I think I've found the solution to my porn addiction problem

[caesar13]

Here I was 4 days ago watching a talk on YouTube. The Yogi (or guru) was asked questions by the audience and he is answering. This time i saw a girl (she's an adult) who stood up to ask the question she had. As usual, my other self kicked in and quickly started to sexually fantasize, trying to find a pornstar who looks similar to this girl so that I could do PMO. But, all of a sudden, in a split second, the way I interpreted changed - maybe because I did some breathwork before I slept last night - and I intended to think of that girl as she was my daughter and , myself, a good father. I was stunned, and for the very first time I felt the bond between my (the image) daughter and myself (as a future good father) to be the most valuable thing, compared to this experience I felt it seemed that porn is a very tiny thing - that it's no longer a problem of mine. That day when I got to bed I had thoughts of me and my daughter talking to each other. I felt very lucky to have such a beautiful and a good daughter. I just felt that she's a very good girl - kindhearted and lovable.

I've imagined that she's making of me while I was driving the car before my wife (I don't know how my wife looks, but I know how my daughter looks)...

It's been three days, I am feeling so good. Even, yesterday and today, I fapped but even before I ejaculated I felt an urge "not to do it!" not the  other way around. Before, I used to think why I hadn't thought not to do it after I made the mistake but this time the thought came before I am about to make the mistake. I guess it's just out of habit I did it.

I liked that I felt "NOT TO DO IT". A slight avoidance (a subtle dislike) towards PMO for the first time. My weiner doesn't get hard when I see hot girls... I think more and more time spending with my daughter will heal me. I am already fortunate to have known the qualities and the appearance of my future daughter! In fact, right now, I feel like I have a daughter that I have to take care of - my mind and body doesn't say I'm faking something.

This may sound crazy but a slight change in perception changed things for me. I just wanted to share this with you guys.

Thanks to you, and to my daughter

[Someone here]

I think a little porn here and there in moderation is fine .

[King Merk]

Glad to hear that changed in perspective helped you.

I believe it’s a challenge for most of us guys to look past those we’re attracted to as sexual objects. Definitely something I’m still working on. 

[StarStruck]

Your vision is the work shop of your life. Changing your perception on a thing (porn) will change your vision, and that is how deep change is made.

Stopping porn or anything else can't be done with willpower alone, it has to be done on the level of vision/perspective on porn.

Just be mindful of what you hold in your mind's eye. Is it what you hold a taker mindset or a giver mindset? Porn is  mostly a taker mindset, you take from the girl and she is not getting anything nor enjoying it. There is also little love.

Porn addicts need love to heal themselves and they try to find it in lust. It will never satisfy their urge for love because lust and love can together but it is not the same thing. Addiction is overcompensation for something.

[caesar13]

@StarStruck I'm awe-struck after reading the last two short paragraphs.

Very true - have been taking and taking for years.

Yes, in some sense, I'm deprived of love.

Thank you. 

[StarStruck]

@caesar13 why are you awestruck?

Try it out for yourself. 

Find your love language and instead of giving yourself porn, give yourself love: it could be meditation, dancing, running, fight sport, mantra chanting, etc. 

Actually try out all those activities I mentioned, and see what fits for you. For me dancing and fight sport was the perfect combination. Fighting to release stress, and dancing to share love (having fun) with the opposite sex. 

Good luck. 

[caesar13]

@StarStruck I'm sorry if I sounded in a negative sense.

I meant "well said" or perhaps I meant "I liked how you said - the taking mindset.."