Is it up to me to create romantic attraction with women?

[Illusory Self]

So I have been thinking about how my life is playing out and it seems to continuously happen that I sleep with girls such as having ONS etc.... but what is worse is when I am with a women who ideally wants something casual to begin with and then willing to let things develop if things get more serious. I recently saw this women around 4 times but I can only see them around 3-4 times before they cut me out of there life basically saying they don't see anything progression or a romantic spark and bascially don't want to see me anymore. Is it up to me to create a romantic spark? I try to just be myself but being myself is just talking about what I am passionate about and spiritual stuff. It comes down to me questioning is being my self enough or do I have to play a more kind of strategic survival game the first several times I meet her. 

I just hate constantly having to chase women and it annoys me that I get a lot of advice 'just be yourself' but when I do that, nothing good seems to come from it. Of course it can emotionally be challenging when most girls seem to reject me after having sex several times. I think that kind of hurts the most for me. Almost like my personality is not good enough to keep a girl to stay around.

So just be yourself or idk... but I must be doing something wrong to have all these women reject me after sleeping with them multiple times.. I used to feel horrible but kind got to the point where my emotions seem rather numbed down at this point, almost like I half expect it. Maybe I am just not fun to be around, who knows. 

 

Kinda expect a women to complete this kind of void and that's toxic in itself so probs just go MGTOW and work on myself. Feel like I waste so much time chasing women and always end up back at square 1.

Hurts my self esteem dealing with all these rejections 

 

Do I have to behave in a certain way around her in order to stimulate her attraction towards me? Because I get this just be yourself advice around women a lot and it never seems to work.. confusing..

[Federico del pueblo]

Yes!

[flowboy]

22 minutes ago, Illusory Self said:

I try to just be myself but being myself is just talking about what I am passionate about and spiritual stuff.

Are you being vulnerable with her by talking about your deepest fears, shameful secrets and insecurities, as well as your dreams and future that could include her? Are you getting to know her most vulnerable topics as well as her future dreams, and weaving them together with yours?

If not, try that.

[Tyler Robinson]

You'll need to provide her emotional and sexual stimulation.

Men are all about romance. 

Most nerdy guys are unsuccessful in getting a woman because they can't get her turned on. 

I guess this is basic. 

A woman is basically looking for a man who can turn her on but also comes with some wholesomeness in his EQ. 

Being attractive will land you the woman you want. 

Being attractive and being faithful and being emotionally diligent will land you a sturdy relationship. 

Choice is yours. 

 

[meta_male]

On 21.8.2022 at 4:04 PM, Illusory Self said:

I just hate constantly having to chase women and it annoys me that I get a lot of advice 'just be yourself' but when I do that, nothing good seems to come from it.

Why do you have to chase them?

It's not that you're not good enough when being yourself, you probably just lack some skills. But sounds like you're actually doing pretty well besides that ?