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[Tyler Robinson]

 

 

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[Tyler Robinson]

 

                        

 

Putting women on a pedestal is harmful to both men and women 

Let me explain. 

Leo calls it oneitis. 

For oneitis there are 2 major causes:

First, you think that she is the only girl that you will end up with. So the problem here is that you are not independent and need her for giving you female attention. That would be the easier thing to handle. In that case, even if it's hard you gotta find other woman to date. Even if it's not what you want in the first place. It even might better your friendship, or it causes the situation to change since she sees that you are attractive to other woman and she will start getting attracted on another level as well. 

                    

 

Second, the more complex cause is that you are seeing traits in her that you actually want for yourself. As an easy example, if you got near to 0 self love you will suffer from oneitis if someone comes in and actually is there for you and picks you up over and over, because your subconscious mind will think that you won't get this anywhere else, not to speak from yourself. In this case, it's a compass, it is showing you which qualities you lack to be in a good relationship with yourself. That will include some serious emotional work, but it's the path to freedom, not a nice one though. Oneitis always shows you your weaknesses and what you lack as a person. It will always get you down first. 

Note though, that you can only solve the situation inside out. Changing any circumstances won't help, beside taking time off. Trying to work with the state you are in won't get you far. So maybe think about what is actually it that is causing you to feel that way, put aside any story you are telling yourself about "real love" "the one" etc. - be brutally honest, then you shall gain. 

                      

 

 

 

Edited November 19, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

[Tyler Robinson]

 

                      

 

There is a fundamental truth in life that most of us seem to forget: there will be people that want a relationship with us, and people that don't. And either way is not a problem. The only problem is when we idolise and obsess over one person in the belief that they are the only one. And as has already been mentioned, this can be caused by a lack of abundance in your life, or it can be the result of having too much unsatisfying time on your hand such that you are not only looking for something uplifting, but also that you have so much time to sit thinking about it. The latter issue being caused by not investing more energy in to creating a generally more satisfying life. It's very easy to look to relationships to bring some 'cheer' in to our lives when everything else feels lacking.

              

Edited November 19, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

[Tyler Robinson]

 

                 

 

Emotional Mastery 

 

It all starts with self-acceptance and self-investment. If you don't have that, then what the fuck are you doing? I mean really. Then, pursuits like fitness or dating will be driven by an egotistical insecurity, which will be destructive to yourself and others. If dating is hard for somebody, instead of getting pissed and reactive about it, they should look at it holistically. Thinking you're entitled to women's sexual and romantic companionship when you're not able to attract/maintain it is essentially saying you're willing to compromise others' well-being for your own egotistical gain. If women don't want to be with you, there's a good reason why. Be empathetic to that. As well as yourself, and work on improving what you want to improve. 

                     

 

Edited November 19, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

[Tyler Robinson]

 

                       

 

My advice in general to men who put women on a pedestal is —

Please just work on yourself: mature up by doing the work: learn about life, learn about yourself: by reading, by willingly joining life: trying physically anything that matters to you, that makes you interested and curious: go check them out, taste them: then sit and evaluate and get closer to know yourself better: not in a spiritual way; in a simple practical way: your likes, dislikes, what cheers you up etc. 

                              

So use your energy this way: a constructive way towards your life: 'your way' of living thus mature up your psyche. You will see some other voyagers on that way: some will be your friends; some will be more than friends; and there will be very resonating ones... but. Put your attention, put your heart, put your focus on to be on the path to be yourself, to find yourself, to understand yourself and mature yourself.. then the female energy -in any vital, necessary form to your being- will gonna do the follow through. But you need to learn how to take the lead first. As its nature, female energy won't lead: if you chase after that, it won't get you anywhere. Don't waste your energy trying to figure out where to find the females, the ones you want in your life, that'll only exhaust you. Get into the life the way you wanna partake, the way you wanna exist, do the things you wanna do, try the things you wanna try, they will show up on that road. 

                         

 

Edited November 19, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

[Tyler Robinson]

 

                            

 

Order in relationship. Relationship with ourselves and with others. I never really heard much about “self acrualization before this forum. But I think it’s similar to the way I prefer to live. Self knowing which means seeing and understanding in the nature of thought. And freedom from thought “the self” to make for healthier relations with myself and one another. 

                          

 

Edited November 19, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

[Tyler Robinson]

 

                      

 

One thing about nice guys is that the "nice guy" thing is often guys being frustrated at the expectation of getting girls or being "confident"(=arrogant) when in actuality girls themselves are the ones confused about what they want. So they are met with an impossible task of pleasing contrary sides of a girl. They should just focus on improving themselves and meeting a girl who has their stuff straight.

                   

So if there are more nice guys now it probably means that girls are starting to realize that they don't have to take shit from guys so much, which leaves girls in an awkward spot of still being attracted to douchebags as their best choice, but also wanting a nice guy. So then "nice guys" learn that if they pretend to be nice, they should get the girl then since girls don't want douchebags anymore. But girls end up not really wanting a "nice guy" and maybe suppressing what they want, since they can't transform the lust for the douchebags into love and passion. Guys should also realize that there's a point to being both nice and blunt when fitting and doing it with their own style and honestly same with girls. Balance of course leads to actualizing which is terrifying. A girl/guy who wants to stick to their ego can't handle being with an actualizing girl/guy because it would reveal their own lies, which also discourages actualizing since you might be left alone at the top. 

