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[Tyler Robinson]

 

                

                        

You have angelic eyes. 

You have the deepest blue most beautiful eyes..

Your hair is light and crisp 

Your skin is so Sublime. 

You have the sweetest spots on you. 

You are so handsome and so adorable. 

I keep looking at you, like a lovesick puppy. 

When I look at you I'm lost in your deep eyes. 

Your heart is so sweet and light. 

I fell in love with you when I saw you 

Because I could see your kindness 

I will never have a lover like you 

You are my soulmate.

You make me calm. 

You Make me happy 

Just knowing that you do so much for me 

 

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[Tyler Robinson]

 

                      

 

How should I find a compatible boyfriend/partner and what should I look for in him? 

? Mentality match 

? Romantic match 

? Sexual match 

? Physical match 

? Age match 

? Attitude match 

? Stage Red Qualities 

? Vibe Match or Energy Match 

? Dom Personality /Father Figure type 

? Zodiac sexual attraction 

? Zodiac compatibility 

? Character match 

?Heart and intent match 

?Respect match 

?Maturity, mental age match 

?Intellectual match 

? Life purpose match.(not necessary) 

 

                      

 

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[Tyler Robinson]

Of course my butt. 

And it needs some love. 

 

                                 

 

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[Tyler Robinson]

 

                   

 

Masculinity in a sexual sense is not dependent on how nice or not nice you are. In sexual sense, masculinity is about raw power, the ability to be sexually appealing, without being forceful (because that's criminal ),  to be able to exude a raw sexiness through domination, the man who seems like he can take charge of literally anything like a king is very attractive to the feminine, this doesn't mean that the man has to be a bad guy, he doesn't, he can be a good guy, yet be very daring and assertive, his fearlessness, his lioness-ess is very attractive, his ability plays a main role here, character takes back seat, obviously if he acts like an asshole the relationship will eventually end, however attraction is a brain thing, it's not decided by the heart  so character will only be a factor in the long term, but at first sight or at least sexually, a man who has this raw power, the ability to totally control her desires, the ability to get her without consent, without actually violating her consent, that is without using physical force, yet being able to assert such power as though he owns her through intense eye contact (eye contact being an important part of this game ),  fulminating her whole place with his masculinity, almost leaving his scent everywhere having that attitude "I'll have you no matter what, " without actually using force, but by using seductive mental tricks, inserting himself in her mind all the time, almost invading her mind space, making her feel fragile and helpless (a state he would even replicate in bed by intensely owning her femininity and forcing himself through her body, obviously after consent, and showing his full power in owning her sexually ) and making her feel wanted at the same time by showing constant interest in wanting her, pursuing her intensely and making her beg for his domination and making her feel special and owned without hurting her or abusing, but by showing how much he wants is very appealing to a woman.  

However nice guys don't do this. They are nice but they lack sexual charisma and relationship is not just value matching Act but also highly sexual and so sexual chemistry is going to be a huge factor in determining everything, the nice guy might be fitting for a woman who comes with a laundry list, but not for a woman seeking natural attraction minus laundry list. She is going to be attracted only to the highly masculine male, this is not her fault, just like it's not a man's fault if he is attracted to a round ass.  

Being nice doesn't give you brownie points in the sexual department. For example when I recently had a conversation with a guy, we had a long non sexual conversation followed by him saying that he first checks if the girl will smile and the next thing he will check is her ass and he said it in such a manner, that I instantly felt attraction, I had to hold myself back because I didn't want him sexually, plus I didn't want to lose the friendship or make it awkward so I kept silent, however that comment he made was a very leading on, like a turn on, men who don't do that get friend zoned, so it's a beautiful dance of sexual chemistry but to perform this dance you need to have the right "sexual emotions" or the right sexual framework because if her body is not feeling charged by whatever you're saying to her then she is not going to feel sexual and your chances are over, it's a matter of learning this dance, creating this intense sexual chemistry where you don't have to force but create such tension in her body that she is unable to resist even if her mind says no, her body says yes, make her cut through her bullshit resistance, this intense conflict that she cannot handle between her head and the body and she gives in to this submission to your incessant pressure on her sexuality, you don't assault her physically (physical is crime ) but you assault her mentally, gaining full reign of her senses like a magician and she is left with no refuge but to simply let her body be taken by you by giving into your advances and letting you lead on, she will give signs (not online, online it's difficult to read signs but in reality where she would feel vulnerable and would not resist your presence and your touch, this can be tested with a kiss, slightly touching her face to see if she resists, if she doesn't than she is more than willing for you and lead her to the ultimate conquer -sex.) she will give signs, lots of them, she won't move away when you're near, she will respond to the eye contact by wanting it more, she will not show aggression but obedience, she will try to get your attention by being around you,  a potent sign that the game is working.. 

