Girlfriend won't let me watch porn...

[Danioover9000]

@Adam M

On 07/08/2022 at 7:40 AM, Adam M said:

Hey guys, I wanted your opinion on this...

My girlfriend is a very smart and  spiritually connected girl... she's very stage yellow to be honest and moving into turquoise! 

We are a very good match in most aspects...

Except for that she despises when I watch porn.

She says that she can feel how my sex energy is being put into pictures of virtual women on a screen.

She feels like it's cheating.

We've had plenty of arguments about it...and I've tried quitting but to be honest I kind of don't want to quit.

Keep in mind, it's not like I watch porn every day... I usually do it once or twice in a week.

She doesn't want to have sex w me when I've watched porn in the last few days and then she complains that we don't have enough sex.

And ultimately... she said that she'd break up with me if I don't quit watch porn forever.

Soooooooooooooooo what's your opinion on this matter?

Should I break up w her? 

Should I quit porn forever (even though I don't want to)?

Granted it'll might tough to find another girl like her (even though I do have good game and plenty of options)

I'm so confused...

   Well, you asked for my opinion, so here's my onion in the raw.

   Like in nature, an onion, like all plants, lacks haste and takes time to grow, from seed to dead leaves. So no, your dreaming that your GF's stage yellow, cuz yellow takes time to ripe and grow into, as it recognizes male and female psychology, never mind transitioning to turquoise.

  Good match? Most aspects? Such as?

   If she really was yellow, why she's despised you for fapping to porn? For real, she's too concerned how you tork hoist your joy stick? Or is it the thought of the image of moist slick melons that're way better than hers, that making her jealous? Careful, women can zealously tell you it ain't jealousy, it's all in your lousy head, hear me, excuses all day ear to ear, while smiling ear to ear, hiding Jelly feels ear to ear.

   When she complains about your men's porn, then complains about your sex might, even tries to subtly manipulate and mansplain you, Why?if I were you, I'd explain carefully, plainly in english "My buddy's in pain, needs the exercise and training, and craving fulfilled like I need foods and fluid, straight as an arrow, that's my morning wood down to the bone marrow, that needs a supporting hand baby! Can you please understand a man's need? If you can please, lease me a helping hand, at least two hands can, wash, watch and scratch each other's backs with ease, right? Like, tonight, or right now. I swear I'll treat and tease you real nicely, melt you like butter and cheese Bree.". If she's real spiritual, zero male shadow, understanding, and ain't denying her thirst, she'll let you lead her around like a puppet shadow, shadowing your lightly leading ways this and that way to the sway of your beeping bedroom plays that the pair of you would really be great game players. But hey, if she's none of that, and wants to snatch your thunder away from you, then sorry, bolt her out like Zeus bolts out lightning rods at titans to their doom, then zoom out and explore, once recovered from the gloom, the right GF for you, cuz this world set a time limit for you, and crises that may end you sooner than later and make you as fossilized as your pic shows you.

   So take care man, and be like alligators, at least they know how to attract and date in a cool way, rippling mini waves in their backs, while surviving extinction. And hey, that dialogue and diction is just a literary fiction, don't literally word for word say it, kay? It's an example to convey needed communication, in your own words and lane, kay?

   

[Carl-Richard]

57 minutes ago, Devin said:

No, he said he prefers masturbating over intercourse. Textbook porn addict symptom

No he didn't?

 

52 minutes ago, Devin said:

Sexuality is how you experience and express YOURSELF sexually, porn watching is not sexuality it's deception

Then why are you arguing that porn can replace sex??

[Devin]

1 hour ago, Carl-Richard said:

No he didn't?

yes he did

Sunday 1:23 pm post

1 hour ago, Carl-Richard said:

Then why are you arguing that porn can replace sex??

I'm not arguing that, it can distract you from your sexuality and sex, it definitely doesn't replace it.

Cheating doesn't mean replacing

Edited August 10, 2022 by Devin

[Machine]

Unless you wish to train yourself to be a voyeur and derive pleasure from cuckoldry, I'd suggest you steer clear from porn. Its presence in mainstream culture is used as a weapon to disempower the individual and mocks something that should otherwise be consider sacred and replaces it with a bastardised mockery. It's a mind virus beyond the comedic display of its inherit ridiculousness

[Carl-Richard]

21 minutes ago, Devin said:

yes he did

Sunday 1:23 pm post

He said it's easier than having sex, not that he generally prefers it over sex. It's not like he is thinking during sex "I wish I could just masturbate instead".

 

21 minutes ago, Devin said:

I'm not arguing that, it can distract you from your sexuality and sex, it definitely doesn't replace it.

Cheating doesn't mean replacing

To treat masturbation as distinct from sexuality is ridiculous. I cba with this forum sometimes with how people constantly have to redefine common concepts to make a point. Like, just talk like a normal person 

Porn is not cheating. Porn is not going to steal your boyfriend or make him lose his loyalty to you. Worst case scenario, he will take longer to cum, which is a win-win. If you have more sex, then maybe he'll watch less porn as well. However, if you're going to withhold sex from him because he watches porn and then complain about not having enough sex, then that is your problem.

[Devin]

17 minutes ago, Carl-Richard said:

He said it's easier than having sex, not that he generally prefers it over sex. It's not like he is thinking during sex "I wish I could just masturbate instead".

 

To treat masturbation as distinct from sexuality is ridiculous. I cba with this forum sometimes with how people constantly have to redefine common concepts to make a point. Like, just talk like a normal person 

Porn is not cheating. Porn is not going to steal your boyfriend or make him lose his loyalty to you. Worst case scenario, he will take longer to cum, which is a win-win. If you have more sex, then maybe he'll watch less porn as well. However, if you're going to withhold sex from him because he watches porn and then complain about not having enough sex, then that is your problem.

