Dear Leo, the “small dick” joke DOESNT WORK!!

[Ampresus]

Please don’t take this post too seriously.

Yesterday I partied drunk for the first time and had the time of my life. I finally get what people mean when they say they are more social when drunk. I understand that for pick-up relying on being drunk is not a good strategy, but I feel like this experience showed me how social I can truly be if I gave 0 f*cks. I talked and danced with so many girls and even guys. I made like 3 guy-friends at that club alone. I have been struggling a lot with socializing and loneliness and this experience has given me hope that I don’t need to be scared and alone forever. 
 

With that out of the way, the “small dick” joke did make some girls burst out in laughter. Though there were also plenty who were simply like “you know that is not a good pick up line right?” which confused me at the time. I wasn’t even trying to hit on them at that point, I just had way too much fun calling my own dick small. Are there any other counter intuitive things to say like this? I feel like they are a lot of fun. 
 

Going out at clubs is a bit difficult though I won’t lie. Girls decide in 2 seconds whether they will dance with you or not. Regardless, I complimented a lot of men and women and they all seemed to enjoy that. Made me feel great too. If anyone has a bit more experience with clubs please feel free to share some advice. I will go out tonight again and I will call my dick small again!

[Breakingthewall]

The same thing happened to me but with mdma. I discovered that all the barriers disappeared, I danced with everyone, I kissed girls and then I didn't even remember who they were, I went to the house of people I didn't know, everything was a party, love, openness. for one day, two, three, liberation! but... little by little, after 1 or 2 years, things changed face. all that love, all that connection, was artificial. it tasted fake. it was...too much. Suddenly, it was disgusting to me. all those people, mentally retarded hedonists (me first). I don't want to take mdma again even if I get paid. But was useful in that time to break some barriers with the people 

Edited June 27, 2022 by Breakingthewall

[Federico del pueblo]

3 hours ago, Ampresus said:

With that out of the way, the “small dick” joke did make some girls burst out in laughter. Though there were also plenty who were simply like “you know that is not a good pick up line right?” which confused me at the time. I wasn’t even trying to hit on them at that point, I just had way too much fun calling my own dick small.

This is not really a line with the purpose of picking a girl up. It's just pure self amusement. Letting go, having fun, being care free.

These boring, stifled girls who gave you this "you know this is not a good pick up line" shouldn't concern you at all. It was basically a shit test.

"Pick up line? You'll first have to buy me some flowers before you get pick up lines from me. I'm not that easy :)" (said in a fun way, not a salty/butthurt way).

[Leo Gura]

Any verbals work when said from the right place, in the right context. It's not meant to be a pickup line. You should not be approaching girls and telling them you got a small dick. That's just creepy as fuck.

You should only say it rarely, when it fits the situation and when it would be funny. Otherwise you will come off as trying too hard.

Be careful with sexual jokes. They require skill to pull off. If you do it wrong you will creep girls out and instantly blow yourself out. Use them very sparingly and with taste. Don't turn them into a routine.

For newbies my advice: don't talk about sexual stuff AT ALL. Stay classy.

[Leo Gura]

3 hours ago, Ampresus said:

I feel like this experience showed me how social I can truly be if I gave 0 f*cks.

Good. What you discovered is called STATE. State is the key to game. But now you need to learn how to enter state without drinking. It is more challenging but it can be learned. That's where the magic happens. Build up your state each night until you give 0 fucks. Then you will hook lots of girls, and the hottest girls.

You are basically learning how to enter extroversion, where you are completely out of your head. Extroverts can turn on state instantly. Introverts require lots of training.

[hoodrow trillson]

OP, you would be a juggernaut if you kept the sexual stuff on the back burner.  If you're just as fun but without the sexual stuff, you will go very far.  

