Interpreting Our Suppressed Emotions

[Anton Rogachevski]

An unhappy individual will associate his discomfort with irrelevant things, and with a genuine belief they are in fact the source of his pain, but the truth is that a deeper unresolved issue is the underlying cause of that behaviour.

What people say when they are hurt or displeased is rarely about the actual object of the conversation, but rather a general expression of how they feel. Seek between the lines to see why a person says what he says.

The reason for this is that we are rarely taugh to express ourselves genuinely by our parents. So we must learn to do so as we grow up, to have our emotions expressed in an assertive manner, conveying the message we truly intend to convey

So if we try to go into What he says and try to seek a rational solution we will feel confused and even hurt sometimes, because a person in that situation may say things that offend us, and it's easy to get angry and start a fight.

On the other hand if we stop ourselves from getting carried away by emotions, and try to understand his situation instead, we might not say things that will aggravate the pain further.
 

Edited February 12, 2017 by Anton Rogachevski