To be able to create such intense tension, you have to be very  connected with your natural masculinity. Nice guys are passive and generally lack such overt masculinity.  

This is not to say that masculine are not nice or don't possess virtues, they may or may not, its just that  they are gifted in this sexual department where they are able to exude raw sexual appeal and prowess. This sexual power does not stop only to attracting and creating chemistry. That is only the starting point. The next point is sex.  He has to be good at sex, amazing lover in bed, where he can make her moan a lot, make her want more, make her beg, because he is able to smoothly control her sexuality there. In the bedroom he can't afford to be passive at all. He will need to show intense interest in pleasuring her, not in a servant kind of way, but in an owner master kind of way, where he totally dominates her desire, makes her feel sexual play by play, move by move, by giving her intense sexual affection and winning her body, her sexual brain, feeling her body with oxytocin for him. 

 

All of this is brain related. These hyper sexual masculine men in tune with their natural sexual power are not necessarily assholes or bad men, they are just more viable in the sexual romance department. 

Love is a matter of both brain and the heart. He can win her emotionally but that would later in the relationship that's where his nice guy behavior can be useful. 

Unfortunately attraction is designed in such a way that sex comes first, heart comes later, this is natural sexuality, rule of law, this cannot be erased, attraction cannot be denied or destroyed, just like you can't say no to yummy food, you can't have much of a sense of self control with such matters. Both women and men who want passion need to be sexually attractive in their own ways and often in most sexual styles, the man has to lead first and the female submits to his leading. Without sexual passion there is little interest. 

Being a nice guy might work long term in relationships but not with attraction. The nice guy should not stop being nice. But he can be more in touch with his inner masculine sexuality and develop it more so he feels naturally sexual and learns some romantic tricks to get her sexual attention  

The only rule is this. If you get her sexual attention, you get a chance for sex as well as relationship. If you can't get her sexual attention, then you get friendzoned. Very simple. You make the move. 

If you have taken her sexual interest or attention then you have marched ahead of all the friend zone material guys to the top of the list and secured your position sexually in her mind, now she can't forget you.

If she is not deeply sexually attracted to you, that is you did not exhibit your masculinity perfectly or did not own her, and she is still in a relationship with you, this relationship then lacks magnetism and is very dry, if she finds a more domineering male with sexual passion, she will easily get attracted to him and cheat on you. So sexual attraction is a very important part, not the most pleasant part, but an important part in securing and maintaining relationships. 

 

Edited November 18, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

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This might seem like a trollish post but it is super serious. I have noticed that a lot of guys on the forum and men in general put women on a pedestal. It's not cool. It makes you look weak and Un-masculine. 

If you want to cultivate your real Masculinity, then stop putting women on a pedestal. Respect women of course but don't place them on a pedestal. Learn to respect yourself as a man. 

Women are just like you. Even though the pussy is extremely precious (there are reasons why the pussy is precious and I'll explain it) but even then don't put women on a pedestal. 

You put women on a pedestal and then complain. 

There's a good reason why women get so many likes. 

A pussy is as precious to a man as are loose bone fragments to an archeologist. 

You have to understand that a penis can impregnate semen every day, even every hour. 

But a pussy cannot be penetrated everyday, I mean impregnated. A woman can be pregnant only a few times over her lifespan. So she is all about conserving energy and finding one perfect dude to give her eggs to. Meanwhile a man can go about impregnate several women if he wants to. And most of those women might not even get pregnant if they aren't fertile or ovulating. So he has try harder to achieve a successful impregnation. Which means he will try many times and many women. 

That's why sex is so cheap for men but not so cheap for women. That's why the demand for pussy will always be high. 

Yet... This does not mean that you should put women on a pedestal. Absolutely not, since it impacts male self esteem. 

Hope the positive message was delivered. 

 

Edited November 18, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

[Tyler Robinson]

 

              

 

First is to value yourself a little more. What's your value as a man dependent on? Have you built your Masculinity? 

When you do that, you're confident in yourself, you automatically aren't impacted by the attention you give to women. You aren't needing their validation. You also don't get impacted by rejections. 

The fundamental problem with you is that you haven't developed your value as a male and then the only way to feel confident for you is to be validated by a female. It becomes a crutch. We use a crutch when we're unable to walk. You walk properly and you won't need a crutch. 

By pedestalizing women, you have activated your crutch or coping mechanism. This prevents you from building yourself as a man in turn perpetuating the cycle of putting women on a pedestal. 

