Why is sexual desire never ending?

[Someone here]

There are two primary drives that urges people in life. It's the basic survival drives like drive for food and for sex . However..i noticed something extremely strange about the difference between these two drives . Unlike food ..you feel hungry..then you eat and satisfy your hunger .and you no longer need more until after few hours pass and you start  to feel hungry again.  But once you are full /well stuffed, you no longer crave more. And if you eat more when you are already full ..you will probably puke .

But when it comes to sexual desire .its the opposite. The more you indulge in sexual activity the more you crave more . This is something I'm noticing from my porn and masturbation habit .I'm beginning to get back to porn and masturbation after few months of sobriety.  I noticed that no matter how many times I cum ..I still wanna do more ..like in my mind I still don't feel satisfied .even though my dick could go numb and there is zero arousal in the body .its still a never ending chase in the mind .you masturbate once .and you think it's gonna satisfy you but you actually feel disillusioned and you crave for more . It doesn't take more than one orgasm to know what an orgasm is .Once you have an orgasm..all you want is more .

Actually my brother told me that it's good to ejaculate every day. It prevents prostate cancer and whatnot.  I strongly disagree with him.  Who the fuck can ejaculate every single day ?I mean I don't care how powerful your manhood is . If you gonna ejaculate every day..then you might as well dig your own grave  ?. 

Also something about pornography.  Imo it's the most addictive drug out there . The shit is LITERALLY  endless. There is no end to the porn content. So it makes you always chasing your next hit of dopamine. You search for the perfect video. The perfect girl. The perfect scene etc .

I'm not sure if real sex have the same effect .but I highly suspect that it does . 

Edited September 8, 2022 by Someone here

[Razard86]

I've personally never had this issue but one of my friends does, it could be biological. Some people just have higher sex drives than others, most of my sex drive was in my teens and early twenties once once you hit your 30's it tends to die down in general....of course there are exceptions. As long as you are not in pain, burn through the karma. Just accept yourself where you are at and do whatever you feel is able to help you with your cravings. 

I believe once you have sex you'll see that it is exaggerated to get attention in media. Sex if really only special when you are with someone special to you. Its like the difference between take out and home cooked food. 

Oh and...because you have been introduced to all this Spirituality stuff...you will probably figure out real quick.....there is no difference between sex and masturbation...LOL. 

I hope it doesn't ruin sex for you.....I would aim for tantra sex anyway...its a much deeper sexual experience than simple physical friction. 

Edited September 7, 2022 by Razard86

[Sanguine]

Porn addiction is real.. It's basically meth in its natural form and because your "high" (orgasm) isn't as long as a meth high, you can keep in craving it. Or delay the high with edging. 

Read the book 'your brain on porn' it wil explain A LOT. 

[Loba]

That's a good question.  I used to not really be very into sex, only masturbating maybe once every other month, but in the past few weeks I've been feeling especially horny for some reason.  It started around the time I got a cold, and I began to write my own world to imagine to cope with the effects of being sick - but the more I got into it, the more I visualized the character I was creating for myself, the more sexual I've become.  This tells me that at least for women, sexuality goes hand in hand with creativity.  Maybe for men, too, if they can learn to use it in that way.

Now I feel sexual maybe every day, to every other day, and it's quite nice.  I enjoy it.

I remember, last year, I had gotten into a manic spell - which is what I'm on the lookout for right now as hyper sexuality can be a symptom of this coming on - and it felt like there were paranormal experiences tied in with my sexuality, like as I brought it up from the bottom to the top, it was like I had more understanding of what was happening just outside of reality.  But whatever that was kind of co-mingled with my mental illness and I ended up really getting freaked out and having to go to the hospital.  It felt like there was a living energy within me, as though it was kundalini perhaps.  I was at the time interacting with Kali and my partner on the other side - but this could be delusion.

It's still hard to know sometimes with these things.  Sexuality, though, if you can harness it, I believe it can be a gift.  I've been trying to be less repressive against myself and my desires and with this comes a plethora of new ideas that seem to hit me out of the blue everyday, but it's completely fueled by the desire not just for sex, but for the closeness and companionship that comes with it.  It's something I've had to throw away as a real possibility due to illness, but being able to express it in a fantasy setting has been extremely healthy for me.

I don't know if it is the same for men, but for me my sexual desire is linked closely with pair bonding with another person, really getting to know them very intimately and loving all of them and being loved in the same way, so perhaps the reason why sexual desire never ends isn't just because of hormones, but also because we are wired to want to share our most intimate selves with that of another.  It's love.  If love is the meaning of life, then sexuality can be a gateway to that.  You're literally sharing your body with another person to make them happy, it's mutually gratifying pleasure.  Through sex, you can actively say things to another person that you can't through words, your actions, your touch, how you hold them, how you give yourself to them, it can mean so much, and for a time it allows people to actually genuinely be one with another being.

Just my 2c.

But if you have an addiction to it, you could probably seek to cut back, like if it's making it so that the stimuli isn't as good - over indulgence, you know?  Maybe, instead of just watching porn you could seek other avenues to express your sexuality?

