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[Tyler Robinson]

 

 

Egoic love is so different than Spiritual love, spiritual people have no excessive attachment to each others. there may be some strong non-conditional emotions shared between them, they are just emotions and sexual instincts, spiritual people realize that emotions and sexual instincts just comes and goes as a natural state of all human beings, and they are so honest to admit that to each others. a romantic spiritual love within my understanding (and I deem as perfect) is made of deep and honest understanding between the couple, they have no problem to joyfully accept that they don't no longer has feelings. no cheating, no lies, no sneaking around, it's up to them next if they want to continue living to together to support each others, or to break up, they will remain in a default sense of compassion, but no excessive attachment. no heart-breaking and drama.

                        

 

Edited November 22, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

[Tyler Robinson]

 

                          

All in all, relationships can simultaneously be our livelihood as well as merely a tool for self development. Regardless, it is what you make of it. I'd advise you to really challenge yourself and see how honest you can get with a person. Somebody on the path to enlightenment will be easily held back by relationships... but allow your love time to see you and your beautiful intentions for what they are, first and foremost. Give them the chance to show you who they can be, just as you are doing for yourself. A couple committed to enlightenment should ideally know what is best for their fate. Love at the very least is a way to experience this short life. Honor love in all forms and above all be true to yourself.

                       

 

Edited November 22, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

[Tyler Robinson]

 

                   

 

Stop worrying! Number 1 rule for authentically connecting with other people - say what you think and think what you say - if they don't accept you, so what? Why would you want to be friends with someone who doesnt value you for who you are!

 

                  

 

Edited November 22, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

[Tyler Robinson]

 

                       

There are multiple levels to communication, body language, tone of voice, word selection (i.e. flirting), etc, all of which has an instant impact (on first and lasting impressions) of the person who is on the receiving end of that communication (even non verbal, or you haven't even spoken a word to them yet).

                       

 

Edited November 22, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

[Tyler Robinson]

 

                       

 

Narcissism, Covert Narcissism, Co-Dependency. It helps you see how exactly your psyche was manipulated as a child. Putting some conscious light on that can be really helpful. Look into setting boundaries, feeling the emotional body, getting intimate with your inner child, establishing a sense of self-worth, practicing gratitude etc. Some old but good stuff on that is from Pia Mellody (YouTube). Richard Grannon, Ross Rosenberg, Teal Swan might be some people worth looking at.

Besides that the whole area of self love, stuff from Matt Kahn, Bentinho Massaro and enlightenment work in general might help you. 

Take your time for that you brain literally needs to be programmed over time. 

This one is really great:

 

                          

 

Edited November 22, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

[Tyler Robinson]

 

                         

 

The more you find your equilibrium the less anxious and jealous, needy you will feel.. Because you will become aware that you really don't need anybody anymore, just learn to enjoy them in the same manner you enjoy yourself.. They may come and go, but you can't be abandoned anymore => you have yourself

What is more, you can be able to accept every feeling as well, honor them and even to savor them. It may seem crazy but they all have their flavours, colors and aliveness. Take a look deep look at them instead of trying to fight them 

                     

 

Edited November 22, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

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[Tyler Robinson]

 

                      

 

Generally speaking though, men are more visual, they like what they see and they will get to know you based on their visual attraction of a woman. Women have to have an attraction to a man, however if someone was say 'average looking' but they understood how this hot girl thinks and connects with her in a way that other males don't, like this person understands her, the attraction is more of a huge turn on then a hot guy just talking crap. Girl base most things on an emotional level and how well you can connect with us on an emotional level.

                          

 

Edited November 22, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

[Tyler Robinson]

 

                        

 

Your appearance is your entrance ticket, if we find man attractive, we'll talk with him, vice versa. And then after a talk we decide if we're going to meet him again or not. Sometimes we make compromises about looks, but about personality never. And be aware that men to get attracted for a girl need few seconds, we women need a lot of time because it is based on personality and we are sometimes unsure how to judge someone. 

                           

 

Edited November 22, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

[Tyler Robinson]

 

                             

A soul mate is usually described as someone who compliments you perfectly. You think the same way & finish each other's sentences. You "might as well be one person". You "complete" each other. Of course, that is the most popular definition of a soul mate.

Edited November 22, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

[Tyler Robinson]

 

                          

 

each person only experiences a small subset of reality we call it perspective.. so others perspective are invaluable as it broadens our own. It is impossible to experience it all on our own given the limitations of our senses and time ect.. so its really handy to have access to lots of different perspectives.. It does not complete us at all in any way, but the exchange is invaluable..

Think more along the lines of,,, we synergize our differences,,, rather than,,, compliment each other..

the very nature of our existence is that we live in a body with few senses and limited access to the whole story.. I have not been enlightened and I dont know how much extra perspective this gives you, I imagine its just a teaser for how much we are missing. I dont think we can be complete or even should be.. we are far too busy just making the best of what we have.. I think this should be good enough..

