Club game: bad ears

[StarStruck]

Night game is a good mine but I have bad ears. It is not that I don’t hear sound. It is just too much noise and I can’t decipher what they say although I do hear them. I think this is just a genetic thing and I can’t change this. It is a big issue because sometimes I have to ask to repeat a message three times before I can hear it. I’m not considering stopping game but I’m annoyed.  Do other people have this too and how you deal with it?

Edited September 9, 2022 by StarStruck

[Leo Gura]

Your mind gets better at with massive experience.

Some of my friends who game a lot reached the point where they can basically read lips.

Edited September 10, 2022 by Leo Gura

[Vrubel]

Most girls speak very softly even on regular dates. So training your hearing and focus is an important part of game. As with many skills within game, the benefits of developing this skill will also translate into your day-to-day life, which is pretty cool. 

Edited September 10, 2022 by Vrubel

[petar8p]

10 hours ago, StarStruck said:

Night game is a good mine but I have bad ears. It is not that I don’t hear sound. It is just too much noise and I can’t decipher what they say although I do hear them. I think this is just a genetic thing and I can’t change this. It is a big issue because sometimes I have to ask to repeat a message three times before I can hear it. I’m not considering stopping game but I’m annoyed.  Do other people have this too and how you deal with it?

There's some high quality earplugs for nightclubs that cancel lots of excessive noise..

 

Also it will protect your ears. 

 

Just google it and try to find in your country..

[StarStruck]

8 hours ago, petar8p said:

There's some high quality earplugs for nightclubs that cancel lots of excessive noise..

 

Also it will protect your ears. 

 

Just google it and try to find in your country..

I already have those but I have to remove them if I talk to somebody… it can become awkward sometime lol. 

 

8 hours ago, Vrubel said:

Most girls speak very softly even on regular dates. So training your hearing and focus is an important part of game. As with many skills within game, the benefits of developing this skill will also translate into your day-to-day life, which is pretty cool. 

My verbals still suck man. Last night I saw lesser looking short guys ripping it with entertaining verbal game. What are these guys talking about? 

I do get the initial attention but when I open my mouth I fuck it up lmao. A lot of times I just blank and don’t know what to say. 

17 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

Your mind gets better at with massive experience.

Some of my friends who game a lot reached the point where they can basically read lips.

that is what I basically do half of the time: read lips. 

Edited September 10, 2022 by StarStruck

[Vrubel]

1 hour ago, StarStruck said:

I already have those but I have to remove them if I talk to somebody… it can become awkward sometime lol. 

I have cheap but decent earplugs that amplify nearby sounds but dampen the more distant music.

1 hour ago, StarStruck said:

My verbals still suck man. Last night I saw lesser looking short guys ripping it with entertaining verbal game. What are these guys talking about? 

"Lesser looking" "short guys", don't think in those terms. Women are attracted to ENERGY. Authenticity and masculinity are the keys. Authentic masculinity is fucking beautiful. 

Try going out with a microdose of LSD and a full sack.

[petar8p]

On 9/10/2022 at 8:35 PM, StarStruck said:

it can become awkward sometime lol. 

Because of what?

[StarStruck]

2 hours ago, petar8p said:

Because of what?

If you have to re-ask what they were saying.

 

On 10-9-2022 at 10:17 PM, Vrubel said:

I have cheap but decent earplugs that amplify nearby sounds but dampen the more distant music.

 

I think I have those. I just have to do what Leo says: train my ears and learn to read lips better

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"Lesser looking" "short guys", don't think in those terms. Women are attracted to ENERGY. Authenticity and masculinity are the keys. Authentic masculinity is fucking beautiful. 

Try going out with a microdose of LSD and a full sack.

True.  I shouldn't have used derogative words but I just couldn't find other words. Point is that my energy sucks, and my appearance is apparently not enough to overcompensate for low energy. I'm doing trauma work at the moment so that influences my energy. Perhaps I should take a brake and focus on myself. Yesterday I had a date with an absolute stunner and I just messed it up because of my energy.

