How would you define a high value man?

[Tyler Robinson]

On 9/10/2022 at 9:22 PM, Sanguine said:

That's a seperate thing for me. You can be alpha and be a crappy lying douchebag and in that case. Not high value. 

But the whole definition of high value is dependent on the viewer. One person (or better: one set of traits) can be highly "valuable" to one and less valuable to another. 

 

Nice. 

 

[StarStruck]

Somebody who is the king of his hill.

Edited October 10, 2022 by StarStruck

[Hibahere]

A high value man knows what he wants in a woman. He is not afraid to open up emotionally because he has no walls up or a strong ego. He has a progressive mindset and he values health, self actualization and healthy relationships. He learns and grows constantly and is not afraid to take risks and be in his Masculine role. A high value man will always be compatible with a high value woman.

[The0Self]

A man who has either cultivated or naturally has free expression of his personality, is comfortable in his own skin, and assertively holds boundaries.

[mamad]

1. Has found his inner meaning for his life

2. Has found the inner joy of his life

 

3. Has established his outer strategy of socializing 

4. Has established his outer strategy for surviving in life

 

5. Has formed a healthy relationship with power and domination

6. Has formed a healthy relationship with emotion and his body

 

You would never find a man that has conquered all these 

But by knowing yourself you can prioritize this list and find the best fit for yourself

Edited October 11, 2022 by mamad

[petar8p]

2 hours ago, mamad said:

Has formed a healthy relationship with power and domination

Please expand on what would this imply..

2 hours ago, mamad said:

You would never find a man that has conquered all these 

Why? Do some of these exclude the others?

[mamad]

14 hours ago, petar8p said:

Please expand on what would this imply...

Power is Control

Desire to change or maintain a situation

Forming a healthy relationship with power means he has accepted and taken responsibility over domains that he has control over and those which he doesn't have control over, in both personal and interpersonal level 

As a man in a relationship with you, he knows his boundaries, his limits to enforce his will upon you, he knows when to stop and he knows when to give the power to you and submit without feeling less of a man and insecure 

If he has checked this checkpoint He knows when to protect you, when to manipulate you, when to let you go and when to let himself be protected by you

If he hasn't he would be either a dictator who always wants to control or a soft man without any sense of protection for you and your future children or

 

14 hours ago, petar8p said:

Why? Do some of these exclude others?

Not at all

But it requires a hell amount of inner and outer work to develop yourself in all of these areas which most people don't willing to do that

But by knowing yourself and your priorities you don't need to find a perfect man

Choose your top 3 and stick to them

For example, if you are a goal-oriented high achiever woman who is always on her head and rationalizes and strategizes her way in the world aim for 2,3,6 a man who brings color and joy to your life 

Or if you are a relationship-oriented woman who values family and raising children the most aim for 1,4,5 a man who brings structure and safety to your life

and other possibilities and combinations of traits...

But Another point is its sustainability of it. the formula for a healthy and long-term relationship is the growth of both parts. if you find a 236 man you should assess his openness toward growing himself to being more 145. Being undeveloped in a field is one thing but having shadows, and demonizing that field is another thing. For example, if he is not a social person but accepts it as a defect in himself it's something normal but if he considers social people as fools and judges them it's a bad thing. Look for any closeness and judgment it's an obvious red flag.