"As for why don't I just have sex with her?

Well, for one, masturbating alone is a completely different experience than sexual intercourse.

Having sex requires tremendous focus and energy (for the guy mostly) and if I feel very tired... lazy... and just want to cum... it's a lot less pressure and more relaxing for me to just masturbate on my own. 

My girlfriend says that she "feels" when I've masturbated... which is pretty obvious. My energy is slightly less."

 

You're the one redefining cheating

She wants more sex, he wants porn instead of sex.

 

Porn is shit, it has nothing to do with expressing your sexuality it can only help you suppress your sexuality.

[Carl-Richard]

3 minutes ago, Devin said:

She wants more sex, he wants porn instead of sex.

She wants him to stop watching porn because of her psychic whatever feelings and I guess jealousy. She is the one withholding sex. The guy is fine with having more sex. He just doesn't want to give up his porn.

[ajai]

On 7/8/2022 at 0:10 PM, Adam M said:

Should I break up w her? 

If you are asking this to us, boi you lost her already, matter of fact, you love porn more than you love her. C'mon now.

[LSD-Rumi]

If she is stage yellow she should easily be able to understand that as a man you have different needs and are attracted to different things and you have higher levels of sexual energy. Explain to her that porn is healthy and good when consumed in a healthy way.

If she loves she must be able to tolerate somethings that you do and she doesn't like and vice versa. Her telling you that she would break up with you if you don't quit Porn sounds very exaggerated. Explain to her that she should respect the differences between you in thoughts and actions.  If she doesn't like porn she shouldn't make you hate it too. Don't let her gaslight you. This should be a point of discussion between you for other things too, not just porn.

[Devin]

7 hours ago, Carl-Richard said:

She wants him to stop watching porn because of her psychic whatever feelings and I guess jealousy. She is the one withholding sex. The guy is fine with having more sex. He just doesn't want to give up his porn.

"As for why don't I just have sex with her?

Well, for one, masturbating alone is a completely different experience than sexual intercourse.

Having sex requires tremendous focus and energy (for the guy mostly) and if I feel very tired... lazy... and just want to cum... it's a lot less pressure and more relaxing for me to just masturbate on my own. "

 

He says THE reason he doesn't have sex with her is because he wants to masturbate to porn instead, not that she doesn't want to.

Edited August 10, 2022 by Devin

[Devin]

@Adam M

When you take a break from porn does she ever turn you down when you want sex?

You say you prefer masturbating because it's easier, have you tried letting her do the work in those instances? Women like quickies part of the time too, they love getting their guy off

Edited August 10, 2022 by Devin

[Dean Raymond]

@Gesundheit2 Great comparison, never thought about it like that

[Carl-Richard]

3 hours ago, Devin said:

He says THE reason he doesn't have sex with her is because he wants to masturbate to porn instead, not that she doesn't want to.

He is saying he wants both. He doesn't just want to have sex.

[gettoefl]

watching porn in a relationship is giving a certain percent of your resources to an internet sex worker

it is akin to polygamy - yes i enjoy my steak at home yet i will eat fast food outdoors whenever i please

be honest about who you are and if they are annoyed at you draining your resources this way, be the man and pack your bags

porn represents stunted development so find someone more on your level

[integral]

17 minutes ago, gettoefl said:

it is akin to polygamy

To you, that's your perspectives if you where doing it. To him and 99.99% of males porn is like watching tv. 

[gettoefl]

8 minutes ago, integral said:

To you, that's your perspectives if you where doing it. To him and 99.99% of males porn is like watching tv. 

you are engaging other females if only virtually ... go heal your trauma and wounds and then get involved with someone on your level ... an evolved person doesn't desire that in their life, they despise it ... besides you don't need to do what the 99% are doing

[zurew]

@gettoefl Whats inherently wrong with watching porn, if you engage with it in a healthy way, and you are not addicted to it?

[Devin]

1 hour ago, Carl-Richard said:

He is saying he want both. He doesn't just want to have sex.

Yeah. I think my bias is that I think porn is sh!t and that it keeps you from going deeper into your sexuality than just the surface. I think it takes away from your partner in that way, which is what I think she is getting at, you can't go deeper with your partner, your sex will suck, porn's fake it lies to you about sex, if he TRIES quitting porn and going deeper with her he will see porn was holding him and their relationship back and he'll be disgusted by porn for it.

Trying this would be good for the relationship, you should be able to help each other grow in healthy ways, she isn't telling him to quit she's telling him she will leave if he doesn't, expressing a boundary, not manipulation; healthy. It doesn't just effect him it effects their sex life. Like saying if you keep getting drunk I'm leaving.

You could try to figure something out with keeping porn too, sure, I'm being biased for sure. The girl I'm with likes porn and I don't have a problem with it, so I don't think I'm too biased though.

Edited August 10, 2022 by Devin

[gettoefl]

15 minutes ago, zurew said:

@gettoefl Whats inherently wrong with watching porn, if you engage with it in a healthy way, and you are not addicted to it?

your partner is allowed to choose a non porn dynamic

besides porn is a life drainer, takes away your vital life force leaving your depleted and dysfunctional at dealing with real people

[Carl-Richard]

11 minutes ago, KH2 said:

Personally, when I just ignore both my pleasure AND my emotions, AND on top of that do what needs to be done, I ironically end up feeling better in the longterm anyway.

"Don't go to the toilet. It's such a waste. Real men retain their shit."