[petar8p]

You don't have to be in high energy. 

 

@Vrubel probably means having conviction in moving the interaction forward and showing signs of confidence. 

 

How much are you into trauma work?

[Vrubel]

11 hours ago, StarStruck said:

True.  I shouldn't have used derogative words but I just couldn't find other words. Point is that my energy sucks, and my appearance is apparently not enough to overcompensate for low energy. I'm doing trauma work at the moment so that influences my energy. Perhaps I should take a brake and focus on myself. Yesterday I had a date with an absolute stunner and I just messed it up because of my energy.

It's not about those terms being derogative, they really aren't. The very fact that you're using those terms and think they are negatives shows me that you don't understand a very fundamental aspect of feminine attraction. Don't underestimate how secure and confident Lesser-looking short guys can be. I knew a guy who was near-freakishly short, yet he always had the hottest girlfriends because he had masculine boss energy.
I also knew a guy who was tall but his face was egregious and ogre-like. Yet his girlfriend was a stunning little angel. He had a kind of bully-bad boy energy, together they had a beauty and the beast dynamic going on. Girls love the "beast" aspect of men.

The very fact that you had a date with a stunner is a sign that you are attractive and have a lot of potential. Yet your insecurities don't make you see this. Your brain is creating negative feedback loops instead of positive ones. When I go home after a relatively uneventful and even "shitty" night out and think back, I think only of the 1 or 2 snippets that were positive and my brain uses that to reinforce my confidence. For me thinking back and reminiscing is more satisfying than the night out itself. 

Edited September 12, 2022 by Vrubel

[StarStruck]

4 hours ago, Vrubel said:

It's not about those terms being derogative, they really aren't. The very fact that you're using those terms and think they are negatives shows me that you don't understand a very fundamental aspect of feminine attraction. Don't underestimate how secure and confident Lesser-looking short guys can be. I knew a guy who was near-freakishly short, yet he always had the hottest girlfriends because he had masculine boss energy.
I also knew a guy who was tall but his face was egregious and ogre-like. Yet his girlfriend was a stunning little angel. He had a kind of bully-bad boy energy, together they had a beauty and the beast dynamic going on. Girls love the "beast" aspect of men.

Vibe (masculine boss energy or bully energy) is from the essence but appearance is important too. What I tried to say is that appearance doesn't save the day and that the determining factor is vibe. I think we agree on this point, we just formulate it in a different way. I'm back on the no-fap grind, that really brings out that beast mode naturally with sexual transmutation.

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The very fact that you had a date with a stunner is a sign that you are attractive and have a lot of potential. Yet your insecurities don't make you see this. Your brain is creating negative feedback loops instead of positive ones. When I go home after a relatively uneventful and even "shitty" night out and think back, I think only of the 1 or 2 snippets that were positive and my brain uses that to reinforce my confidence. For me thinking back and reminiscing is more satisfying than the night out itself. 

I have a really hard time doing that. I usually focus on all the negatives and the positives are just footnotes of the story. I noticed that I look at this way not only at the world but at my self also. This is something I need to work on but it is so hard to change. My mother was especially negative all the time: I think I have it from her.

15 hours ago, petar8p said:

You don't have to be in high energy. 

 

@Vrubel probably means having conviction in moving the interaction forward and showing signs of confidence. 

 

How much are you into trauma work?

I'm 1,5 years in, since last week I have a new therapist to mix things up and try new things. I felt like the last one was only scratching the service of my problems. Partly I'm the blame for it because I have a hard time accessing trauma energy.

[Vrubel]

On 13/09/2022 at 4:32 AM, StarStruck said:

I'm back on the no-fap grind, that really brings out that beast mode naturally with sexual transmutation.

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Don't torture your self. You already do that enough with your negative thinking.

Instead of no fap do no cumming before a night out. Means you masturbate but just don't cum.