                  

 

Edited November 19, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

[Tyler Robinson]

Amish community sex. 

 

[Tyler Robinson]

Deviant sexual fantasies 

Sex is the merging of energies 

Intimacy 

Sex is elusive 

Healthy sex 

Sexual insecurities

 

Will talk about these. 

                         

 

 

Edited November 19, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

[Tyler Robinson]

Can it be possible to experience normal love with deviant sexual fantasies? 

What does the heart want? 

What does the pussy want? 

What does the brain want? 

 

                 

 

Edited November 19, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

[Tyler Robinson]

Sometimes I feel like sex is like spirituality. 

 

[Tyler Robinson]

The thought of sex consumes me so much to the point that I want to drink poison and die. 

 

Is sex nothing more than getting fucked by a desirable guy?

 

                      

 

Edited November 19, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

[Tyler Robinson]

 

                               

 

I felt so romantic for him. He almost conquered me. 

I was getting all these feelings when he was in my journal 

He was so persuasive. It felt unreal 

 

My first thought was - what does he want? 

 

That day I had butterflies in my stomach. 

I couldn't resist 

Edited November 19, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

[Tyler Robinson]

 

                    

 

Sometimes emotinal attachment can be a huge problem especially in a relationship where not much is known about the other person.

So holding off sex is a good idea.

For me sex is not biological.

For me sex is the greatest spiritual act. 

So when i have sex I'm deeply Emotional and deeply emotinally bonded to the other person I'm having sex with.

So having sex is a gateway to getting attached quickly.

It's very difficult to back out/off once you get attached in the relationship. Then there are all sorts of justifications for the other person's behaviours.

I know all this because I have been there.

I don't want another abusive relationship where it's difficult to back out simply because of emotional and sexual attachment.

Holding off/back sex will give plenty opportunity to gauge the depth of my relationship and see where it's going before I plan to fully commit.

I never had commitment phobia in relationships, time to develop some 

 

                

Edited November 19, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

[Tyler Robinson]

 

                              

 

How long can deviant fantasies last? 

I'll get bored of it eventually. 

I like role playing and I enjoyed anal sex in my wet dreams.. 

Edited November 19, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

[Tyler Robinson]

 

                   

I have to say that the male hormone testosterone is one damn hormone.

 

If a man is very masculine and full of it, he automatically releases those pheromones whereby he appears very attractive to a hormonal female 

 

And that's what happens to me 

 

(Now I'm not talking about biker gang shit here )

 

When I see masculine men(not body building type lol, they are fake and ostentatious, I get put off by that ) but the masculine men who are caring, authoritarian, protective and appear to be in charge of themselves appear extremely extremely extremely attractive even if they don't have masculine bodies , that's fine with me.

 

But my horniness reaches a peak when I see a punky guy being extremely self confident .

 

It's a signal that he is well aware of who he is. 

            

 

Edited November 19, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

[Tyler Robinson]

 

                               

 

Sometimes I end up crying thinking about how my sexual instincts can rule my mind and cause me to get exploited in relationships.

It's a harsh reality of being human that we have little control over our desires.

I wish I had received fulfilling love early on in my life 

I wouldn't have felt like a wanderer.

It's tough.......

 

A understanding non judgemental guy would have been such a great help.

 

But the patriarchy teaches men to shame women who are open about their sexuality 

              

 

Edited November 19, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

[Tyler Robinson]

 

                     

 

Sometimes I think in my dreams of a man who is making love with me not just to fulfill his male agenda with me but also Because he wants to fulfill me as a woman as well. Because he considers my sexual desires as well.

 

Often with my past boyfriends, it was only their sexual desires that were super important during sex leaving me feeling dissatisfied and unfulfilled as a woman.

 

I think a man (while having sex) should also consider how the woman feels and what she desires rather than thinking only about himself 

 

It can lead to feelings of being used as an object.

 

It doesn't fulfill me Emotionally and sexually when a man is having sex with me to only get what he wants 

 

 

               

 

Edited November 19, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

[Tyler Robinson]

I don't wish to survive on deviant sexual fantasies. 

It makes me guilty. 

[Tyler Robinson]

 

 

 

I had a dream and in the dream I was trying to steal a married man from his wife. 

He was tall, had an angular face and frankly handsome. 

His wife was unattractive, timid and short. 

He was a bit lazy though. 

I asked him for my passport since he had kept it with him. 

His wife was cordial with me. 

He was flirting with me in my dream. 

I flirted with him too. 

 

 

In real though I will never mess with a married man. I know better. I have never dated a married man or even a man who already has a girlfriend. I'm not a home wrecker. The man belongs to the woman he married or his gf. So I don't like the idea of stealing another woman's man. I consider it bad karma or sin. Good girl lol.. 

 

Edited November 21, 2022 by Tyler Robinson