Last longer in bed

[Manny]

Any tips for lasting longer in bed?

[Raptorsin7]

Not sure how to solve the issue while actually having sex, but you can focus more time on foreplay so you can both at least have fun for longer.

Give her a massage, eat her out, fingers etc. You can do a lot before hand, and then even if you do cum early at least she's not left with no pleasure.

I believe the root of premature ejaculation is anxiety and inability to truly relax, so anything you do to reduce anxiety and become calmer will help with PE

Edited August 24, 2022 by Raptorsin7

[integral]

keep your eyes closed and think about something else.

[Michael569]

@Manny one of the ways is to spend more time with foreplay and oral sex. The more aroused your partner is, the easier it will be for her to achieve orgasm and the more satisfied you will feel before your own orgasm. 

You can always pull out when you feel the need and spend some time playing with her - that's probably the most effective technique. 

In the end, women don't care as much about ultra-performance as they care about connection, feelings and your love. Cuddle with her afterwards, give her a massage, laugh, fool around. The post-attention will be even more important to her than the sex itself. 

[NoSelfSelf]

There are some gels you put on before sex that makes you last longer havent tried but its worth a try ?‍♂️

[petar8p]

In my experience and opinion it's a far deeper problem than people are ready to realize. 

 

And for deeper I mean it's probably going to be really hard to reverse ages of jerking off to porn and looking at top models to make yourself cum as soon as possible. I find this to be one of the main causes of the problem, combined with high sex drive and confidence.

 

Just like getting good in pickup and trying to enrich and step up your dating game, this problem needs serious approach and threatment.

 

From the physical standpoint, what you can do: Look into kegel exercises and how they play into better control over your orgasms, more powerful ones and perhaps with enough training being able to delay them or experience multiple orgasms just like some women are able to. 

 

You need to reapproach your masturbation style, warming up your genitals first, focus on touching yourself more which you will probably feel weird doing being a man and not trying to do it by looking at porn and just trying to bust a nut, but instead relying on imagination and perhaps NSFW photos or very light, healthy type of pornographic content. 

 

The key is to get very good at knowing your PONR (point of no return) and practicing getting close to it but not too much. Learning to make your masturbation sessions longer and feeling your whole body and genital area more rather than focus to just get to the orgasm. You need to get to know your body. 

 

Diet plays a role as well, as with everything. If you eat more junk food and sugar, you will train yourself for instant-gratification and thus will be much more likely to have that mentality in masturbating or having sex. Not to mention probable effects of having a better functioning body, tissue repairment etc. which is very likely to negatively effect your stamina.

 

Confidence. As much of a physical problem it is, it gotta have something to do with confidence as well. I suggest you start working on this as well, especially by interacting more with females and becoming more comfortable around them to the point where seeing and talking to a sexy women is no longer such a big deal and you're active in your sex life so your baseline of arousal is not making you come within seconds.. 

 

Practicing self-love also adds to this and will make you take things at the proper pace. Talk good to yourself and start praising yourself in doing and accomplishing basic tasks.. 

 

This may not be the answer you're looking for and it might take years of practicing to get to the point where you're satisfied with how long you last. 

 

I'm struggling with it as well, but decided to take it as my responsibility to get over the issue and provide better experience to my future sexual partners.

 

Just as with everything worthwhile pursuing, you need to focus on these basic points and make them part of your life; there is no shortcuts, same as with building muscle, pickup, spirituality, business etc.

 

IMO you don't wanna rely on performance substances or purposely making your sex experience worse by imagining some other things. It's better to be able to fully immerse and experience the woman while having the ability to last longer and have more control over your orgasms.

 

Good luck ?

Edited August 24, 2022 by petar8p

[Federico del pueblo]

11 hours ago, Manny said:

Any tips for lasting longer in bed?

Just squeeze the "snooze" button when the alarm rings and sleep a little bit more. Always works.

[integral]

This is what your looking for. 

[flowboy]

@Manny  It's very simple.

Decide not to cum today.

As long as you have that firm decision, you won't let yourself get past the point of no return.

This does require that your woman slows down when you ask her to.

As long as you don't get past the point of no return, and always are disciplined in slowing down when you need to, you will always be motivated for more.

Which means you can last for hours, half a day, maybe replenishing your minerals in between.

This is the way I do it.

I didn't say easy.

But it is simple, and it should be.

No tricks.

Just that.