From my perspective enlightenment is not a goal. it is more like medicine.. helps you to realise that there is so much more and not get bogged down .. its always there reminding us of how much is out there.. 

for me it makes more sense to be the best i can be. is being enlightened the best I can be I dont know.. 

                      

 

Edited November 22, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

[Tyler Robinson]

 

                           

Every time you feel anger or anxiety, write all the details of it (circumstances, what you feel, why you feel this negative emotion) in a journal. It will definitely help you to calm down long-term.

 

Edited November 22, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

[Tyler Robinson]

I'll just put the whole forum on ignore and continue with my life. 

 

[Tyler Robinson]

 

                            

 

Whatever comes up accept it and then decide what you want to do about it.. Accept the realities of the situation.. Not outwardly , i mean inwardly.. Try to avoid thoughts like the "oh they make me angry " Think in terms of " oh I get angry when"  Drill down on this emotions that come up and find out where they come from and get help from us about what you can do about them.. 

 

Edited November 22, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

[Tyler Robinson]

 

                         

As Coach Corey Wayne puts it, there are three phases in a relationship : the attraction phase, the dating phase, and then the relationship itself. I want to develop myself to be good at all three. What I'm really looking for is a resource that will change my psychology, and help me be more attractive, romantic, loving, sexual, etc.

 

Edited November 22, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

[Tyler Robinson]

 

                         

 

what does being in a relationship with a cheater have to do with love.  There is no connection between the two.  Human identities can have relationships with just about anyone or anything, for any reason and pretend that it is love.  The human identity has never experienced love, it only experiences feelings from emotional and mental state assuming that is love, but it isn't.  The situation is for human identities that are functioning in an unconscious manner.

 

                    

 

Edited November 22, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

[Tyler Robinson]

                            

 

I feel massive levels of discomfort saying something as harsh as "fuck off" to someone. 

As women we are trained (through evolution) to be docile and neat. Anything we say is usually used against to portray us negatively. 

If a woman doesn't act coy, she is considered unwomanly and shamed. 

That discomfort, shame, fear, guilt complex prevents us from being too harsh with men. 

And not that guys take rejection politely either. Some guys leave threats, act rude etc 

I remember one time on a dating site a guy was chatting with me and I was trying to avoid him and being blunt with the rejection, the next thing he did was tell everyone not to talk to me. That I was an unfriendly person. 

Most guys aren't open minded or pleasant with rejection. They take it to heart and the woman risks losing her reputation for being harsh. 

 

Edited November 22, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

[Tyler Robinson]

 

                       

Have you noticed that no matter how much you snuggle up to someone, or no matter how close and intimate you be with someone, you can never quite get to the place you want to get? You can never quite get close enough?

You can never quite expose yourself enough to get all that love and affection you want? You want infinite love right? You want to be really close to your bf and family? You want to keep going until you almost be one with that person, become those people?

And its so frustrating, because the physical world is stopping you! Stopping you from being close to them. You yearn to love them and be with them so much, but they are so far away.

... if you would just let go of that boundary, of all boundaries, let yourself be infinitely close with them, stop being confined to your body, and be the people you want to be close with.

Then that craving will be fulfilled, with tears coming down your eyes too...

you don't need to hug them physically to get all that juicy love you want, all you need to do is hug them with awareness.

                                   

 

Edited November 22, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

[Tyler Robinson]

 

 

In my honest opinion....

Every person is a free agent. They can come and go as they please.

Focus only on your own self-development, unless invited by the other.

Be ruthfully honest in all aspects. No deceptions, no emotional blackmail, no ignoring what the other is saying to you about you or the dating.

Everybody is like a train going on a journey. If your date likes your journey/destination, your date will want to get on your train. If they no longer want to go where you are going, they will get off. So lets hope that your self development journey is attractive to your date. Otherwise you can still persist on your journey without your date, or you might find your date's journey even better than your own, and join on that person's journey.

                              

 

Edited November 22, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

[Tyler Robinson]

 

 

Own your sexuality. If you are horny enough to doggystyle a tree-stump 24/7, own it. It's you. It's your desires. There's nothing to be ashamed of no matter what others or society at large tells you. It's not like it'll magically morph your personality.So don't worry about it. Be very clear in your intention. Others will genuinely respect you for it and if they dislike you, then it's also genuine. But who cares? They aren't worth hanging around/befriending. Find someone else. There are literally billions to pick from. It isn't worth the hassle to make someone who doesn't even like the real you like a thin veneer of personality you establish.

So if they reject you... don't worry about it. They literally did you a favor by not including themselves in your life.

Edited November 22, 2022 by Tyler Robinson