Is it good for me to be optimistic about the future of my personal life ?

[Rishabh R]

@Leo Guraand guys. Is it Good for me to be hopeful for the future that I will get a girlfriend in the future?As a 21 year old who has been single from a lot of time ,it is paining me as when I come to know that if a girl has a boyfriend.I become extremely jealous of couples. Although from my side taking action is important to attract a quality girl in my life.

[Ulax]

Imo, it is useful and generally healthy to be hopeful about the future.

I'd advise working on your inner game as well as your outer game. I.e. get your mental health on point, aim for emotional mastery etc.

[Rishabh R]

@Ulax thank you.

[Rishabh R]

Would optimism lead me to become more attractive ?

[Ulax]

@Rishabh R Ye if you're optimistic about life and actions you take then for sure. It comes through in how you act, and would be an honest signal that you have some positive masculine qualities.

[Leo Gura]

Yes, absolutely.

But only if you take action.

[UnbornTao]

Of course.

Not doing that is precisely what depression is about: holding a negative future.

So yeah, focus on a positive future.

For that, creating goals based on what you want helps a lot, I'd say. 

Not only creating goals but consistently going after them.

[Realms of Wonder]

Optimism + Action.

 

You are 21! there are a lot of things to be excited about in your future.