[Someone here]

 

Some orgasm are forced, weak and kind of bad, but basically for a person, an orgasm is an orgasm. People know that some are much better than others. That’s just the way it is.

However, if i have frequent orgasms and are unsatisfied, each time..I didn’t say and if they are all bad then, yes, then, i may have a problem.

But it's not that my orgasms are weak ..I had explosive orgasms before..but it's like no matter how much I have ..i always want more. Unlike food. Once you are stuffed. You don't crave more . I want to understand the dynamic behind this .

[Someone here]

15 hours ago, Razard86 said:

most of my sex drive was in my teens and early twenties once once you hit your 30's it tends to die down in general

I believe it starts to die down at the 40s not the 30s

Although it's usually not because of age but because of lifestyle and bad habits like smoking, drinking and eating junk food . All of these kill your testosterone levels. Which begin to decline anyways once you hit your 40s 

[Someone here]

11 hours ago, Loba said:

This tells me that at least for women, sexuality goes hand in hand with creativity.  Maybe for men, too, if they can learn to use it in that way.

Yes sexual energy =creative energy 

Channeling sexual methods have been kept secret becasue they can be dangerous.

Nowadays many techniques are out in the open.

I don't recomend most, so I won't give details on methods.

Sexual energy, when it is released from a person is draining. Chanelling it to move inwards keeps the energy from being released out, and the person is not drained. Chanelling is guiding the movement internally.

[Someone here]

15 hours ago, Sanguine said:

Porn addiction is real.. It's basically meth in its natural form and because your "high" (orgasm) isn't as long as a meth high, you can keep in craving it. Or delay the high with edging. 

Read the book 'your brain on porn' it wil explain A LOT. 

I have read the book and I'm addicted to porn and i know all the downsides of it .yet my dick seems to control my behaviour more than my brain ?

[tezk]

15 hours ago, Someone here said:

I strongly disagree with him.  Who the fuck cam ejaculate every single day ?I mean I don't care how powerful your manhood is . If you gonna ejaculate every day..then you might as well dig your own grave  ?.

 

33 minutes ago, Someone here said:

But it's not that my orgasms are weak ..I had explosive orgasms before..but it's like no matter how much I have ..i always want more. Unlike food. Once you are stuffed. You don't crave more . I want to understand the dynamic behind this .

These two sound kind of contradictory to me. If you felt like your orgasms were insatiable, then wouldn't it be easy to ejaculate every day? 

 

[Razard86]

11 minutes ago, Someone here said:

I believe it starts to die down at the 40s not the 30s

Although it's usually not because of age but because of lifestyle and bad habits like smoking, drinking and eating junk food . All of these kill your testosterone levels. Which begin to decline anyways once you hit your 40s 

It dies down in the 30's your sex drive will not be the same as it is now in your 30's. How do I know? Because I'm 30 and I have 30 year old friends and because Science says it. You are young in your 20's so of course you think that, but a 30 year old man has more self-control when it comes to sex than a 20 year old. Biologically speaking a 20 year old man isn't even full grown. Your brain doesn't reach full development till around 25 years old so of course you are so got damn horny lol. 

[Someone here]

16 minutes ago, tezk said:

 

These two sound kind of contradictory to me. If you felt like your orgasms were insatiable, then wouldn't it be easy to ejaculate every day? 

 

No it takes time to recover from an orgasm. It's called the refractory period . Once you cum..you lose interest in sex for a few days and sometimes few months .

[Someone here]

12 minutes ago, Razard86 said:

It dies down in the 30's your sex drive will not be the same as it is now in your 30's. How do I know? Because I'm 30 and I have 30 year old friends and because Science says it. You are young in your 20's so of course you think that, but a 30 year old man has more self-control when it comes to sex than a 20 year old. Biologically speaking a 20 year old man isn't even full grown. Your brain doesn't reach full development till around 25 years old so of course you are so got damn horny lol. 

 A man only Upon his death he stops making Testosterone. Males will make Testosterone through the Testicles as long as he is alive. As males age, their Testosterone levels decline but a 90 year old man should still have a Testosterone level of 300. Whereas a Teenager would have a number up near 1000. Now there are many mitigating factors such as injury to the Testicles, castration, deformities, cancer, diet, smoking etc that can or will effect the level a male has, but as long as he's breathing, he should still be making Testosterone . So you shouldn't have a serious decline in testosterone in your thirsty .

Would you mind answering this simple question for me ..are you still able to pop a boner (get hard ) and maintain  that erection for few minutes? 

[LSD-Rumi]

22 hours ago, Someone here said:

I noticed that no matter how many times I cum ..I still wanna do more ..like in my mind I still don't feel satisfied .even though my dick could go numb and there is zero arousal in the body .

When you having nothing better to do, you indulge yourself in endless entertainment and you never get satisfied. It is not just sex, it is food, video games, movies, mindless socializing and gossip.

[integral]

• To push all ones energy into one outlet (sex) is to have a unmounted mind.
• Thoughts push energy in a direction, a thought is deeply interconnected with the entire organism. 
• Transmutation of ones energy means directing energy using thoughts or intention into a outlet.
• Sexual energy is one transmutation out of infinite possibilities.