logical, so that’s why I’m asking…

Be more bold. Rather than asking, tell her, "Let's dance!".

Stop asking girls stuff. Just do stuff and lead.

Edited October 16, 2022 by Leo Gura

[Sempiternity]

17 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

Physical openers, very simple verbal openers like "I love you", and very strong eye contact and fun/masculine vibe.

On the dance floor you can literally just grab girls and pull them into you.

This is missing a very important key consideration, and that is being able to read body-language and nonverbal cues. I suggest when first approaching a woman on a dancefloor, ask a question, or tell a joke, as an opener, and read her reaction. If she smiles and engages, then you can be more assertive. If she repels, turns away, avoids eye-contact, or otherwise gives you a verbal or nonverbal cue of not receptive to your presence, then that is a "No", and a no is to be respected. 

To do what Leo is basically saying here, which is to walk to a woman dancing, say "I love you", and "literally just grab girls and pull them into you", is going to get you punched, nasty public confrontation, publicly shamed for abhorrent actions, escorted out by security, charged with assault/sexual assault, or all of the above.

This is the time of the Me Too movement and Consent culture, you don't just go up and grab a woman, without being sure she wants that, otherwise you are assuredly going to have steep consequences. Best way to be sure is to ask. 

 

[petar8p]

Too much info

[petar8p]

Find someone locally to help you. Go to some.pickup events, get friends who work on this and will go out with you and teach/encourage you.

[Leo Gura]

5 hours ago, Sempiternity said:

To do what Leo is basically saying here, which is to walk to a woman dancing, say "I love you", and "literally just grab girls and pull them into you", is going to get you punched, nasty public confrontation, publicly shamed for abhorrent actions, escorted out by security, charged with assault/sexual assault, or all of the above.

Lol

No it won't.

I've done it a thousand times and never got banned.

Edited October 17, 2022 by Leo Gura

[Sempiternity]

24 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Lol

No it won't.

I've done it a thousand times and never got banned.

What I'm talking about is reading body-language, looking for non-verbal cues, or best yet verbal confirmation, to gauge whether your physical advancement (in this case a pretty significant advancement) is wanted and welcomed. The way you make it sound, is you say "I love you", and "literally just grab girls and pull them into you", on the very first interaction, without getting any kind of consent whatsoever, or taking into consideration that maybe she might view that as unwanted, or possibly as a sexual assault? 

 

[Leo Gura]

2 hours ago, Sempiternity said:

What I'm talking about is reading body-language, looking for non-verbal cues, or best yet verbal confirmation, to gauge whether your physical advancement (in this case a pretty significant advancement) is wanted and welcomed. The way you make it sound, is you say "I love you", and "literally just grab girls and pull them into you", on the very first interaction, without getting any kind of consent whatsoever, or taking into consideration that maybe she might view that as unwanted, or possibly as a sexual assault? 

It's a dance flooor. You don't need consent. If she doesn't like you she will brush you off or give your a weird look.

Obviously you calibrate to her reactions, you don't keep forcing yourself if she isn't happy.

Edited October 17, 2022 by Leo Gura

[ZenSwift]

14 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

Physical openers, very simple verbal openers like "I love you", and very strong eye contact and fun/masculine vibe.

On the dance floor you can literally just grab girls and pull them into you.

 

Be more bold. Rather than asking, tell her, "Let's dance!".

Stop asking girls stuff. Just do stuff and lead.

I'm curious if anyone knows of any in-field footage of these kind of physical openers?

 

 My problem is that I would have a physical dance opener, grab her hand, dance for 30 seconds, and then it would flop.

 

Other scenarios would be like I was dancing very intamately with this chick and then another girl just grabbed her and started making out with her. And then proceeded to do that 30 seconds later. And then again 1 minute later.

 

Another scenario was I was dancing with a girl, trying to pull her in close so our hips were closer, and she was resisting that, but kept dancing with me??? Then one of her girlfriends literally YANKED her away from me lol.

 

Another time I would have a dance session with a girl and I would ask to move them physically too far. Like going to sit down?? Couldn't pull her aside to build repore.

 

Another time I just straight up failed to then start a conversation after dancing with her.

Edited October 17, 2022 by ZenSwift

[Leo Gura]

Physical openers are very hit-or-miss. You will get lots of blowouts. Doesn't matter, just move on to the next girl.

You need to be able convert from a physical hook to normal conversation. After some bit of dancing lead her to a quiet area to talk and build rapport. Don't just dance endlessly. Dance for 5-10 mins, then lead and pull.

Yes, their friends will often yank your girl away from you. You gotta befriend her friends a bit so they trust you and let you dance and talk.

Edited October 17, 2022 by Leo Gura

[petar8p]

1 hour ago, Leo Gura said:

After some bit of dancing lead her to a quiet area to talk and build rapport. Don't just dance endlessly. Dance for 5-10 mins, then lead and pull.

Forgot about this.. Thanks

[Rasheed]

5 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

Physical openers are very hit-or-miss. You will get lots of blowouts. Doesn't matter, just move on to the next girl.

You need to be able convert from a physical hook to normal conversation. After some bit of dancing lead her to a quiet area to talk and build rapport. Don't just dance endlessly. Dance for 5-10 mins, then lead and pull.

Yes, their friends will often yank your girl away from you. You gotta befriend her friends a bit so they trust you and let you dance and talk.

That was super helpful, thanks.