How is she feeling about me ?

[Jannes]

So I would like to know how a female friend feels about me. 
My strategy for getting girls right know is a bit of a mix of social circle and cold approach. I study philosophy and I try to make sure that I always have a female friend on my side for status. So at the beginning of the semester I approached a girl and got her number. I made it casually about college. So we went to seminars together and I quickly found out that she had a boyfriend so she wasn’t a dating option but at least I had a girl on my side. So at the beginning there were really good vibes between us but then came a pretty sudden change in her behaviour towards me. The vibes were kinda gone and she was even pretty harsh towards me sometimes pointing out negative things about me. I always acted really confident and there were two girls who were often looking and probably talking about us. One of them is a friend of a friend of mine. I was a lot less social a year ago and maybe that surprised her and she found the situation interesting. But for my female friend it maybe could have looked like I had something with these girls so maybe she was scared to look like my next sex object. But that’s speculation. 
Anyways there is girl that is sitting next to us in our seminar and she seems interested in me. 
I texted my female friend if she knows what her name is. She told me the name and asked why. I told her that I am looking for a gf. That was her response: „Uhm, I don’t think she is interested, but okay ?.“ My female friend doesn’t really know her. They talked once in private I think so maybe she knows more but I think she doesn’t like that I am looking for other girls. But I am not completely sure. Oh and my response was: „Yes I think so, in the worst case scenario I just show her my Pokémon card collection.“ (to keep it light and humorous) 

What do you think?  I need some grounding.

Edited July 8, 2022 by Jannes

[Yarco]

Your female friend is being possessive of you and could try to sabotage your attempts. Don't go through her.

Just make up some BS excuse to approach the girl you like and get her number, the same way you did with your female friend.

Or better yet, just be forward and tell you her interested and would like to go grab coffee sometime. That way you don't risk wasting weeks and then getting friendzoned. Rip the bandaid off and face the change that you might get bad news right away instead. As long as you aren't creepy about it, it'll be fine.

(There's a minor chance your friend has some inside knowledge on why the other girl isn't interested, maybe she knows she has a bf or that she's gay. But still worth asking for yourself.)

Edited July 7, 2022 by Yarco

[Jannes]

8 minutes ago, Yarco said:

Your female friend is being possessive of you and could try to sabotage your attempts. Don't go through her.

Just make up some BS excuse to approach the girl you like and get her number, the same way you did with your female friend.

Or better yet, just be forward and tell you her interested and would like to go grab coffee sometime. That way you don't risk wasting weeks and then getting friendzoned. Rip the bandaid off and face the change that you might get bad news right away instead. As long as you aren't creepy about it, it'll be fine.

Okay we will both write a house work in this seminar so there is plenty of reason to exchange numbers for inspiration, etc. I can probably only talk to her in the seminar and asking her that directly in there would probably not be cool. 

8 minutes ago, Yarco said:

(There's a minor chance your friend has some inside knowledge on why the other girl isn't interested, maybe she knows she has a bf or that she's gay. But still worth asking for yourself.)

My female friend wasn’t even sure if the was she gave me was correct. So they are almost strangers to each other. And if she had that insights she would probably tell me them right ? I mean if she doesn’t want me to approach other girls she would tell me all the reasons why I shouldn’t and if she wanted the best for me she would also tell me everything she knew. So in every case I feel like she would tell me… 

[flowboy]

11 hours ago, Jannes said:

That was her response: „Uhm, I don’t think she is interested, but okay ?.“

She's jealous and quite negative and toxic in how she expresses that.

Tell her that she obviously can't handle being friends with you, since she's being so negative and unsupportive of you dating, and either she break up with her boyfriend and go on a date with you this week (assuming you're still interested in that), or that you can't be friends with someone being that unsupportive and negative.

Basically date her or ditch her. Find a real female friend.

[Jannes]

@flowboy alright thanks!

Next week is the last week before semester break so I will just see her once more and that will be it.