___ g_Embodying the Healer archetype

[Tyler Robinson]

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So it's a wrap. 

What do I want to gain from this forum? 

• I want to learn concepts and ideas from people 
• Social skills 
• I like interaction but not too much 
• I like being friendly and positive people. 

 

What do I want to give to this forum? 

• I don't have too much to give 
• I'm mostly an explorer learner 
• Whatever others can learn from my journey 
• Give someone an alternate perspective on their situation 
• Whatever little that I can share that others might find useful 
• My suggestions aren't great. But I always try. 
• Hugs 

 

What do I want to avoid on this forum? 

• Nonsense and drama. 
• People engaging in negative language 
• Simps and hypocrites 

 

 

 

Edited September 21, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

[Tyler Robinson]

 

On 9/11/2022 at 5:52 AM, Tyler Robinson said:

 

This is a thought provoking question and I would like to expand on the machinations of porn. 

 

I never watch porn. Porn is a dirty unfiltered obnoxious greedy version of sex.. It looks like filthy gratification to me. 

If I want to imagine sex, I imagine myself fully in love with my ex lover and them making out with me. It's so satisfying and purifying. 

Actually porn destroyed the beauty and Purity of sex and reduced it to some kind of a hellish robotic act of hedonistic fantasy. Gross. 

But real sex with a lover is a divine act of intimacy which I recently felt with my ex lover. It's so beautiful that you can never forget it. 

Real sex is divine, pure, child like, innocent. It's like eating ice cream together. 

There's a ton of love in sex that I felt and it's unforgettable. 

I think your real issue is that you never experienced true physical deep beautiful passionate intimacy. And substituted it early on with porn. 

I hope you do. 

What will heal you is deep intimacy and a positive guilt free understanding of pure sex. 

 

 

Lay off the porn and fall in love. Make love not porn. 

 

 

On 9/11/2022 at 6:01 AM, Tyler Robinson said:

 

I don't know how to answer this question. It's like a mixture of things. 

 

 

[Tyler Robinson]

 

On 9/14/2022 at 5:27 AM, Tyler Robinson said:

 

About main theme of the topic:
There is a very good book on going about this topic for stage yellow+ men called "Integral Relationship" (Martin Ucik). It's written by a buddy of Ken Wilber and has very good frameworks on how to determine and sort of map your "one" girl to deeply understand where to look and how.

It also touches a lot on how different spiral types typically relate to each other in intimate relationships (Sorry for poor quality, can't find any better unfortunately)

 

 

 

He also introduces such a thing as sexual development and sexual stages of development and describes/integrates a ton of frameworks about them and all things sexual. Such a profound stage yellow + work tbh. 

 

 

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[Tyler Robinson]

 

 

If someone wants a poly relationship, they can move to Canada you know. Canada has a large population of poly people. 

In America most people are mono..which is a good thing especially in the Bible belt. Places like Utah are good for me. 

And im glad that I found my lover in the Bible belt. It's all very mono there and he is mono too so win win for me. 

Seriously if you're looking for poly move to Canada I suggest. You won't be disappointed. 

 

 

[Tyler Robinson]

 

I have to fucking give myself an award. 

I won. I won. I won. I won this struggle at last. 

Finally!!!!! 

I worked hard and it has paid off. 

Never going to be trapped into the net of that Beast who tried to exploit my Vulnerability. 

I'm free now.. You can do nothing to me anymore. 

You got it? 

I'm free at last. 

My struggles and sorrows have finally paid off. 

Now come what may, I can finally face it. 

I won't be miserable anymore. 

Cinderella got her glass slippers 

 

Now I do not have to worry about jealous maniacs any more. 

In the end I am the winner.

No matter what, I won. 

My biggest delight comes from knowing that you can't exploit me anymore. 

Of course that is going to trigger greatly. Who cares. Go to hell. 

Abusers can never let their victims have a happy time. They get jealous lol. They feel intense anger when the victim chooses to never return back to manipulative exploits and traps 

But I'm free at last. That's a huge victory I should celebrate.. 

I put my foot down firmly and put an end to their constant abuse of my trust.. Glad I did.. I didn't realize the level of toxicity that I was getting into. 

But finally glad that I put my foot down and put an end to their presence in my life for good. 

 

[Tyler Robinson]

 

Not sure. A lot of intelligent and sophisticated people can be quite nerdy and so they lack the romantic qualities or style of communication which can be easily off putting and boring. For romantic attraction, the dude needs to be a bit poetic, emotional, soft, a good listener and someone who knows how to charm with smooth talk. And this might not need intellectual sophistication but these guys are smarter than average still, smart is a bit different from being intelligent, it's being Street smart, so these guys are good at daily mannerisms, nice skills in the social area and a bit smarty. They're clever, they know how to be witty. It doesn't come down to the conversation you're having, math or physics. It's how you can turn conversation, even the most boring ones exciting, stimulating and then make it romantic towards the end or insert romantic aphorisms in between to get naughty and make her smile Or blush in the middle of the conversation where she is not only being loaded with the conversation but little tidbits of flirty stock thrown her way so she feels the warmth and the excitement from the guy. But not being too pushy about it, keeping it light hearted and chill, pushiness can make the girl feel awkward or tensed or make the guy look like a try hard or wannabe, it should be effortless and natural and this would need chemistry between the two. Tango. 

 

 

Edited September 21, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

[Tyler Robinson]

I'll call this the molding technique. 

 

 

 

Edited September 21, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

[Tyler Robinson]

 

It's true that 1+1=2 does not exist in the sense that it is something to be discovered or located somewhere. But it's rather a reliable method to make communication easier, and so it's usefulness matters alot. Math is acknowledge based on it's usefulness, but it can also be worshiped for less useful reasons as with anything that can make a big impact of some sort.

 

[Tyler Robinson]

This thread is important to me. 

 

[Tyler Robinson]

Oof. There's so much to unpack here. I'm tired right now. I could faint. 

But this is important. This question. 

It reminds me of the stuff I went through and battled with. 

Will talk at length later. 

 

[Tyler Robinson]

I'll discuss this with Josh.