A shift in my game mindset

[Hugo Oliveira]

Hey guys! 

I suspected many times that my conscious/unconscious thinking about approaching was very messy, so I decided to contemplate that and find some clarity. I created two lists: one with healthy mindsets and another with toxic ones that I want to let go of. And decided to share it with you. Feel free to copy mine or elaborate your own list. 

List 1 (my top positive reasons to approach)

1. To honor and celebrate beauty: the beauty of woman, romance, and adventure. These are all beautiful things that I think are worthy. I want and decided to value. 

2. Sexual pleasure: being very honest and shameless about it here. 

3. Fun, friendship, and connection: I have a lot to give and experience beyond just sex. Women too. 

4. Abundance: if you are able to do basic "game", while you do it, you can always have potential connections and relationships.

5. Learning and self-knowledge: "game" can be a tool to evolve and get a better understanding of women, life, and yourself. 

6. Refusing mediocrity: not settling for a life of neediness and loneliness. 

7. Rebelling against "social norms" and mainstream mentality: which makes us distant and unimportant for each other, leading many people to loneliness, and sickness.

8. Rebelling against mainstream behavior and mentality about attraction: relying on myself and my values, cutting out the BS about status, social media, appearances, and futilities as means to connect. 


List 2 (my top toxic reasons to approach)

1. Believing in obligation: I don't have any obligation or debit with anyone nor any idea. I'm free to do and think whatever I want. 

2. Wanting to compensate: I don't need to prove anything to anybody nor to myself. I'm free to be whatever I am. 

3. Needless: I don't want to approach women to alleviate my neediness or lust. These are feelings that can occur but will pass. 

4. Seeking a sense of worthiness: my happiness and sense of worthiness don't need to be based on how much sex or relationships I have. This is a choice, I choose to take it and put in other things. 

5. Wanting to use or take advantage of women: that's a trap. I want to respect others' feelings as I respect my own. I got what I give. 

 

That's it! I felt happy for elaborating these lists for myself as a guidance system and I would be happy also if any of you guys find any value in it.