How do you talk about yourself

[Illusory Self]

I try to close girls on dates but a majority decline, simply because I don't build rapport with the girl. As an introvert I hate talking about myself. I despise it so much. A majority of the date is me just asking questions to the girl and her doing a lot of the talking. Whenever she asks me questions, I am there thinking 'how do I keep this going'. 

This creates huge problems with buiding a deep connection with a girl, hence why most of my dates fail and girls don't particularly want to see me again. It is like an inner obstacle of hating to talk about yourself. 

I get initial attraction from women but I hugely struggle with this rapport bit so just wondering if there is any practical advice that I can implement which will make my mind enjoy talking about myself. Kinda feels very rooted in the subconscious mind.

[King Merk]

What’s so wrong with talking about yourself?

[gettoefl]

i would suggest first 2 or 3 dates nothing of substance takes place

just speak random crazy funny spontaneous stuff

doesn't even have to be true ... i mean in my case my memory is like a sieve so i have nothing stored there

all you are trying to do is read the energy of each other

be yourself but not the silly role you play day to day, the child like innocent impish self

that's precisely what i expect from her too, heavy stuff need not apply 

example: so tell me, what do you do

i do like a million things to be honest and that's just in the last month

i joined this really far out pottery class last tuesday and do you know what the teacher told us?

yadda yadda

don't say what do you do then instead say what's something you enjoy doing if you have a free weekend

Edited July 9, 2022 by gettoefl