Important differences between Female and Male Spiral Growth

[integral]

TRANSCEND AND INCLUDE/EXCLUDE

The sexes not only play different roles in the co-creation of consciousness development, but also grow through the stages differently. Males, who tend to be single-focused (agentic) and growth-oriented (ascending), advance through them by transcending and excluding the limited views of the previous levels through negation, dissociation, and repression. Females, who tend to be relational (communal) and fulfillment-oriented(descending), tend to transcend and include previous stages through attachment, fusion, and preservation. As a consequence, males act more consistently from the highest level of consciousness that they have reached, and have a hard time tolerating the behavior, values, and worldviews of people in stages below or above them (i.e., let’s force our views onto others by getting them up to our standards or rein them in to our level). Females, who are conditioned by evolution to rear children (who naturally all start out at the infrared level) and to accommodate a male protector/provider, unconsciously float between the stages that they have transcended. This makes their personality seemingly more complex than that of males. 

For example, a postmodern green woman may at times experience irrational existential fears (beige), trust her horoscope to make decisions(purple), selfishly emasculate her partner to protect her emotional wounds (red), subscribe to family- and home-oriented magazines to improve her skills as a mother and wife (blue), pursue a career in the corporate world to become financially independent (orange), and support an environmental organization to stop global warming (green). This fluidity between the stages also explains why most women in first-tier consciousness don’t think hierarchically and either reject the idea of vertical stage development in adults altogether, experience growth and development as a smooth horizontal expansion rather than a clumsy vertical climb up a hierarchical ladder, or see only men as moving through individual stages of development after adolescence but not women.

Because men in first-tier consciousness relate to others predominantly from their highest level of consciousness development, they resonate with their partner (or other people for that matter) only at the highest common denominator that they share. For example, a postmodern green wife with a husband at the orange level may feel met by him in her rational and material needs, but disconnected when she flows to lower or higher stages. She can then either repress the feelings, views, and needs that originate from the spectrum of her consciousness outside his range, and feel unfulfilled; constantly nag him to connect with her (by being emotionally available); or meet her needs with respect to others, such as joining a conformist church (blue), a feminist group (green/red), an astrology class (purple), and/or a pagan circle (beige/green). In other words, a woman feels increasingly disconnected from her first-tier partner with every higher stage that she has adapted to. This is one of the reasons (the others being socioeconomic and psychological) why there are so many single women (and consequently men who can’t attract a partner) in the orange and green stages.

This all changes in second-tier consciousness, where relationships are no longer driven by deficiency needs, but by Being values. Teal males begin to integrate, and turquoise males embody, the healthy feminine and masculine qualities of every previous stage, which allows them to meet their partner and others with empathy at any level (or state) of consciousness that they may experience.

Source book Integral Relationships. 

Edited October 11, 2022 by integral

[Twinstar]

This is fascinating, thanks for sharing! 

[aurum]

@integral

There definitely needs to be more discussion about the differences between men and women when it comes to spiral development.

For instance, it’s easy to basically just paint every modern woman as green because she seems to value relationships, emotional connection, etc.

However, I think the conclusions drawn in this particular post are shakey at best. I don’t see a woman reading her horoscope as a sign she is more inclusive of her stage Purple or her emasculating her parter as Red. Not all behavior is easily mapped to the spiral model.

 

[Tefikos]

How feminist groups are red?:D

This is really interesting and important topic, but I believe there are many other factors also in play, that are creating the difference.

In higly green Finland for example, the game tactics that works in states, doesn't work that well here, because women doesn't value that dominant and macho males anymore.

 

[King Merk]

Interesting stuff. Thanks for sharing. 

[Hello from Russia]

Hehe, I see that you liked that book after all

[axiom]

6 hours ago, aurum said:

 

@integral

There definitely needs to be more discussion about the differences between men and women when it comes to spiral development.

Less, not more. Unless you want to bind spirituality with politics.

Remember, all differences are imaginary. They are worth exploring only to the extent you wish to dive deeper into the dream.

Discard the relative.

[Bobby_2021]

2 hours ago, Tefikos said:

How feminist groups are red?:D

This is really interesting and important topic, but I believe there are many other factors also in play, that are creating the difference.

In higly green Finland for example, the game tactics that works in states, doesn't work that well here, because women doesn't value that dominant and macho males anymore.

They say they don't want macho males. But it is yet to verify if their actions and behaviour are in congruence with what they say. 

[aurum]

10 hours ago, axiom said:

Remember, all differences are imaginary. They are worth exploring only to the extent you wish to dive deeper into the dream.

Discard the relative.

The relative has value. I’m not claiming these distinctions are the equivalent of awakening.

It’s because making distinctions are so useful that we need to be careful not to confuse them with higher spiritual wisdom. But that’s not what I’m doing here. This is mostly about pragmatism.

[integral]

On 10/11/2022 at 4:59 AM, Hello from Russia said:

Hehe, I see that you liked that book after all

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