What's best option in your opinion?

[Jenkins]

So I have tremendous experience with girls.

However due to addictions and lots of other things happening, my market value decreased.

It started recently that I dated someone who remembered myself of me - and I ran as fast as I could.

At the moment I'm growing and developing in many ways, however at the current stage I'm attracting only girls that are barely attractive to me.

Should I take a break of like 6 months from dating and focus solely on myself, until I grow more and kill most of my demons, or should I continue dating girls I don't *really* like?

In retrospective, the comment of Leo in regards to trying to date girls I really like made me think about this.

However I want to spend most of my time focusing on myself, and given my current situation, the only way I can get the quality girls I want is through game, which rubs me off the wrong way.

I am so good at game I feel like I can turn any girl's buttons in a matter of a couple of hours, however I don't feel genuine doing that anymore either, I feel like I'm faking being someone I'm currently not.

What are your thoughts about this?

Any books I can read about this?

[NoSelfSelf]

Best option us to learn (real)game from core of who you are, that from the way you are speaking will be a tough process...

[Jenkins]

@NoSelfSelf how can I do that?

[NoSelfSelf]

@Jenkins First thing to understand is that mind is rooted in outside world the world of looks,money like you said market value.Mind is on the surface and is looking for something outside of himself to get rooted in like you look for a guru and hold what he says as a truth and now you think like him and even act like him.Defined by the outside stuff thats why game has nothing to do with women ?.(and everyone makes it about women because their minds are rooted in outside)

On the contrary mind has to be rooted in yourself and its hard to explain here and i didnt finish that process so i can only guide you to source in Pm..

Edited September 7, 2022 by NoSelfSelf

[universe]

Do whatever feels and is right for you.

Seems like you could work on your self / integrate right now.

But whatever life situation you are in right now, it is not limiting your dating.

The only thing that is stopping you from dating the woman you really like - is you.

Edited September 8, 2022 by universe

[Ulax]

IFS therapy my guy. David Snyder's NLP stuff I've heard good things about too. PSTEC too.