Interview with an Ex-transgender (male to female) and Ex-drug Addict

[jimwell]

Here's a very good and honest interview with a former male-to-female transgender who was "analized" or raped when he was a kid by his own father. Jake was also a drug addict and had a brother who had drugs and alcohol addictions which caused his early death.  

It's a very informative interview. I resonate with him because I was extremely mentally-emotionally (verbal and physical) abused by my own father my entire childhood (except during my first 5 years of existence) and teenage years, and was raped by my own grandfather when I was a 4. I was also an alcohol and cigarette addict for 13 years. I tried meth and marijuana many times during my teenage years but was not addicted to them.

At the near end of the video, he says he can't find love, understanding, and forgiveness. It's because healing is a very long process which usually takes a decade or more if he even succeeds. If not, he'll live being deeply traumatized or hateful, or both his entire life and will die in a similar way (which is very tragic). Many end up murdering themselves. But he is on the correct path; quitting doing drugs, directly facing his childhood trauma, and acknowledging the deep pain and anger embedded in his soul.

He also asks "Why would anybody want to do it to his own kid?"
His father raped him for 2 reasons: to satisfy his father's pedophilic, homosexual desire; and to inflict pain and trauma to little Jake as his father's way of exacting vengeance for the pain and trauma inflicted on his father when his father was a kid (whether it involved sexual abuse or not). That lessened his father's own trauma and enabled him to be more functional.

In the sense I explained, God is crazy.

[Aaron p]

The government really needs to do a better job with sex education in mainstream education. But yo what about all this stuff that there's noticeably increased mental disorders with people who were LGBTQ+

[jimwell]

On 6/25/2022 at 11:05 PM, Aaron p said:

But yo what about all this stuff that there's noticeably increased mental disorders with people who were LGBTQ+

Is this the case?

How does it happen when the LGBTQ+ community is accepted more than ever? In the past, they were shunned or even murdered for coming out.

[bejapuskas]

It is not just the past bro, it still happens.

[jimwell]

1 minute ago, bejapuskas said:

It is not just the past bro, it still happens.

But isn't it better now than in the past? 

[bejapuskas]

Depends on how you look at it. You now, in the US for example, now they banned the abortions... it also affects trans people a lot and makes it worse for them than in the past. Trans guys and nonbinary people who can become pregnant get a lot of sexual hate crimes like rape, way more than cisgender people statistically. And that can sometimes lead to unwanted pregnancy that also affects them in the way of dysphoria, because pregnancy is like a female thing culturally right, and as a guy you dont want to be feminine in most cases like that. So it is really worse now than it was. Dont overlook issues or minimize tragic things by saying things are getting better. 

[Aaron p]

@jimwell

On 26/06/2022 at 10:32 PM, jimwell said:

Is this the case?

How does it happen when the LGBTQ+ community is accepted more than ever? In the past, they were shunned or even murdered for coming out.

https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/statistics/mental-health-statistics-lgbtiq-people

 

It's pretty well documented that people who suffer with mental disorder and psychological illness tend to move towards LGBTQ+ area.

I personally feel like they put the horse before the cart with a lot of these articles though because after they identify the fact that people with mental illness are more likely to be LGBTQ+, they add on [what, to me, looks very assumptive] explanations such a "LGBTQ+ people are statistically more likely to have developed mental illness because of their oppression." And this is probably true to a degree, but cultural science in this day and age doesn't seem very inquisitive about the true causes and what comes first...mental illness or LGBTQ+ tendancies.

 

100 years ago they were seen as perverts...and it just seems like we draw the line wherever we want. What about incest? I mean love is love. And the age of consent...it's 12 in some countries I'm pretty sure. We here recognise that just because society says something that becomes widely accepted as truth...that means very little concerning what truth actually is. I've no doubt homosexuality and transgenderism has some natural truths to them...but there's a shittone they aren't teaching us about how it's connected in some ways to certain kinds of perversion, drug abuse and mental health disorders. This is also not a popular thing to say so let me just reaffirm that I'm not homophobic or anything and I completely disagree with oppression of any kind on LGBTQ peeps. 

Edited June 27, 2022 by Aaron p

[bejapuskas]

@Aaron p  Isn't it kind of obvious what comes first? Imagine you are a trans guy who dresses like a guy, but still menstruates. You get kicked out of female bathroom, because you look like a creep going there, so you go to the male bathroom. Suddenly you realize you are bleeding, but there is no bin there, because society assumes people who to those bathrooms don't need to change their pads. Now you are stuck in some place you fear you do not rightfully belong to with dirty ass pants. Do you think it is so easy to be mentally healthy, if society forces you into situations like this every day by building everything around some assumptions and dualities? Actually, it is really stupid to think that LGBTQIA+ people are perverted. If you are not homophobic or transphobic or whatever, think about what you say instead of saying it and then justifying yourself. 

Also maybe straight people are perverted too, but because they are too weak to admit certain truths about themselves, they just scapegoat the gays. I think queer people are people with extraordinary commitment to finding the truth about who they are, something this forum should be about. 

About incest, I mean there are so many instances in which is definitely is not right, like when the age difference is too much for the younger person to be able to determine whether they want something. But I guess the biggest point of divide here is when it comes to kids, because the kids that come from incest are basically doomed to have some sort of disabilities. But then, how are they different from other people with disabilities, are their disabilities different? Is for example having a child with your sibling and knowing it is going to have a disability when it is born any different from having it with a stranger and then knowing it after the doctor tells you and still delivering it? That's what I sometimes think about.