my sexuality is weird

[Majed]

at first i was attracted to women, then also to men, then also to transgenders, and now i am also attracted to young girls like children, is this normal ?

[Pavement]

If you’re sexually attracted to children then please get help before you act on any sexual urges 

[Majed]

@Thought Art namaste 

[Leo Gura]

Not normal

[Yarco]

The definition of "normal" is average, typical, standard. The majority of people are only attracted to members of the opposite sex, so by definition you'd be outside the norm.

But I think what you're really asking is whether you should be concerned.

If you have any persistent urges that you're going to commit non-consentual acts, or with minors, then I would seek some kind of help as suggested above. If you have a persistent attraction to pre-pubescent children I would seek help either way. If you're attracted to something like 16 or 17 year olds but know that you can't act on it, I'd say that's closer to normal/typical.

[Tefikos]

@Majed

I had similar sexual urges in the past as well, before I made peace with my sexuality and embraced it. I realized that when I think that my sexuality is bad and try to repress it, then I will get urges toward things that are bad and shameful. I am a bi-sexual so I had a lot of shame around my sexulity and the shame was the reason for sexual urges toward the most shameful things.

Also when they're just fantasies, there is nothing wrong with them, most progressive sexual therapists would tell the same.

[Majed]

@Leo Gura it is not within the norm, but do you it is pathological or maybe dysfunctional ?

[Value]

We all have our "quirks". Don't worry, just don't act out on any urges toward children.

[Majed]

@Leo Gura i mean isn't the distinction between men and women, or adults and children, a supercial, man made construction, sort of an artificial oversimplification of the situation, like where do you draw the line really between adults and children, "18 years old" yeah but it varies, like you have 18 years old that look older than 23 years old and vice versa. adults and children, those categories are overgeneralization in a sense, each individual is unique and different, "women", "man', "adults", "children" are just abstract categories 

[Girzo]

@Majed They are abstract categories, but they serve a purpose, they are not for nothing. They were created, because there was a need for them. And there are rules around them, because they also have been needed.

[Bojan V]

In European countries the age of consent spans from 14 to 18 years of age. Here in Slovenia the age of consent is 16. Years ago in Croatia it was 14, but now it is 15. 

Certainly do NOT have any sex with children!

The attraction to legaly adult people in your country is ok.

[Leo Gura]

@Majed It's generally not a problem except for the children part.

Edited October 9, 2022 by Leo Gura

[Kross]

No, it's not normal at all. I have a feeling you're terminally online and are looking at too much low quality porn on random trash porn sites - work on cutting that.

Edited October 9, 2022 by Kross

[Roy]

You need to satisfy your sexuality in a healthy reliable way, like getting a girlfriend or a fuck buddy.

If you don't address it in a sustainable way your urges are going to go rampant, and you'll crave more and more taboo kinks to please yourself. It can spiral out of control, like a drug dependency.

I'd consider consulting a sex therapist for a few sessions, they will be able to uncover anything you feel is off.

[Osaid]

Don't overthink it. Sexuality can be less grounded than people like to think. As a baseline you should stay true to your values and don't harm other people, obviously.

Also, if you are doing some sort of practice which is repressing your sexuality, like no-fap, that may be the cause for any drastic fluctuations in sexual interests you might be seeing. You have to seriously avoid doing any edging or extreme sexual repression during such practices, otherwise you will get even more obsessed with porn and sexual desires, and those desires can evolve drastically as a result.

 

[The Mystical Man]

19 hours ago, Majed said:

attracted to young girls like children

How old are those girls? I think most men are attracted to what Nabokov called "Nymphets". That doesn't make you a pedophile, unless you're attracted to two-year-olds. And if you are a pedophile, please be a virtuous pedophile.

[Vibroverse]

Guys, think wisely before you write something here. Don't forget that this is public domain. And it's okay to get professional help if you cannot get over some of your problems. It's okay to have psychological problems, but don't turn it into your identities. 

 

[Thought Art]

The biggest thing is: You develop a healthy expression of your sexuality. 
 

If you need professional assistance I believe it is available. 

[integral]

I've said this before but I experimented masturbating to chess to see if it would improve my chess skill. It didnt work but now I cant play with out an erection. Becarful for what you wish for lmaooo

If only there was a way to become sexually attracted to wisdom.  Hmmmm it might involve becoming sexual stimulated to love itself, or reality itself.

Moral of the story, sexuality can become arbitrary once the ability is unlocked. Sexuality is a property of the universe. 

Edited October 11, 2022 by integral

[Osaid]

6 minutes ago, integral said:

If only there was a way to become sexually attracted to wisdom.

look up sapiosexuality