Video Embodiment Journal How To Practice Love

[Razard86]

This will be my journal that will chronicle how I choose to embody this video in my life. I'm glad to have had people in my life who I have given space to be honest, and also sometimes angered which triggered their honesty and so there is an awareness of some deficits I have. My main issue or struggle is listening to another's perspective and learning it completely. I have a very know it all energy, which even though I don't know it all I can come across as if I think I do which rubs people the wrong way. It also makes me sensitive when someone attempts to teach me when I do not believe I need "correction" or a "lesson." Its interesting because what I have learned about life is karma is real, its also the same as the law of attraction. What you put out you will receive. Since I like to teach, correct, or provide a lesson I will draw those to me who will do the same. Your life will give you what you give to others, so be careful what you give because you will receive it back. Its like cooking spoiled chicken and it giving it to someone and getting mad when it finds it way back to you. 

Anyway the video I am choosing to embody to integrate into my life is this one.

A person in the comment section Jenny Gao listed the many points in Leo's video. I was doing my own list until I saw there list and basically got lazy and was like "They probably have all the points he made." So I admit I am going on blind faith (I was an hour in of recording his examples with an hour to go left) but I am sure they got the gist of it. So here is their list.

List of how to love. (As written down by Jenny Gao (Youtube Comment Section)

Giving it attention and awareness - Being in physical proximity, physical contact - Connection (physical, emotional, intellectual, spiritual, etc)

– Taking good care of it, helping to meet its needs, sheltering it from excessive trauma, fear and or suffering

- Taking its agenda as your own, making its agenda and it an extension of you - Treating others as well as you would like to treat yourself

- Be happy when it succeeds - Wanting for it what it wants for its own, even when it may be very different from your own

- Sacrificing for it on its behalf, and work on their behalf

- Supporting, nurturing, and encouraging what is in alignment with their self-expression, self-exploration, and self-actualization; being a cheerleader

- Respecting its sovereignty, not holding yourself as better or more dominant - Total acceptance of it as it is, absence of judgment

- Valuing the thing for its own sake, not for what you need

- Appreciate them as they are

- Seeing its intrinsic, infinite beauty

- Not needing anything from this other

- Respecting their point of view, wanting to understand their point of view

- Listening and caring about their interests, sharing common interests

- Sense of togetherness and company, collaboration

- Being there when the other feels down, hopeless, at their lowest

- Helping the other to not feel lonely

- Validating its feelings, empathizing (“How are you feeling?”)

- Sharing emotions - Caring about its suffering for its own sake

- Meeting the other where they are at

- Understanding and forgiveness, not demonizing and moralizing them

- Being patient

- Seeing the god and the good in them even when they don’t

- Recognition of its uniqueness

- Generosity and kindness

- Verbal approval and praise, compliments

- Keeping your promises

- Maintaining peace

- Telling the truth

- Safety and trust

- Seeing the other’s realness as it is

- Appreciating the finite portion of consciousness as it really is, out of the infinite consciousness - Fully accepting, and not be disturbed by its selfishness, and not wanting to change it Love = Selflessness

Okay so the parts I put in bold are the parts I fall short, could improve upon. The parts I have in ITALICS I have nailed down. So this shows my main weakness when it comes to relating to people is Emotional Empathy. This is actually normal for most Men as we are trained to repress ignore emotions. Now I am not terrible at this, but I am not exactly stellar at this either. Most of the time I am aware when I am doing it and I try to justify it to myself when I know better.

I've constantly been promoting this book I read on the forums because it actually teaches techniques on how to be more empathetic emotionally but doing it in a logical way, basically with techniques!! This book is important because socially we are moving more towards an empathy/emotional based model in the society when it comes to leadership. You are already seeing it in sports when it comes to who gets to keep Coaching jobs such as in the NBA. So I am going to pick a technique from the book I am referencing called "Never Split The Difference." https://www.amazon.com/dp/B018FHCPDO/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1 Its called Tactical Empathy which is basically a marriage of the Masculine Tactical, with the Feminine Empathy. What could be better than this? 

This video gives a nice summary of the book. One flaw in the video I noticed though at the 4:38 minute mark where he stated the woman could say "I didn't say that..." don't do that lol. The statement I did not say that, or I did not do that, are statements that communicate that you believe the person you are speaking to you is dishonest or not listening which will cause conflict. I know the person who made the video was well meaning but every action you take needs to generate connection not break it. 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OaEw7ZFs5sU&t=542s&ab_channel=SuccessfulByDesign

So the first technique I will practice is the summary. You get to the summary by listening to what the person says and labeling their premise but using the phrase "It seems like ......" This shows you are paying attention and are trying to grasp the gist of what they are saying. Once you are able to repeat back to the person what they are saying (basically the spirit or essence of what they are trying to communicate) then you will get a phrase such as "That's right, You got it, Exactly!" 

At this point NOW you can communicate your perspective. When you do so, don't accuse the person of trying to do something to harm you. Merely discuss how you are seeing it. You can even bring in what is called an accusations audit with the phrase "I know I must seem arrogant and irrational here but here is how I am seeing it." This lets the person know you are in tune with how they are perceiving things.

Anyway this will be a struggle because it goes against all my conditioned patterns, wish me luck!! If you find this of benefit check the book out and their Youtube Channel as well!

https://www.youtube.com/c/Blackswanltd1

 

Edited July 29, 2022 by Razard86

[Razard86]

4 hours ago, AMTO said:

Could you say a bit more about karma & law of attraction, please. I struggle with these, since time is illusory, aren’t they just stories? Because ultimately, of you ponder it, what else could they be?  
 

Also, along these lines, are you familiar with the work of Neville Goddard? Because of all the LOA types, I’ve found him to be the most profound & closest to God. 