PS:  alcohol as fun as it is, will lose it's 'potency' and you will become reliant on it to be a 0-inhibited version of yourself.  You can reach this 'state' if you meditate diligently daily and question yourself and your beliefs.  But alcohol IS fun, so go out and enjoy it for a while.  Just please be aware of your consumption of it because things could go very south quicker than you think and you could become addicted.  Do not become an alcoholic!!! 

[somegirl]

4 hours ago, Ampresus said:

Yesterday I partied drunk for the first time and had the time of my life. I finally get what people mean when they say they are more social when drunk. I understand that for pick-up relying on being drunk is not a good strategy, but I feel like this experience showed me how social I can truly be if I gave 0 f*cks. I talked and danced with so many girls and even guys. I made like 3 guy-friends at that club alone. I have been struggling a lot with socializing and loneliness and this experience has given me hope that I don’t need to be scared and alone forever. 

Welcome passenger, you must be new here.

Joking aside, this is why people drink. To reach that state. It's amazing. Like, I don't drink like I used to, but when I do, I don't drink because of the taste (I don't like it) but because I want it to get me somewhere lol.

I am yet to find out how to reach that amazing carefree state when not  drinking. I'm professional overthinker when sober.

Edited June 27, 2022 by somegirl

[somegirl]

1 hour ago, Leo Gura said:

You are basically learning how to enter extroversion, where you are completely out of your head. Extroverts can turn on state instantly. Introverts require lots of training.

What are some practical things one can do to be in that state most of the time? 

[spiritual memes]

1 hour ago, Leo Gura said:

Good. What you discovered is called STATE. State is the key to game. But now you need to learn how to enter state without drinking. It is more challenging but it can be learned. That's where the magic happens. Build up your state each night until you give 0 fucks. Then you will hook lots of girls, and the hottest girls.

You are basically learning how to enter extroversion, where you are completely out of your head. Extroverts can turn on state instantly. Introverts require lots of training.

How do you do this? I've found that the more I try to turn on state and get out of my head, the more anxious and in my head I get

[Karmadhi]

1 hour ago, Leo Gura said:

Good. What you discovered is called STATE. State is the key to game. But now you need to learn how to enter state without drinking. It is more challenging but it can be learned. That's where the magic happens. Build up your state each night until you give 0 fucks. Then you will hook lots of girls, and the hottest girls.

Can you enter state with daygame too? 

[aurum]

@Ampresus

Good stuff brotha.

That level of social freedom while sober is possible. At some point I’d consider removing the alcohol training wheels.

The key is you want to view socializing like swimming. If you stop socializing (swimming) for too long, you start to sink and drown in your own thoughts. So stay in flow and JUST KEEP TALKING.

Once you get better at this, you can afford gaps in talking that are a little longer. But if you’re new, the more your mouth is moving, the better.

This is a bit of a catch-22. Cause if you’re introverted, the whole problem is that it’s hard to keep talking. So warm up to it. The more you do it, the easier it becomes.

5 hours ago, Ampresus said:

With that out of the way, the “small dick” joke did make some girls burst out in laughter. Though there were also plenty who were simply like “you know that is not a good pick up line right?” which confused me at the time. I wasn’t even trying to hit on them at that point, I just had way too much fun calling my own dick small. Are there any other counter intuitive things to say like this? I feel like they are a lot of fun. 

Sounds like you were having fun, but you’ve got to work on your calibration and staying in your frame.

When the girls said “you know that’s not a good pickup line?”, that was them flipping the frame on you.

The point is not to debate with them about it. It’s to stay secure and not get reactive. Which is difficult to describe with words. You really need to experience it.

Edited June 27, 2022 by aurum

[Leo Gura]

3 hours ago, somegirl said:

What are some practical things one can do to be in that state most of the time? 

I don't think an introvert can be in that state most of the time.

3 hours ago, spiritual memes said:

How do you do this? I've found that the more I try to turn on state and get out of my head, the more anxious and in my head I get

1) I completely turn off my mind. No thinking. No planning.

2) I consciously make myself very relaxed in my body and comfortable. Very present.