The main question you have to ask yourself is - what am I without a woman? When you get the answer for that question you will be less focused on getting attention from women and more focused on cultivating your own value. 

As a man you have a lot of value and you can provide that value to society and community by serving, fulfilling your passion or life purpose, building your skills, it's just so many things you could do to feel valuable as a man. Don't submit to a culture where men derive value from how many women they date or sleep with. Instead cultivate your own manhood. It has a two way benefit. It builds you as a man, makes you confident in yourself and automatically makes you stop pedestalizing women. Hit two birds with one stone. 

                    

 

Edited November 18, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

[Tyler Robinson]

 

               

 

 embarassing but instead of asking my girlfriends who would rather give me an odd look, I prefer to say it here. 

Thanks for taking the time for a detailed explanation full of useful tips on dealing with pms pain.

But the sexual urge has become a real problem. Last time I tried to masturbate to take care of it. But it seems the more I masturbate, the worse it gets, I get more urges, it turns into a vicious cycle. And then I get immediate pain after masturbating. Like menstrual pain right in my tummy. The sexual urges leave me with hot flashes and a feverish feeling. It forces me to masturbate and leaves me feeling a bit annoyed and stressed out. 

After masturbation, I feel like it would be over. But the urge re-emerges the next day the same way the previous day and I start getting sexual thoughts. It interferes with my work, there is no focus and I feel agitated like I need to have sex really bad. Back when I had a boyfriend, I had sex so it took care of it. But I decided not to have sex early on in a relationship and wait till the guy is really good because  in the past having sex with my ex made me feel a lot of regret like I gave my body to a pathetic guy, it left me with a lot of guilt and shame and feelings of unworthiness. I felt like I shouldn't have had sex so early and easily. 

So this time I decided to hold off sex until I feel completely safe around my next boyfriend and until I feel like he is willing to commit and show respect to my body. Till then I will only communicate with them , get to know them for a while and then engage in sex if I feel he is really deserving of my time. 

But till then, even if I have a good partner, it's not like I'm going to have sex all the time. If he is not in the mood then I have to find my own ways and that is masturbating of course.

But masturbating is not easy. If I overdo it, it causes pain from contractions and then agitations.

I'm reaching full orgasms and sometimes multiple orgasms and it is no great favor. It stresses me out. It is relaxing in the moment, Because of endorphins and then I get good sleep the day I masturbate. 

Yet the nightmare of intense urges begins the next day again.

I have been feeling anxiety because of this. I'm dreading my next period.

I also drink soy milk. Before drinking soy milk this never happened. After drinking soy milk, I have begun to experience some changes like breast softness and feeling weird sexually, like a bit stronger sexually than usual. I also saw that the more sugars I eat, these urges intensify that month 

 When I eat less sugars, that month it's a bit low. But taking away sugar completely feels like a nightmare of body weaknesses.

I have gotten such strong urges this month that I have been looking at random men and feeling sexual just looking at them which has caused me to Shame myself for feeling so sexual around men and wanting them so bad.

I have begun to feel feelings of intense shame whenever I feel sexual. 

I have never slept around, except strictly in context of solid relationships and I just don't want my moral integrity to be compromised in any way.

These days the new trend for me is that whenever I see male chest hair I get turned on really quickly and I feel very ashamed about it because it could be any random male whose shirt is slightly unbuttoned and that turns me on and then I begin to guilt myself later for feeling horny about it. 

This is first thing these sexual urges have done so far. Now I don't know how much more horny it's going to make me, I don't want to reach a stage where I simply look at a man and get horny. That would be super awkward and kinda shameful 

I don't know how to go around this whole female sexuality thing that has suddenly made me have intense arousals. Never happened before. I took a break from relationships and it seems that I have been going through some kind of mental sexual withdrawals where not getting sex has charged the body with intense chemicals. I never felt before that female sexuality was this intense. And now I see the ugly side of it. A jacking up of female hormones and increase in female horniness is a pathetic nightmare. 

I never felt so extra horny before. So I never realized the nightmare waiting for me. And now with these intense urges, my sexuality is turning very wild and crazy. Like I want a man in bed really bad. But this leaves me with guilt because I just don't want it mentally yet my body keeps orgasming and wanting it.

 

Edited November 18, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

[Tyler Robinson]

 

                       

 

You can become enlightened in so many ways.. So it doesn't say much.

Can sex be used to expand one's consciousness? << Definitely

Can celibacy be effective for focusing the mind on meditative practices? << Definitely

Can you do both at different times in your life? << Definitely

Can you stick to only one path your whole life and still be enlightened << Definitely

So you have a lot of options.