Watch this video of Neville Goddard and notice everything he says in the video lines up with what Leo says. Its interesting and yes you have a discerning eye to notice that Neville is the best at explaining the truth. 

Watch this Neville video. 

 Now watch this video by Leo.

https://www.actualized.org/insights/dpt-the-other-god-molecule

Notice the similarities....

Now you wanted to understand the Law of Attraction, the Law of Attraction is the same as Karma. The Law of Attraction basically says you attract what you are. It is the same as the concept that reality is just a mirror.  Here is an example of the Mirror concept. https://www.mind-your-reality.com/everyone-is-your-mirror.html

Because everything is one, we are all interconnected. We are all just figments of God's imagination in the mind of God. As such what happens to you, happens to all. When you are sad, I am sad, and vice versa. The reason you feel disconnected is because your awareness is asleep, for God to create finitude God has to imagine finitude. Imagination is a dream. So the dream we are in is LAYERS of dreams. For you to stop being finite and being separate you have to awaken from the dream of finitude. God created pathways for itself to awaken from the dream and the path to God is a journey of surrender, and ultimately ego annihilation. 

But first to explain Karma. Karma is Memory, Karma is also Action. From Memory you perform action. Without Karma you have no identity but identity is separation and is a lie. All Memory or Karma is what you have gathered. You were told you were a human, you were given a name, you were given a language, and your Character (ego) started talking to you (what we call thought) and based on the beliefs you were given you started narrating your life. You called yourself a self, and everyone was other, you gave them descriptions, there are heroes, villains, there are triumphs, and failures, this is the world you live in, the world you created. Without your memory you cannot be the character, but as a result you become trapped.

All desire to transcend and become more is just your desire to be free from the character and become boundless, limitless, to become God. Eventually in one of your life times you will have an insatiable desire for the truth of reality, of existence and you won't know why. Its because you have grown tired of being bound by your Karma and desire to transcend it. You transcend Karma through observation, through observation you discover that your memory is NOT YOU. So then you ponder, if every label and identity I have is not me....then WHAT IS ME? This starts the process which eventually produces enlightenment. Eventually you become Jesus/Buddha, God in the flesh and you walk around enjoying your creation as you have finally achieved the ultimate level and reached Heaven. 

Law of Attraction= What you put out returns to you. Karma= What you put out returns to you. Reality is a Mirror= What you see is a reflection of what you are.  These are all the same concepts just looked at slightly differently. The key between all three is to release all attachments, and imagine what you want to create. Be the creator in the flesh. 

Edited July 30, 2022 by Razard86

[Razard86]

9 hours ago, AMTO said:

@Razard86 I love this, thank you ? 

It makes sense & made me picture it in this capacity…

“As above, so below, as within, so without, as the universe, so the soul”  

Hermes Trismegistus 

Yes, I also have another analogy....think of life as a trip, just a slower version. I believe trips are a form of training, I don't believe trips are just for contemplation, but also a way to see how your thoughts/emotions, and beliefs influence your reality. The same reason you get bad trips is the same reason things go wrong in your life. If you can hone in on what causes bad trips and how to transcend that then you will have no problems in the waking dream. We have been trained to see events, and people places and things as separate from us, but we like to admit that the "trips" are us. Look at your life as the same way you look at trips and it will all start to make more sense. I have only had one trip but this revelation came to me months ago and every single things has started to make more sense.

If you want life to be easier you need to stay in a positive mindset at all times, the more we can stay in this mindset the easier life will become. Your life is just mind training, that is all it is nothing more nothing less.

[Razard86]

2 hours ago, AMTO said:

@Razard86 I’ve had similar thoughts. One good straight forward practice, is to simply try your best to think lovingly, toward yourself & others, and watch as the little miracles happen (fingers crossed lol) ?

 

Yes something that I failed to do today lol. I let some people get under my skin today. I'll dust my self off and try anew tomorrow. I literally violated every bold part today. So funny, but it is all my fault and responsibility to do better. I'll do better tomorrow. I need to practice not getting karmically involved with the character (ego) games.

[Razard86]

41 minutes ago, AMTO said:

@Razard86 It takes time to really get going. Months or years perhaps, depending on what your life’s like. 

Well I've been doing it majority of my life its why majority of the stuff at the top I do. The bold parts are my weaknesses, the last aspects I need to purify to reach the state I need to be in. Basically I need to kill my pride/arrogance, kill it by loving it to death lol. I'll get there, with enough work shouldn't take more than a year or two. The belief it takes years is a myth. As long as you are honest and diligent you can overcome it. My stubbornness is probably the biggest issue (my resistance to change) because the truth is....I love myself the way I am and don't want to change but I believe it needs to happen if I want to produce the results I desire in interpersonal relationships.

The parts of my shadow I need to integrate

The sadist/bully

The perfectionist

Being Insensitive

disorganization

laziness

pride

judgmental

[Razard86]

I noticed today of the importance of staying in an aware state and being accountable in that moment. I realize that even with my awareness I give in to base desires at times. I also am struggling to understand when to deploy masculine love and when to deploy feminine love. 

[Razard86]

 

On 7/29/2022 at 5:44 AM, Razard86 said:

- Respecting its sovereignty, not holding yourself as better or more dominant - Total acceptance of it as it is, absence of judgment

- Respecting their point of view, wanting to understand their point of view

- Listening and caring about their interests, sharing common interests

- Validating its feelings, empathizing (“How are you feeling?”)

- Sharing emotions - Caring about its suffering for its own sake

- Meeting the other where they are at

- Fully accepting, and not be disturbed by its selfishness, and not wanting to change it 

These are the things I need to focus on.