3) I force myself to approach lots of people and talk a lot.

4) Having fun friends around you helps A LOT. And then I talk shit with them.

5) Getting a few bad rejections helps build state by showing rejection doesn't matter.

6) I go to the dance floor and dance and enjoy the music.

7) Build momentum throughout the night by constantly approaching and talking.

8) DMT

3 hours ago, Karmadhi said:

Can you enter state with daygame too? 

It's much harder because you won't have enough interactions and there is no music, no friends, etc.

But during the day I find that state is much less important/needed. Just be chill and friendly and not anxious.

If you go out a lot for night game, you can easily carry some of that momentum/state over into day game from the previous night out. This is usually what I did.

Day game is actually a lot easier than night game because if the girl stops, you have her complete attention and you don't need to be some high-energy dancing monkey. You can just have a nice long calm conversation. You can't really have those kind of conversations in loud busy clubs. State is more important for loud, intimidating clubs where everyone but you is drinking and dancing with large groups of friends.

[Pav]

3 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

8) DMT

How do you use DMT for socialising?

[spiritual memes]

12 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

8) DMT

bruh

[Karmadhi]

15 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

It's much harder because you won't have enough interactions and there is no music, no friends, etc.

But during the day I find that state is much less important/needed. Just be chill and friendly and not anxious.

If you go out a lot for night game, you can easily carry some of that momentum/state over into day game from the previous night out. This is usually what I did.

Day game is actually a lot easier than night game because if the girl stops, you have her complete attention and you don't need to be some high-energy dancing monkey. You can just have a nice long calm conversation. You can't really have those kind of conversations in loud busy clubs. State is more important for loud, intimidating clubs where everyone but you is drinking and dancing with large groups of friends.

I understand, thank you. I recently met a guy in my city that did exlcusively daygame and he was INSANELY good (24 year old around 2000 approaches in 1.5 years). He really opened my eyes to whats possible and the best part he was bit shorter than me (around 5 6). Really interesting experience. 

Why dont you do more daygame? I have recently been doing some nightgame but i find that it is so against my personality and strenghts that it seems like i can do better during the day. Are girls during the day in Vegas really that much worse looks wise  than during the night? I feel like you would do really good in daygame given your personality strenghts.

Edited June 28, 2022 by Karmadhi

[kamwalker]

23 hours ago, Breakingthewall said:

The same thing happened to me but with mdma. I discovered that all the barriers disappeared, I danced with everyone, I kissed girls and then I didn't even remember who they were, I went to the house of people I didn't know, everything was a party, love, openness. for one day, two, three, liberation! but... little by little, after 1 or 2 years, things changed face. all that love, all that connection, was artificial. it tasted fake. it was...too much. Suddenly, it was disgusting to me. all those people, mentally retarded hedonists (me first). I don't want to take mdma again even if I get paid. But was useful in that time to break some barriers with the people 

MDMA at a strip club was wild. I had multiple girls all over me shoving their tits in my face, trying to make out and even fuck (it's a much different experience when you go with ppl who roll deep and hook you up). But I couldn't have been less interested. It was just all so artificial. I felt amazing with the MDMA alone and the girls were just a distraction tbh. 

[Jannes]

@Ampresus

I think the small dick joke is SO genius and counter intuitive that it MUST work. So at some point I would have tried it myself and would have been pretty disappointed probably so thanks for your share ?

[Leo Gura]

2 hours ago, Jannes said:

@Ampresus

I think the small dick joke is SO genius and counter intuitive that it MUST work. So at some point I would have tried it myself and would have been pretty disappointed probably so thanks for your share ?

It's even funnier when it's not a joke

[LSD-Rumi]

Guys someone tell us this joke pls. I thought it is a taboo for a guy to mention small dick in any context ? 

[Ampresus]

On 28-6-2022 at 4:47 AM, Leo Gura said:

8) DMT

God I wish they had DMT in Crete lmao