How expectations form your perception

[Lincisman]

I found some interesting shit here, that struck me as important, look, here: 

"The first step in Jung’s method of treatment, therefore, was not a drug prescription, but a dose of psychological insight – insight regarding what to expect from life and insight into what it takes to change. With respect to the former, Jung noted that many people believe that life should be easy, suffering kept to a minimum, and difficulties avoided. But Jung would be blunt with his patients telling them that life is not easy, and comfort and peace are not our natural state. Or as Jung wrote: 

“In the last resort, it is highly improbable that there could ever be a therapy that got rid of all difficulties. Man needs difficulty; they are necessary for health. What concerns us here is only an excessive amount of them.”  

Carl Jung, Structure and Dynamics of the Psyche

Accepting that difficulties are inevitable and nothing worth achieving comes easy, places us on the firm ground of reality from which to change. For when we accept that life is hard, we will also realize that only through a strengthened character do we have any chance of living a good life. If, on the other hand, we remain caught in the delusion that life should be easy, we will be less motivated to overcome a weak character, as we will falsely hope that if we just give it time life will get easier. 

“Life is a battleground. It always has been, and always will be; and if it were not so, existence would come to an end.” 

Carl Jung, Man and His Symbols

These mental models of how life should be can manifest themselves in a variety of different ways. Imagine if one had an idea that once she finds her passion she should feel the same as watching some standup comedy on Netflix (excitement, climactic moment), this probably will never happen. Hence that person will never find it.

In his book "So good they can't ignore you" Cal Newport criticized the passion mindset for the same reason- unrealistic expectations. 

"The passion hypothesis convinces people that somewhere there’s a magic “right” job waiting for them, and if they find it, they’ll immediately recognize that this is the work they were meant to do. The problem of course is when they fail to find this certainty, bad things follow, such as chronic job-hopping and crippling self-doubt" – Cal Newport.

How do you think one should go about changing these things (the expectations)? 

 

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