Erectile Dysfunction

[Dany Balan]

I am 22 years old and for about 6 months when I want to have sex with my girlfriend almost every time my dick wont get hard no matter what,it only gets semi hard if I or my GF masturbate my dick with the hand,but without hand stimulation my dick wont get up.What is wrong with me? I never drink,never used drugs,I work out daily,I checked my testosterone it is 704 ng/mol,i don't have diabetes,i cant seem to understand why it is happening to me... I also have to mention that i almost never have morning wood.I take zinc,d3,and vitamin C but still nothing,when i watch porn my dick does not get hard at all,the only way my dick gets up is if i stimulate it with my hand,but as soon as i stop stimulating it goes down.What can i do to fix my issue? I am desperate for help,and i dont want to use viagra or any other pills.

[Dany Balan]

I also never smoke and i am in perfect shape and i almost never watch porn,i only watch it to see if i can get an erection  while watching but still no erection,i want to have sex all the time but my dick just wont get hard unless i use my hand and when having sex with my GF if we get it hard i almost imidiately ejaculate sometimes even before i get to penetrate

[TurquoiseAngel]

Have you asked a doctor? 

[Dany Balan]

@TurquoiseAngel yes and the doctor told me upon physical examination that I am perfectly healthy!But something is wrong that i can not get hard while seeing sexual images or with a partener.

[TurquoiseAngel]

14 minutes ago, Dany Balan said:

@TurquoiseAngel yes and the doctor told me upon physical examination that I am perfectly healthy!But something is wrong that i can not get hard while seeing sexual images or with a partener.

Has this always been the case or is it a new experience?

Also was it a general doctor or a specialist?

[Someone here]

@Dany Balan just take three pills of Cialis.

it should work .

[Dany Balan]

@TurquoiseAngel A general Doctor.

[Dany Balan]

@JoeVolcano when i was like 19 when i first had sex to a girl my dick instantly got rock hard just after we took our clothes off,now unless my GF puts her hand and strokes my dick,my dick wont get hard no matter what. Another issue is that i never have morning wood and porn does not get me hard .I was never a porn addict. What could i do to restore my sexual ability?

[Leo Gura]

Check your cholesterol. It plays an important factor.

You might also want to consider diet changes and exercise.

Experiment with Cialis/Viagra to see if it at least offers temporary help. It should.

You can also try Maca and Horny Goat Weed supplements.

[Inliytened1]

@Dany Balan investigate if it's psychological or biological.  A lot of times if you are anxious about getting hard or thinking about it too much you won't get hard.   If its is purely physical then viagra might help but you seem young for it to be physical.  

[Eph75]

@Dany Balan

I second @Inliytened1's comment.

If you get stuck in your head about this, it will escalate.

Even if it's psychological e.g. Cialis can help in the sense that it let's you get out of your head and build new confidence, as you can rely on performing, and thus break an unfavorable thought spiral. 

Also, how are you doing generally, psychologically, depression, stress, a lot on your mind or other things going on?

Is there something that you should address separately that might mess with your general mental state? 

[Dany Balan]

@Inliytened1 @Eph75 @Leo GuraAs you can see in the photo i am in good shape,i work out reguraly i never eat fastfood i live in the country side and i never smoke,do drugs,or alcohool.But i never get morning wood!When i was 19 I was walking all day with my dick hard but now unless i stroke it with my hand it wont go up at all,seeing porn or naked women once made me hard as a rock but now it has no effect i simply will not get erect unless i stimulate my dick with my hand.Once the pandemic started i got in a rut,i stayed all day at home i never socialized and i got very severe anxiety and depression.And one day when i finnaly got a girlfriend i embarassed myself that my dick was not getting hard.And ever since this happened 6 months ago when we have sex my dick just does not work.And even if i manage somehow to get it semi hard i instantly cum.I dont want to take any pills but this is becoming hell for me.How can i solve this? I tried working out harder,I cut sugar entirely for a month,i started meditating,i did no masturbation for a few weeks,(which seemed to make matters even worse)I checked my testosterone it is 704 which is nowere near low,but i do have problems concentrating,i feel depressed most of the day.How could i reverse this? I just wanna have a family with this girl but this issue is destroying me

[Eph75]

@Dany Balan

Re-read my post please. None of that is about addressing physical health, it's about mental health.

Anxiety and depression will have the effects you mention, and you have a plausible explanation when and why it happened.

Addressing your depression and anxiety is what you need. 

Meanwhile (!) get a prescription for Cialis which will help you with the wood, even if you take a fraction of a pill. 

Not needing to deal with anxiety around sex is one step towards creating positive movement in working out your depression. Gives you a bit more space to breath. 

Work this from multiple angles. 

It's great that you have psychical workout routines and eat healthy.

That's a good foundation!

Now tend to your mind.

Would you consider exploring together with a therapist? 

 

 

[Dany Balan]

@Eph75 Should I explore with a therapist like a psychologist or with an urologist?

So bassically what i should do is forget for a bit about my dick issues and start addressing the root of my depresion which is that i have 22 years old and i feel like i am behind everyone my age in terms of finnances and success in general.Also i should focus more on meditating and more socializing because i am introverted as hell.

[Eph75]

A urologist looks at this from a psychical perspective. 

Therapy, a therapist/psychologist looks at the implications your mind and way of seeing/thinking about things affect you, psysically. 

15 minutes ago, Dany Balan said:

So bassically what i should do is forget for a bit about my dick issues and start addressing the root of my depresion which is that i have 22 years old and i feel like i am behind everyone my age in terms of finnances and success in general.

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Look at this as your "dick issues" being your mind/body calling out to you that something else is not right. And that you should take action. 

If so, it's not about your dick, it's about something else, and focusing on your dick just makes your dick an ever bigger problem that adds more anxiety. 

Pills helps removing focus from the "dick symptom" so that you can focus on the heart of the matter. 

15 minutes ago, Dany Balan said:

Also i should focus more on meditating and more socializing because i am introverted as hell.

That would be yet another angle to work on this.

You already know the path you need to walk.

That's 4 possible angles to action, that combined will amplify the process. 

- Address the erection problems with medication. Depression is a valid reason to get a prescription. It also eases strain on your relationship which is a huge part of your support system. 

- Therapy helps working out the root causes of your depression. 

- Meditating works as an amplifier in itself. Like a blanket of calmness in the process. Increasing focus and calmness of mind. 

- Socializing more, to meet belonging needs, and to challenge the introverted side of self, that *may* be what you need. 

Edited July 3, 2022 by Eph75

[Salvijus]

@Dany Balan u don't experience hornyness also? ? maybe that's a good thing. Some spend decades of meditation to transcend lust ? 

[Dany Balan]

@Salvijus I do want to have sex all the time but my dick wont get up when i think about sex or seeing porn or with my GF.

[Leo Gura]

1 hour ago, Dany Balan said:

@Salvijus I do want to have sex all the time but my dick wont get up when i think about sex or seeing porn or with my GF.

That's very strange. Work with a doctor. And experiment with jerking off in such a way where you train yourself up not to cum too fast.

Try Cialis just to test if it fixes the issue. This will give you valuable insight into the cause. Of Cialis doesn't work for you then it's likely some kind of mental not physiological block.

There's nothing wrong with popping a Cialis. It works amazing.

[Ulax]

I'd look into psychotherapy. ED is not uncommon with depression, to my knowledge.

Perhaps, consulting with a psychosexual therapist could be a good idea too. 

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