No point in being alive if you aren't hot?

[Razard86]

17 hours ago, Blackhawk said:

So why should I be alive if I'm aren't hot?

My gf would try to accept that I'm not hot, and only like my personality, just because she fails to get "the whole package" (someone who is hot both inside and out).

So I would just be a half-assed thing for her because she can't get anything better.

Why would I be content with half-assed stuff? Can someone explain this to me? Why shouldn't I just kill myself?

My logic says that I should kill myself.

But fear of death and survival instinct will lead to various stuff like wishful thinking and denial of truth, which will prevent me from killing myself.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e0edbmq7XQY

This says different.

[Blackhawk]

Even if my personality would be loved by a girl.. why would I be content with her loving only my personality? I want her to love my physical body too.

13 hours ago, Eph75 said:

The book is Mindset by Carol Dweck, and it's also available on as audiobook if you don't care for reading.

See it as an investment in yourself, and try to approach it with an open mind. 

Thanks. I will read it.

Edited July 3, 2022 by Blackhawk

[Raze]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3KYYFJ-g3JE

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V3miuaOWsj8

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VLH7yUwkBPg

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QbxinUJcLGg

Watch At 57 min https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k6et8_aLLG0

 

Edited July 4, 2022 by Raze

[r0ckyreed]

On 7/2/2022 at 6:16 PM, Blackhawk said:

So why should I be alive if I'm aren't hot?

Being “hot” I assume you are referring to physical body is a facet society/culture has brainwashed upon you as a form of psychic control. All genders struggle with this notion of being “hot.”

Heres the reality. It doesn’t matter how your physical body looks in terms of what society thinks. We are all gonna grow old (if we are lucky) and die. Even the hottest people in the world will become the “ugliest.” Everyone will be the same dust in the end. Hot is an illusion.

Strive to be mentally hot not body hot because at the end of the day, the quality of your mind is what you have control over. Both your body and mind will decay with time, but the point is to develop yourself and live up to your best. At the end of the day, everyone has insecurities and just realize that you aren’t alone in that. Notice how everyone has insecurities. It is quite normal actually. 

Edited July 4, 2022 by r0ckyreed

[Razard86]

2 hours ago, r0ckyreed said:

Being “hot” I assume you are referring to physical body is a facet society/culture has brainwashed upon you as a form of psychic control. All genders struggle with this notion of being “hot.”

Heres the reality. It doesn’t matter how your physical body looks in terms of what society thinks. We are all gonna grow old (if we are lucky) and die. Even the hottest people in the world will become the “ugliest.” Everyone will be the same dust in the end. Hot is an illusion.

Strive to be mentally hot not body hot because at the end of the day, the quality of your mind is what you have control over. Both your body and mind will decay with time, but the point is to develop yourself and live up to your best. At the end of the day, everyone has insecurities and just realize that you aren’t alone in that. Notice how everyone has insecurities. It is quite normal actually. 

Shoot yeah its normal that we were conditioned to have them. Its cool over time with enough forgiveness we can heal away our insecurities. It will take work though, its not going to heal itself.