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I started watching porn when I was 9....

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2 hours ago, Tahuti said:

Yet, you still will be fighting porn for the rest of your life.

Do you see this?

Notice, this hasn't ever left your mind. Fighting against the emotion won't do much good long term. ? 

yeah i know, I just wanted him to make a video on porn addiction, sexual energy and nofap/semen retention since its a problem a lot of us srtuggle with

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12 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

I could make an entire course on how to appreciate sex. And it would change your whole life.

But I got better things to do.

Please do it anyway. :D


“If you're going to try, go all the way. Otherwise, don't even start. This could mean losing girlfriends, wives, relatives and maybe even your mind. It could mean not eating for three or four days. It could mean freezing on a park bench. It could mean jail. It could mean derision. It could mean mockery--isolation. Isolation is the gift. All the others are a test of your endurance, of how much you really want to do it. And, you'll do it, despite rejection and the worst odds. And it will be better than anything else you can imagine. If you're going to try, go all the way. There is no other feeling like that. You will be alone with the gods, and the nights will flame with fire. You will ride life straight to perfect laughter. It's the only good fight there is.”

― Charles Bukowski

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I also think that this advice on porn does not work for most people. There are tons of research on the bad effects porn has on your brain. Its pretty obvious. Also from my own experience I know that my motivation goes down when I just jerk off to porn. There is less motivation to go out and seek real sexual experiences with women, which are way more meaningful. Also firing all my neurons in my brain with this hyperstimuli makes me worse at appreciating stuff that fires less neurons like reading a book or watching a lecture. Especially for a guy who clearly has a problem with porn and masturbation this is not the right advice.


“If you're going to try, go all the way. Otherwise, don't even start. This could mean losing girlfriends, wives, relatives and maybe even your mind. It could mean not eating for three or four days. It could mean freezing on a park bench. It could mean jail. It could mean derision. It could mean mockery--isolation. Isolation is the gift. All the others are a test of your endurance, of how much you really want to do it. And, you'll do it, despite rejection and the worst odds. And it will be better than anything else you can imagine. If you're going to try, go all the way. There is no other feeling like that. You will be alone with the gods, and the nights will flame with fire. You will ride life straight to perfect laughter. It's the only good fight there is.”

― Charles Bukowski

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19 minutes ago, BenG said:

This is true. I tried watching porn on DMT and it was actually life changing. I’ve never been able to look at a woman’s body in the same way since.

what's it like?

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5 minutes ago, BenG said:

It’s like your mind lacks the capacity for processing the unbelievable level of beauty in front of you. Just trying to simply look and appreciate it breaks your mind apart and destroys you from the inside. It breaks your heart and soul. 
Next you realize that you’ve never truly seen a woman before. Yes, you’ve looked at many on a screen and some in person, but you’ve never really and truly SEEN a woman before. 
 

It’s like that.

ok I get why Leo does it now...

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Don't worry about the jerking off for now. Every day isnt healthy but fuck that, your young. 

For now, porn is your main enemy. And just feel lucky. PIED (porn induced erectile dysfunction) is a fucking scary monster who is probably coming for you. The only way to get him away is to quit porn. 

My advice. Try to quit porn. Keep on the fapping but without digital material. Just your mind. If you master that. Then you can take the next step. 

And if you can only last a week. Once a week is a lot better than once a day. So if that progress sticks your on the right track my man. 

I've said it to others aswell, but the book your brain on porn is a great insight for this. 

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@Leo Gura

On 2022-09-07 at 4:48 AM, Leo Gura said:

Porn increases my motivation, happiness, and life.

Porn is amazing, and to not know how to appreciate it is a travesty to mankind.

Why does it increase your motivation? Your brain thinks you are reproducing.

Porn can make an individual suffer from anxiety and other shit.

It's easy to pull out your dick and fap and watch another man pleasure himself.

Dicks are made bigger for the purpose of the camera. This gives men anxiety and thinks they need a monster cock to please a girl.

I have a friend who is porn damaged. He thinks that to please a girl he needs to stick his big dick in her vagina as fast as possible as he sees in porno. He's 31 now without a female partner but pornhub.com

 

 

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@BenG

13 hours ago, BenG said:

Yes, you’ve looked at many on a screen and some in person, but you’ve never really and truly SEEN a woman before. 

So when I sleep next to my partner, what am I seeing when I turn my head to the left?

I've done DMT, I've looked at many trees on screen but without DMT I have never truly SEEN a tree before.

I once tried to look at porn while on these substances, for me it looked fake and it was at that moment I quit pixel fantasies.

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On 07/09/2022 at 4:26 AM, Leo Gura said:

Actually, it is.

If you were truly conscious of the beauty of porn, you would cry.

You do not understand what porn is. You're just wanking to it like a monkey on crack and then complaining.

Yeah  and if you were truly concious of the beauty of heroin and meph, you would also cry.

 

So when are you shooting up crack mr Gurua? 

 

Ah right yeah gotcha lol

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On 07/09/2022 at 9:31 PM, BenG said:

It’s like your mind lacks the capacity for processing the unbelievable level of beauty in front of you. Just trying to simply look and appreciate it breaks your mind apart and destroys you from the inside. It breaks your heart and soul. 
Next you realize that you’ve never truly seen a woman before. Yes, you’ve looked at many on a screen and some in person, but you’ve never really and truly SEEN a woman before. 
 

It’s like that.

That's pretty crazy

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I appreciate the responses from everyone. Here, I see two different points of view: those who believe that jerking off is normal, and those who believe that there is something seriously wrong with it in terms of how it affects your life. I can also somewhat imagine how porn can be absolute beautiful from a "high consciousness" standpoint.

