Can a woman ever love a man the way he craves?

[Polymorph]

From my experience with women, it's like the moment I start to get invested in someone and want to start giving all my love to her, she loses interest and ghosts me or friendzones me. But if I play it cool and don't express too much interest, she stays interested.

Except if I can't ever share my love with a woman and I have to be this cold muthafuckuh for her to stay in love with me, I wonder, what's the point in trying to date women and find, "love" if a woman will never love me the way I want, and I have to love myself?

I'm not against self-love, I love it. I love myself more than before, and in the end, I'm all I've got.

It's just weird frustrating, wanting love and intimacy from someone, but expressing that too much causes you to lose it. Yet women fall into relationships with abusive and manipulative men all the time and end up addicted in love with them. To the point where I almost thing most women WANT to be manipulated into being in love with a man. They don't really want to be loved. I don't even really blame players who have multiple baby mommas anymore, and I don't have a lot of respect for women other than what they do as individuals.

I mean I can play these stupid mindgames with women to try and get past her bullshit and seduce her, but I just always feel like that's wretched, stupid, and waste of my time when I could be doing something more productive and virtuous than wasting time, playing games with some girl.

To the point where sometimes in the past, when a girl expressed romantic or sexual attraction to me (usually after hearing me sing or some friend trying to hook me up with someone), I usually get weirdly angry and proud, and I either start ignoring her everytime she's around, or I even start to play mindgames with her.

If I want sex, I'll pay for it. If I want love, I'll find it within myself and within God. So why the fuck would I ever date or marry someone unless I accidentally knock them up?

The only way I can think of loving a woman, is loving her like a pet.

The best way I can describe it, is that I get angry and defensive because it feels like she's trying to distract me from my self-love, my purpose, and from God. She's trying to take my sovereignty from me. The times where I did reciprocate sexual or romantic attraction, it fizzled out.

 

I know I sound clueless and probably a bit broken but fuck it, I want answers.

 

[Tyler Robinson]

Sounds like you still have a lot of inner work to do because you’re attracting the wrong girls.

It's called lust. And such things don't last long. What you call her ‘falling in love’ with you in the beginning is just infatuation.  This is usually the most toxic time when games are played and people are acting based on traumas.  It’s a tiring game to play. Eventually one person wises up and exits the relationship. Or they work through any differences and move to the next level. So you can't escape but it's a learning process as well.

You cannot real love that easily. Genuine Love is rare these days and it’s something that doesn’t happen instantly.  It’s true that you develop and grow love so long as you are both growing together. The beginning stages of love are very shallow, but both people can work past that if they commit to eachother and isn’t one sided. It’s something you build with someone over time,  the beginning 3-6 months of a relationship is usually the hardest time to work past.People give up so easily and don’t make it past the initial hurdles to get into a deeper relationship.  You know it’s genuine love when everything is calm, you don’t have anxiety or feel like you need to be a different person. you know eachother well enough to be comfortable in your own skin. Maybe it happens that you meet someone with whom you can be yourself with from the get go, those are the ones you should keep around if you find a good person like that. No facades. In fact you should make it your mission to become one of those people, then others will want to keep you around.  

 what you want is basically 2 secure individuals who are both comfortable and trusting with eachother.   It just won’t work that way if one person is avoidant and one person is anxious (attachment types)  there will be a constant state of anxiety and discomfort or control.

Look into attachment styles too. 

 

[Polymorph]

@Tyler Robinson I appreciate you taking your time. Thanks for the response! 

[Tyler Robinson]

@Polymorph you are welcome. 

[Raze]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3KYYFJ-g3JE
 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rhWx9lHPjik

 

[puporing]

All that is supposed to help you awaken . And learn what love is.

[universe]

Love is pretty hard to accept for some.

It can put a lot of pressure on them.

There is also the possibiliy that you attract women with commitment phobia, because you also have it.

Edited August 29, 2022 by universe

[puporing]

Most humans aren't capable of love, most are just looking to fill their needs and sense of belonging, with love in disguise (or some very limited version). If humans were capable of love this would be heaven. 

The system we are setting ourselves up in currently is also one such that love is not the focus and survival is. 

Edited August 29, 2022 by puporing

[NoSelfSelf]

My queastion is why would you look for love?

Second you say you love yourself but how can you love yourself when you are making yourself miserable?

She loves the cold ones because they love themselves more than they love her...

My opinion you should look for influence and positive impact not love