A lot of the reasons that Eastern monastic school abstain from sex has to do with tradition and culture of the area. Of course sex and relationships are very messy and distracting, so it's nice to not have to deal with that stuff at all when doing enlightenment work. Imagine you're trying to meditate while you're girlfriend cheats on you. It will screw up your progress big time.

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I think I would define a 'shallow' relationship as one that is very selfish and superficial - two people getting what they 'want' from one another with no real meaningful connection. In otherwords, two people who don't have an integrated world-veiw, values and beliefs. Two people who aren't fundamentally interested in one another's model of reality, interests and pursuits.

I would define a more meaningful relationship as one in which two people are interested in helping one another grow and be the best versions of themselves. Support and encourage one another. Have integrated beliefs and values and are on the same page in life. Not needy or superficial, not selfishly just using one another as a supply for their own needs and wants.

Is it better to have shallow relationships than none at all? In my opinion I would say maybe not. They are a distraction and drain on emotional and mental energy with no real true value.

 

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Lately I've realised how strong my conviction is that I can't do both at the same time: self-actualization and having an intimate relationship. I'm clearly in favour of self-actualization but I'm not happy with this situation.
I read a lot of books, meditate daily, explore the world within and without and every new day I try to massive fuckin' action the shit out of it.

But for some reason I can't do the same with intimate (sexual) relationships. I fear that I'll lose myself in relationship monkey business, getting distracted from self-actualizing and ending up doing it half-assed or losing myself. I'm really content with how things are progressing in my self-actualization except for my relationship problem which I see as a huge blindspot in my Maslow's pyramid. 

I've tried a number of times but always ended up withdrawing. 

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What are women attracted to in my opinion? 

 

The number one thing women are looking for in a mate is "congruence."

Are you being the man you present yourself to be? Women can pick up the slightest social nuances and are absolute masters at spotting bull shi*t. 

That age old wisdom "be yourself." Nothing can be more true.

Good eye contact, voice projection, vocal tonality.

Leading... lead, lead, lead, and lead.

Girls are addicted to emotions. The reason why most women like the often idolized "bad boy" is because he is King at making her feel all different kinds of emotions. It is like a roller coaster. At one moment he is holding her close hugging her kissing her forehead and the next he's pushing her away (albeit lightly) saying "Oh my god your such a beautiful disaster I can't deal with you anymore." Then withdraws his attention from her. He automatically becomes a beacon of validation for the girl. Girls that are able to self-validate themselves are a RARE BREED. Hell even men able to self-validate are a rare breed. 

 

She might say "Be Nice. Buy Me flowers. Shower me with affection."

She might complain about how her last 3 boyfriends were total a**holes and she doesn't want that.

If she doesn't want that? Then why were her last 3 boyfriends a**holes?

You get the point.

Be respectful but she has to earn that right. To many guys throw themselves at the feet of women. This is the last thing a woman wants. She wants a strong man who will lead her into adventures untold. Into a night of beautiful festivities of lore and candor.

 

Create a we dynamic with the girl. It shouldn't be a you vs her frame rather an us frame.

Be confident and step with authority. Make zero apologies for your desires as a man. Women want to be desired.

Be cognizant of her feedback. Is she stepping back? Step back. Is she leaning in? Pull her closer.

Is she playfully pushing you back or is she giving real resistance? Just be smart.

Also understand that women LOVE men. With a capital L. They also LOVE sex with a capital L.

Do not ever be dependent on a women's reactions. One girl might find you to be scum while another finds you to be absolutely intoxicating.

 

Understand that seduction and love is just a beautiful dance between the sexes.

Also realize that the person who is more willing to walk away has more power.

Many men has emasculated themselves. They cower from the very thing that makes them so strong and handsome to women. 

Be a Man. Stand tall, be calm, and walk through the world with ease. Love yourself.

Also if you remember anything from all of this remember this: People feel what you feel by the law of state transfer.

If you want a woman to feel happy, horny, and affectionate. Put yourself in that emotional cocktail first.

Take action. Women won't come into your life behind a computer screen.

Talk to girls  as you go about your day. Go out and socialize.

Also keep in mind that talking to girls is FUN. There is a reason why it is called game and not work.

 

Edited November 18, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

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Here are some things I am not attracted to or don't care about:

How much money a man makes

What type of car he drives

How big his dick is

How big his muscles are

Drinking/Drugs

Sits on the couch watching TV for hours or playing hours of video games... Although I don't appreciate this. 