The issue is that I watch porn out of an addiction rather than out of genuine desire. I feel like I'm going to be screwed if I don't do it. If I didn't have an addiction to it which I do, I would love to jerk off every day.

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@Tahuti

It's both, what is the implications of cherry picking here?  Well, I would argue its more appropriate to call it an addiction because it is negatively impacting my life.

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On 9/6/2022 at 10:48 PM, Leo Gura said:

Porn increases my motivation, happiness, and life.

Porn is amazing, and to not know how to appreciate it is a travesty to mankind.

You literally must be the only person who thinks this. 
 

The real travesty is men, very young and impressionable men, giving away their sexual power to an industry that exploits and abuses women. 
 

So many men have problems with social anxiety , dating, ED, and self esteem because of this shit. 
 

It’s causing much more harm than good


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On 9/6/2022 at 11:44 PM, Federico del pueblo said:

Hahaha you're the best Leo! 

High consciousness porn.

No, I think here you are being a bit ignorant right now.

There is already a good amount of research on the effects of porn on brain health.

And trust me, my former porn sessions were intimate acts of self love, I even used some oil and lit a candle bro! ?

I think people are free to appreciate whatever they find beautiful. I find porn to be very relaxing and heart opening at times. But at the same time busting a load makes me lose focus energy and passion. It’s just a fact, it’s a bad equation for me. 
 

Overall porn is fucking men up in a deep way 


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My porn cravings greatly decreased when I applied sattvic lifestyle a year ago for about a month. It worked wonders for me and there is alot to say about how to bring sattva in one's life, so I'm just gonna tell what I did.

Firstly, I meditated for 2 times a day with the beginner's technique of Ananda Marga. You can find it yourself, but I would summarize it as concentrating on a mantra with an idea of Unity and Love-like vibes. At the moment of applying more sattvic habits I already meditated for 2 months with this technique

Secondly, I almost entirely excluded meat and other tamasic/rajasic food from my diet

And thirdly, I did asanas 2 times a day after my meditation sessions.

Surprisingly, I did quit fapping for 2 weeks then not by my willpower, but just because this craving almost never crossed my mind. I was also feeling a lot more happy and calm during this episode of my life, and now I'm trying to return to these practices again. I would also recommend you to do a research about svadhisthana chakra and see if you have symptoms which occur when it is unstable. If that's the case, you can apply to yoga to stabilize it

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On 6/9/2022 at 1:38 AM, BlessedLion said:

If porn didn’t have detrimental effects of my motivation, happiness, and life, I would fucking love to watch it daily. But I’ve gathered far too much evidence proving that it’s a horrible habit and robbing me of potential and joy

Seems like some ingrained sexual shame and limiting beliefs. Watching naked females should fill you with the energy to conquer. Stop overthinking it and find a great purpose to accomplish in life that would be worthy of naked females allying themselves with you. 

A lot of you guys are inexperienced with game and women. Go out and approach and fuck some/a lot of girls if you want and if you think those "genuine" connections are gonna make you happy. then you'll probably realize you should really stay home and work on creating actual massive value, purpose and skill. 

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On 9/8/2022 at 1:32 AM, D2sage said:

Why does it increase your motivation? Your brain thinks you are reproducing.

Because beautiful things increase my motivation.

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I have a friend who is porn damaged. He thinks that to please a girl he needs to stick his big dick in her vagina as fast as possible as he sees in porno. He's 31 now without a female partner but pornhub.com

Well, he's a fool who misuses porn.

People abuse everything, from food to phones. Doesn't mean I should surrender my food or phone just because some fool doesn't use them properly.

On 9/8/2022 at 4:21 AM, bambi said:

Yeah  and if you were truly concious of the beauty of heroin and meph, you would also cry.

So when are you shooting up crack mr Gurua?

Ah right yeah gotcha lol

Heroin and meth will destroy your life. I've watched 100s of hours of porn and my life is as good as ever.

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On 9/7/2022 at 9:14 AM, Leo Gura said:

I could make an entire course on how to appreciate sex. And it would change your whole life.

But I got better things to do.

Awakening can wait.

Let's started with sex first. :)

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@Leo Gura doesn't porn kinda objectifies women and draw exaggerated unrealistic expectations of how sex should be?

Do you have no ethical issues with porn ?

 


my mind is gone to a better place.  I'm elevated ..going out of space . And I'm gone .

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1 hour ago, Someone here said:

@Leo Gura doesn't porn kinda objectifies women and draw exaggerated unrealistic expectations of how sex should be?

Do you have no ethical issues with porn ?

 

Doesn't movies objectify men and draw exaggerated unrealistic expectations of how strong men should be? Do you have no ethical issues with action movies?

Notice....what is ethical and what is not?


You are a selfless LACK OF APPEARANCE, that CONSTRUCTS AN APPEARANCE. But that appearance can disappear and reappear and we call that change, we call it time, we call it space, we call it distance, we call distinctness, we call it other. But notice...this appearance, is a SELF. A SELF IS A CONSTRUCTION!!! 

So if you want to know the TRUTH OF THE CONSTRUCTION. Just deconstruct the construction!!!! No point in playing these mind games!!! No point in creating needless complexity!!! The truth of what you are is a BLANK!!!! A selfless awareness....then that means there is NO OTHER, and everything you have ever perceived was JUST AN APPEARANCE, A MIRAGE, AN ILLUSION, IMAGINARY. 

Everything that appears....appears out of a lack of appearance/void/no-thing, non-sense (can't be sensed because there is nothing to sense). That is what you are, and what arises...is made of that. So nonexistence, arises/creates existence. And thus everything is solved.

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