Excessive neediness 

Not being humble- I'm just going to touch on this twice because nothing turns me off as much as a man speeding in his lifted truck, lol.

Is engaged in uncessary drama (Facebook, friends business, etc.)

Is into fighting people to make a point.

Yells or gets angry 

 

                

Edited November 18, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

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Maslow makes the distinction between two different types of love; deficiency-love and being-love. D-love is needy, possessive, and neurotic. Infatuation (the "in love" experience) is a form of D-love. B-love is completely non-needy and non-possessive, it is admiring rather than needing. You love the person for as they are without needing anything in return (or needing love in return). B-lovers are independent of one another and do not get easily jealous or threatened. It is the love between a healthy mother and her baby. Perhaps you love some close friends and family in such a way?

 Personally I think simply seeking to fulfil your deficiency need for sex will be quiet unsatisfying in the long run. I think you could have much more satisfying sex with someone you have a genuine emotional connection with.

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I feel like women's identity struggles because we are always compared to how men are, but the men's traits are more celebrated in society where as women's are not. The thing is that we have different strengths and weaknesses because we have different values, even mindsets. Then again, I think you have to find that out for yourself.

You need to find the right balance between feeling good with yourself and others. I think women often take care of everybody around them except themselves and are thus saved for last. It should be the contrary. Take care of yourself first. Accept your own nature : sexual fantasies, need to communicate your feelings, your need to give to others and don't be ashamed of that because it's too girly or whatever. Support other women. Stand up to men. Be happy of what you are made of.

                                 

 

Edited November 18, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

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Feminine qualities 

If you look into Yin qualities, it will give you a much wider and deeper definition of femininity than our social caricature of femininity. Our social idea of femininity which is really two dimensional has more to do with how a man views femininity in a woman when looking for a mate, and not how a woman experiences her own femininity. If you want to highlight your femininity to be attractive to men, there are many resources to look into for that. Make-up tutorials and how to act like a feminine woman are great search terms for this. But the experience of femininity is so much more than about sexual attractiveness.

It's about being, receptivity, natural cycles, mystery, the unconscious, the a-rational, darkness, emotions, the instinctual nature, the present moment, beauty, respect for the Earth and its creatures, unconditional love, non-heirarchical thinking, stillness, cooperation, and many other things that aren't quite celebrated in our society or even recognized as feminine. These are the things that must come up in power in order for us to solve most of our world's big problems. The masculine counterparts to these (respectively) are doing, communication, goals, clarity, the conscious, the rational, light, thought, the conditioned nature, the past and future, utility, prioritizing society and economy, conditional admiration, hierarchical thinking, movement, and competition. These can be wonderful qualities, but our culture is quite obsessed with them. So, most everyone in our society values these traits more and prioritizes them over their feminine counterparts. Boys and girls are conditioned from a young age to develop their masculine side, but are often unaware of or neglectful of developing their feminine side. But this imbalance is what causes a lot of problems on the global scale.

Having said this, human beings are highly androgynous creatures. No one has only masculine or only feminine traits. All people contain a unique ratio of these traits. So, there are men who are more feminine than masculine and women who are more masculine than feminine. So, be sure to be authentic. Don't read the traits and try to fit into only the feminine mold because femininity and masculinity are pre-conditioned states. You can't really change your orientation that much. But you can choose to highlight the femininity that's already there,that  you genuinely embody, then find ways to develop and highlight those traits further.

 

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Alpha males doesn’t necessarily look for their equals. Alpha males know what they want. They are passionate, have a vision, focused and assertive. They’re a good at their field of expertise which leads to being a good provider for their family.

what an alpha man wants in a partner is someone who’ll encourage them with what they do instead of being a distraction. Someone who has her own thing going on for herself. Those are some of the characteristics they would find in a perfect girl (Alpha Female).

http://www.mensaxis.com/alpha-male-traits/

http://www.traitsofthealphamale.com/77/25-traits-of-an-alpha-male/

 

            

 

Edited November 18, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

[Tyler Robinson]

 

                                  

 

This is what my ex told me when I asked him what he wanted in a girl —

1)She takes care of herself, maintaining her beauty and charm.
2)She is in touch with her femininity and sexuality.
3) She is non needy, jealous and over controlling.
4)Gives a time for me being by myself, let me alone.
5)Respecting and understanding, caring and loving ( but not as a mother/ son dynamic)
6) Doesn't suppress my freedom seeking energy ( Book by Devid Deita "Way of superior man" talks about it greatly).
7)Has interesting personality, shares my values.
8) Has a purpose, sense of direction.

 

Edited November 18, 2022 by Tyler Robinson